So I went to 2 bars (for the first time)

Janemba_Corvalis · 2022-05-01T17:27:07+00:00

go to more than 2 bars

norwegiandoggo · 2022-05-01T16:54:57+00:00

Try nightclubs with dance floors instead

babyarmnate · 2022-05-01T19:59:53+00:00

Go to bars with your friends with no intention of getting laid. Have fun with your friends. Order drinks, get food, laugh, joke around. This will naturally attract women to you, I promise.

AceCoE · 2022-05-01T19:49:56+00:00

The only strategy I have is: approach one member of the group (guy or girl) in a friendly way and, as quickly as possible, start talking to the other members of the group. If you only focus on one, they're gonna eventually feel like talking to you is a chore and want to return attention to their friends. Usually I use situational stuff to spark conversation.

From there, you can ask about the group members and figure if the guys are boyfriends or not. I like to spend a few minutes engaging multiple people in the group before focusing on the chick, otherwise my intentions are obvious. When I feel like the group is warm to me, I'll start talking to the girl I want. You'd be surprised how alot of guy friends will calmly back down when they get that short intro to know you're cool. As opposed to feeling up on a girl on the dance floor and then her friends barreling in to cock block.

In my experience, this is harder to pull off in nightclubs than bars or other social venues (nightclubs just do weird things to people's psyche).

L0n3W01f_ · 2022-05-01T18:52:22+00:00

It’s a numbers game, keep increasing your volume, for example the more bars you go to the more chances you have meeting women

DoctorForesight · 2022-05-01T20:22:43+00:00

Probably try different bars or go on a different night. One bar that was usually full of couples had a lot of women there with female friends when I went to Sunday night karaoke.

Also, clubs. Try learning to dance from YouTube videos and practicing at home.

HorusCok · 2022-05-01T21:13:56+00:00

It sounds like you went to date places. not where singles go. Choose netter.

Alushi99 · 2022-05-01T20:05:17+00:00

I am so sick of these fucking things telling people to not say stuff they don’t agree with.

In a comment before you said an above average man settles for any woman he can get like stfu. That’s lack of having balls and going after what you want. Since you’re preaching to other people on how to get better in other comments but on this one it seems you don’t know what the fuck you’re doing.

God I hate this sub sometimes

MK2718 · 2022-05-01T19:19:39+00:00

How to Approach a Girl in a Group

manageo01 · 2022-05-01T20:37:06+00:00

To be honest, going with a friend makes it better. Also, don’t make it obvious you’re at a bar to get laid. Impression matters!

ryukohomaru · 2022-05-01T21:15:17+00:00

Try to go to one when there something that actually interest you. Like there’s a game going on, UFC fight, or turtle racing. That way you feel more secure and don’t feel out of place.

HorusCok · 2022-05-01T21:34:11+00:00

If you're 22 in a small town. you already know all the single people and who they're dating.

Go a couple of towns over.

Title	So I went to 2 bars (for the first time)
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Date	May 1, 2022 4:33 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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