I have been invited to a threesome and I don't know what to do

lanraebloom · 2022-04-04T01:43:46+00:00

OP is 16....

Concupiscent_writer · 2022-04-03T20:54:21+00:00

Go with the flow. Be honest and tell them you haven't got experience in that, but you're eager to try it.

blackclarkent53 · 2022-04-03T21:09:30+00:00

Just make sure you discuss boundaries before hand then have fun with whatever you’re comfortable with.

Mean-Spirit-1437 · 2022-04-03T21:31:22+00:00

I turned down a threesome once and ever since have been regretting it. I’m M so the chance of running into that situation again is probably even slimmer haha

I’d say go for it! You’ll be happy to make this experience no matter the outcome

Iam_nanette_manoir · 2022-04-03T22:30:12+00:00

Threesomes with past feelings can bring up a lot of drama... So really make sure it's what you want!

If you still want to go through with it, establish boundaries (what can you do to or with the M and the F. Is the F bi curious or just wants to watch. What's the appeal for everyone to have a threesome. How should you stay in touch post threesome. Are you going home right after or staying the night). It's also important to respect their relationship, so don't go around being sketch. For me personally, I only stay in touch with the F of the couple, I find that it causes less drama and it's more fun for everyone.

Don't be afraid to say when you're nervous. Communicate if or when you're uncomfortable. If something doesn't feel good, just say no or redirect to what does :) Most of all, relax and have fun

bunnycat666 · 2022-04-04T01:36:06+00:00

Unless you're really bi and are into that boy and girl and you get the funky feelings then do it.

Otherwise is not worth it. You're a woman you will get invited to 3somes every day of the week. I say it due to experience. If you aren't getting anything back from it just don't do it. Be assertive and know what you want and what your limits are.

willgo-waggins · 2022-04-04T01:04:26+00:00

If you are comfortable with everyone and everything and keep in mind the fact that you ARE NOT GETTING HIM only being invited to be a part of their thing, then I would go forward with it.

Be honest ear with them and make them understand that you are inexperienced and haven’t done this before. Make sure that everyone’s true and real feelings or lack thereof are known and acknowledged and be sure that none of that is any issue for anyone BEFORE you commit and set a date.

The. When it comes time just relax, go with the flow and let things happen in a natural manner.

MrMacDoctor · 2022-04-03T21:04:52+00:00

Imagine it like it's two people.

Person 1: you Person 2: them

Don't stress over it, you are the prize they both want to share. Whatever you do will be enough. Be comfortable in your skin, nobody has control over you unless you want them to.

Think of dirty things you wanna do to them. And go for it.

Live-Ad-6309 · 2022-04-03T21:48:26+00:00

Sounds like a bad idea. Old feeling tend to come back hard in bed. This quite frankly is a recipe for disaster.

Any-Advertising-1410 · 2022-04-03T20:53:55+00:00

Do it. Life is short. Try everything at least twice!

Sea-Volume-4746 · 2022-04-03T21:10:34+00:00

Join? What do you mean you don’t know what to do lmao.

Professional_Arm3745 · 2022-04-03T22:23:24+00:00

I have done a number of them. Kind of strange at first not what to do, but you will figure it out. My best one was with a mother and daughter.

Old-Gregg91 · 2022-04-03T21:09:51+00:00

Do it! Experience everything you can, you’ll know what you’ll like, and dislike!

recyclablebanthas · 2022-04-04T04:17:14+00:00

1

I had caught feelings for a guy I study with ( I'll refer to him as lucky ). The issue was he had an girlfriend...

I accidently ran into his girlfriend.... we just instantly clicked If I am being honest we are very alike in personality and we have been hanging out everyday since and I feel like we are beginning to build a very good friendship.

..... she got onto the topic off that they wanted a threesome and she gets to pick who and she very obviously was making it clear it was me

I would tread very cautiously here. Mostly because you've expressed that you have had feelings for this guy before. Theresomes are all fun and games if it's casually done between friends. The moment feelings enter the picture, things get complicated.

And let's be real, if he hasn't changed as a person, it's likely that the potential for you to develop those feelings again is very real if you get entangled with them. If the feelings ever really went away.

It only complicates things further that you've developed a good friendship with his girlfriend.

2

If you have a very strong and firm understanding between you and this new friend, and you can honestly emotionally compartmentalize before going into the bedroom with them, then I would say it's fair game.

Otherwise you could find yourself in the middle of a big mess.

3

As for what to do, threesomes are pretty much just a mishmash of fun and chaos.

Generally what ends up happening is two people end up focusing on one of the trio and the focus tends to shift during the course of activities. The focus shifts rather like the pointer on a Ouija board.

As the three of you all have attraction for one another apparently, this shouldn't be too complicated in practice. Just follow the flow. It'll likely start off with one of them making a move while you're over there.

Just go with it and realize that you've got a mouth and two hands which can all be doing different things to different people at different times. Don't worry so much about that part if you end up going for it.

Separate_Taste3428 · 2022-04-04T00:36:20+00:00

Say you join, then afterwards you meet an awesome person that is single that you click with and then down the line how do you bring up to this new single person that you like a lot that you had a threesome before meeting them.

guttyn2905 · 2022-04-03T22:39:11+00:00

Male here. I turn 50 next month and still remember my threesome when I was in my late twenties as if it were yesterday. It was a spontaneous thing and the two girls and I just went with it and had fun. We all worked together and wasn't weird or anything afterwards.

It sounds like you're quite keen, just a little shy? I think you might regret it if you don't go through.

wisemind37 · 2022-04-03T23:46:53+00:00

Becareful doing this. From my expierience it could cause alot of jealously and awkwardness around one another afterwords. Which could cost friendships between all of you to fail. Or it could work out just fine. Its just a risk your gonna have to take

WickedTrim · 2022-04-04T00:11:31+00:00

PnPisforme2C · 2022-04-04T00:12:56+00:00

yes, go!

unfinity2 · 2022-04-04T00:13:04+00:00

Damn. Good for you girl. You Werk that shit.🔥

EthicalSeduction · 2022-04-04T01:55:46+00:00

Okay so this comes up all the time in the BDSM lifestyle and we have a process for dealing with it so that everyone feels comfortable. It's called "negotiation". We do this pretty much whenever we want to play with each other. So for example, if two people want to play, then they sit down to talk about what will go on, figure out what you both like (in this case, all three like) and what your hard limits are (boundaries that you don't want to cross.)

The point of "negotiation" is to talk before hand and make sure everyone is comfortable with everything BEFORE you all play together. This discussion does not have to be awkward and can be very flirty and fun. The three of you could go out for coffee and to chat about all this. Think of it like foreplay.

The other part is to be open and honest with them. Tell them you are intrigued and considering it, and a bit nervous, but like "good nervous" where you want it to be a fun experience. Then maybe propose the coffee date to discuss it further (you don't need to actually call it "negotiation" even though that's what you are doing.

The general rule of thumb in the BDSM world is that nobody plays until everyone is "enthusiastic" about playing. Remember there isn't a rush and the more you talk with them, the more excited everyone will likely get. Enjoy the process and the play! :)

Doctor0z · 2022-04-04T03:32:08+00:00

"Anyways I told lucky I had feelings for him not to destroy a relationship but more so for the fact I wanted to move on and get over him and just recently I have been able to do this."

Really?

Title	I have been invited to a threesome and I don't know what to do
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Date	April 3, 2022 8:51 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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