Made out with shy co-worker. She told me she's liked me for a while. Now she's avoiding me?

dolo1333 · 2022-08-06T19:28:39+00:00

Don’t think about it to much. She’s most likely trying to rationalize what happened. I would personally just go on with my life , she’ll text you soon enough

cobraCL · 2022-08-06T20:49:26+00:00

She's definitely not disinterested, maybe a bit flustered and very anxious. 😉 For some people, developing feelings and being vulnerable is pretty scary! Exponentially so because she hasn't been in a relationship before. She has no clue what she's doing or what she's feeling, so those "cold feet" are trying to pull her back to the harbour of safety.

Cold feet or not, she wants you.

You overcome this by showing her consistency. Be warm and encouraging and inviting towards her, and she will sail to the stability you provide. When she comes back to you, take initiative and lead your interactions going forward. 😊

Good luck.

sleepstages · 2022-08-06T19:51:52+00:00

She is shy. She likes you, but has no idea how to act around you now. You'll have to really take the lead.

Foreign_Medium_3766 · 2022-08-06T19:13:17+00:00

Don't over think, leads to mistakes

sincere_blasphemy · 2022-08-06T21:26:52+00:00

She definitely sounds interested, she's probably going through something in private or dealing with some anxiety related to the situation. I would ask her if she'd like to go out again and ask if everything is alright with her (nicely).

Ultimately, you cannot force her to go out or be with you. But You can show that you are here for her and like her a lot, hopefully she comes to you.

Superb-End6273 · 2022-08-06T23:37:08+00:00

First of all, it is work so I hope you know what your doing. Second, your a man right? Don't sit around contemplating on what she might be feeling or why she might be acting this way from afar go up to her and ask her directly. You need to value yourself... save your time, your attention, and your mind space.

abandonliberty · 2022-08-07T04:03:17+00:00

She's worried you'll fuck up her work life. Don't.

deep2021 · 2022-08-06T21:24:49+00:00

Work on that she trust you more. Text her, sometimes it takes time. May be very confident intimidate her. Also make her know but not directly that whatever happens will stay between you and no one will know in the office. I hope you didn't tell anyone in the office

l337joejoe · 2022-08-07T05:31:41+00:00

She's shy, bro. Just go be sweet to her.

throwaway927012 · 2022-08-07T06:07:08+00:00

reddit user discovers shyness

dump_fool · 2022-08-06T19:33:16+00:00

For context, she's only kissed two guys in her life before me and never had a boyfriend.

Yeah sure!

You should reassure her "I know we are coworkers, i guarantee you no matter what happens i will treat you professionally and respectful at work, and i expect the same thing." or something among the line.

Ok-Hope-8521 · 2022-08-06T19:47:29+00:00

There’s no way she could be that into you and suddenly lose interest in such a short amount of time so she probably just got cold feet. If I were you, I would pull her to the side after work and asks what’s going on. If shes very vague with her response, tell her to link up with you for a cup of coffee to clear whatever tension there is. Keyword “TELL”

Liprubber · 2022-08-07T01:03:16+00:00

Call her out on her mixed signals and tell her you will be at xyz place and she is welcome to join you. If she bails cut all contact.

Party_Gas_5343 · 2022-08-07T01:56:00+00:00

You gotta be proactive, make a move

zisehuar · 2022-08-07T02:36:57+00:00

Your hike idea is great. Stay on it, it sounds like you're a good man. She likely has experienced things in the past (trauma; like many of us) that cause her behavior. Just give her time and stay patient, she will need a lot of it to establish trust.

spacemangoes · 2022-08-07T05:18:12+00:00

Either you are a bad kisser or she’s not that into you. Don’t confront!! Give her some time time and space and let her come to you. Meanwhile, move on with your life and just smile when you see her at work. Ps. This is why we don’t shit where we eat.

ImAGhostOooooooo · 2022-08-07T05:43:38+00:00

There's always a chance the kiss was bad and now she's not interested 😬

r1bb1tTheFrog · 2022-08-07T20:45:24+00:00

Why was this removed. Seemed totally benign.

Title	Made out with shy co-worker. She told me she's liked me for a while. Now she's avoiding me?
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Upvotes	61
Comments	25
Date	August 6, 2022 7:03 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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