This is why I think cold approaching is just waste of time.

ChoiceTank · 2022-08-02T15:22:00+00:00

Bruh gtfo you talk about Women like they're some kind of mythical creatures

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-08-02T14:52:38+00:00

In other words: "I suck at cold approaching"

TherealPadrae · 2022-08-02T14:48:45+00:00

The most successful men don’t meet women from approaching they meet them from having huge social circles that connect with groups of women…

Popular_Ad3953 · 2022-08-02T15:45:17+00:00

bro the amount of garbage that came out of your mind while writing this post is actually crazy

"what do we know about women? They are social creatures"

that's what happens when you mistify women, i think you especially need to get the hundreds of approaches done and it will greatly help you

Aychaq · 2022-08-02T16:55:27+00:00

Man, how many guys do you think usually approach women (or even would have the courage to approach)? In my country of origin there are like none. My friends called me crazy when I went and I've approached like 5 random girls in the first day there and got like 3 dates and 2 rejections (And the rejections were totally my fault).

I sometimes even go there, talk with them and don't even ask for their number. That's because before I was doing it just to get rid of my social anxiety without minding the results. A girl told me once: "Sry, I really have to go, do you want my number or what?"

It's something that works because it's something not everyone does. They for sure get a lot more attention online now, but not as much in person, anymore. Before cold approching was for sure more popular. Now the majority of guys just stalk them on instagram.

And just stop thinking of women as these perfect creatures, man. Women are lonely too. Women need connection and intimacy and affection too. Men and women need that. There are a lot of women that suck at social interactions. Women can be shy, can have social anxiety, can be stupid, can be unfun, boring.

And for sure not all women think highly of themselves. There are more suicide attempts and self esteem problems between women than men.

I once approached a girl whose best friend just died of cancer 3 days back. She told me that after the first few seconds of conversation and then told me:"I don't even know why I told you that, to a stranger". We joked about it. And then I gave her my attention and we talked about our problems, lol. In the last 4 years she lost almost everyone. But I tried understanding her. And she felt better. And then we even went to a date and stuff. And played with pop corn. It's about that. About connection and giving a new experience and adding to the life of another human being as she adds to yours. And laugh about problems.

You don't even have to fking pay anything for her. I never pay. It just implies I have to give her something more than my attention and presence in exchange of hers. And it builds an imbalance of power. Putting women on pedestals is the biggest mistake. Women want to feel safe and to feel human and have fun.

Stop making excuses and being so negative. If you want to be forever alone, no one will ever try changing that. It all depends on you. Only you can change your life, yourself, your mentality, etc.

Go to psychologist to see where the problem is. It will help with your game. But it all depends on yourself, anyway.

I have a long way to go, too. It's just the begining. I was fking suicidal.

So good luck. You are not right in what you're saying.

Mmm91for · 2022-08-02T15:49:15+00:00

That’s what life is about for a man. Adversity. We’re not women we don’t get it given to us we gotta work for it.

Off2damoon · 2022-08-02T18:49:54+00:00

First, this post should be in r/incels.

The problem with your theory is that it's not grounded in any facts but rather your limited, and seemingly skewed, sense of reality based on your personal experiences. Not having had success is not an indicator that success is unachievable.

I have first-hand (and by first-hand I mean myself in set) seen women turn from dead fish / blasay / indifferent personalities, to lighting up like a Christmas tree from the same guy off a cold approach. I have also seen dead numbers come back to life and turn into sex. In fact, I just wrote a field report post you can check out for a recent experience with detailed breakdown where a completely indifferent woman who paid no attention to me was undressed on the sofa with me a few hours later.

Women want to be taken for a ride. They ultimately decide if they are enjoying the ride you're offering them however it is your responsibility as the man to facilitate the journey. They will not do it for you except under extreme cases. Will there be a lot of rejections? Yes of course. But there will also be acceptance that you wouldn't believe possible had you not taken action. You mostly need to condition yourself to be a man without excuses, who says yes to adventure and who understands that women operate differently than you do. That when you see a hot woman and you're instantly aware that she's your type, a woman does not think this way.. Rather she needs to get to experience you first to make that decision which is why cold approaching is necessary so that you may offer her that opportunity.

The sheer volume of opportunities you're missing by not understanding and capitalizing on this point will leave you on a death-bed of regret that can not be understated.

JF803 · 2022-08-02T15:40:40+00:00

If you don’t want to then don’t? It’s not a big deal. Keep your negativity to yourself, if you suck that’s on you but this post helps nobody with anything

Aychaq · 2022-08-02T14:51:12+00:00

Sounds like you are just looking for excuses as to why you are unable to get up, get outside and talk to women.

grindforthegold · 2022-08-02T17:51:33+00:00

except i’ve pulled from cold approach lmao and i’m 5’4 what’s your excuse

Aychaq · 2022-08-02T19:08:43+00:00

You, my sir, are intellectualising. This is a bad habit.

carlos1973633826 · 2022-08-02T15:57:52+00:00

Nah bruh. I love spreading women legs too much to stop doing cold approach.

If your with a girl and you don’t feel like she’s treating you right, just move on. There is more then one pussy in this planet. That’s why you cold approached to meet more women. Lol your blaming the solution as the problem…..

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-02T16:07:37+00:00

What a strange way to admit you can’t get laid and are a virgin.

Jdollarthegreat · 2022-08-02T15:34:33+00:00

The key is to build yourself up to be what women desire. Then this wouldn't even be an issue because this is just another form of chasing. If you approach the woman like this you are giving her the power because it's up to her to talk to you or not, up to her to give you her number or not, etc. But if you absolutely must cold approach then you must do so with confidence and dominate the situation. The man is the leader and must remain so in all situations.

P7o7s7t7a7l · 2022-08-02T16:19:03+00:00

It's not a waste of time if that's all there is and warm approach isn't available or happening. A cold room scenario.

Warm approach is more effective and more efficient. Cold approach is a crap shoot but not completely pointless. Sometimes you have to make it happen for yourself, and the universe is not always in your favor.

On that note: Some women are frauds and fakes. It would be short sighted to overlook the fact that some people, men included, are con artists. Know that trickery and deception exists on both sides, so keep each other informed and safe.

I wouldn't say that unless it was actually happening to me. I think it's okay to be skeptical, too.

DontCallMeTopher · 2022-08-02T17:48:01+00:00

Loser mindset. You need to fix that bro. My buddy called me 2 nights ago telling me about an amazing night with a girl he met because he saw her looking at him and he struck up a casual conversation. What some here might find crazy is that while he’s not short by any means, he is under 6 feet tall

Title	This is why I think cold approaching is just waste of time.
Author	Aychaq
Upvotes	0
Comments	31
Date	August 2, 2022 2:42 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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