Went on first date, says we should just be friends

nicolai_1998 · 2022-06-14T09:59:52+00:00

You are in the friend zone. Expecting something more will just cause pain and frustration on your behalf. Accept her as a friend (with a possible new social circle), or move on. Also, why was there no sexual chemistry? Did you do enough flirting? Was there any physical contact?

rhofire · 2022-06-14T11:20:41+00:00

spent over 5 hours together.

Why? Why did you do that?

We got along super well & had a lot to talk about, but there wasn't really sexual chemistry.

No. You're not confident in your sexual attractiveness and so you suppressed your desire. Every time you thought of making a move, you held back.

Or should I give up and focus on being friends (do I really have no shot)?

The reason why you're struggling is the very fact that you're asking this question. You know what you want. You're not getting what you want. Why are you still in that spot?

Tell her you're not interested in being friends. Tell to let you know if she ever wants to make something happen. Nice to meet you, bye.

On to the next one.

MasterTeacher123 · 2022-06-14T11:18:49+00:00

You dip and move on to the next chick.

When a girl says that, in 99% of cases it’s just a nice way to say beat it lol.

MissionAd399 · 2022-06-14T10:19:38+00:00

Don’t be friends with her if you’re attracted to her. You’ll just be another orbiter hoping she gives you a chance one day. You have things in common with your homies and that should be enough. I’d say only do it if there’s benefits like having her company to attract other women but if you’re just gonna go on friend dates while continuing to pay for everything thats not a friend.

666nwah · 2022-06-14T16:39:43+00:00

You being attracted to her is a given and likely doesn't need to be mentioned. I'm gonna give you some advice - if she wants to be friends, then be her friend. You friend zone her, not the other way around. Look at this as a disappointing turn but the good thing is you can now have a cute female friend who might have other cute female friends. Now you can ask her for advice regarding women instead of us.

Honest_Inevitable632 · 2022-06-14T09:56:05+00:00

I hate to say this but you perhaps did not meet her attractiveness threshold. She already said she just see you as a friend so leave it as is.

If I were you, if you genuinely like her company as a friend, hang out as a friend with zero expectations.

You might as well channel that attention to someone who is equally into you.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-06-14T10:34:11+00:00

Men be like:

“Man, i wish i could understand her hints so i know what she wants”,

women literally tells you she only wants friendship, and you be like:

“oh well, i don’t give a fuck what she wants i still want to have sex”

Girl literally rejects you, and you’ll be like: “She’s been leading me on!!”

The problem comes from this value of “never giving up” which is just an excuse men use to harass women who say no.

poly_nerdy_panda · 2022-06-14T14:26:13+00:00

Women Rarely know what they want, I say go be friends with her and show her other women want you.. flirt in front of her.

I had women who wanted to be just friends make the move on me and even some said those girls are making her jealous and want to come back to her place.. I hooked up with my fair share of women who friend-zoned me but mostly because I'm to sexual and women take me as the "fuck boy type".

The big take away always be fucken sexual like your talking to your guy friends (your momma jokes, that's what she said jokes) don't be afraid to put her in her place for bad behavior like overdrinking or causing drama for no reason. If she looks uncomfortable talking to some loser guy at the bar don't be afraid to act as her bf.

Lastly, always offer to pick her up and drop her off, It doesn't mean she's going to fuck you and you shouldn't if she's drunk but it is your life (the whole me-too thing, and I personally hate drunk sex).. Also NEVER drink more than 2 drinks it's just going to make you sloppy

If she ends up with another guy who wants to take her home so be it. Tell her next time to help you find girls at the bar, club, venue

EthicalSeduction · 2022-06-14T10:48:58+00:00

Manage your expectations and stick by what you say. If you agree to just be friends and hang out, then you need to do this and not escalate. If you can’t, then you need to tell her you can’t (in which case she will manage you and you won’t see her again.) But the point is that you don’t want to lead people on or trick them and it’s important to do what you say. And hey, if she I really cool, include her as one of your friends. And that can lead to more connections with other cool people as well.

amazingbrotherpopoff · 2022-06-14T16:34:44+00:00

nothing wrong with making friends, sounds like you both thought you’d be better as friends so just lean into it.

having female friends is great! you’ll get more comfortable with women, learn more about them and also make new friends lol it’s totally fine to have a friend you think is attractive and not do anything about it

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-14T23:15:14+00:00

If you’re physically attracted to her then DO NOT hang out with her as “ friends”.

spiderSlayerr · 2022-06-14T23:58:46+00:00

5 hours tf y’all doing for that long

PatientAssociation62 · 2022-06-15T00:07:34+00:00

No. Never accept the "let's just be friends" bit unless your interest in her is truly platonic. Simply say "thanks, but I'm not interested in being just friends". Don't get mad or butthurt, just move on. Think like a high value man. Would a high value alpha give any thought to a woman who isn't giving him what he wants or reciprocating his interest?

Title	Went on first date, says we should just be friends
Author	floraltattoos
Upvotes	1
Comments	32
Date	June 14, 2022 9:48 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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