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fillfee · 2022-02-15T12:53:10+00:00

You stop reaching out. Its showing desperation. Let her reach back out to you and if she doesnt then you move on, simple. There’s 8 billion people in this world, why are you stressing over 1?

rickmackdaddy · 2022-02-15T14:06:58+00:00

95%+ she’s banging another dude and has that NRE (New Relationship Energy) with him right now.

Go live your best life w/o her.

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-02-15T13:14:40+00:00

Dude, when she said “more something that happens, if it does” she was giving you a hint that it is over in the most polite way possible. No she did not mean to keep the intimacy, and you know that.

Why would if it does mean in any way that she wants to continue to meet spontaneously and be intimate?

You know very well that she was telling you she isn’t really keen on seeing you anymore.

You ask “should i wait to contact me? or should i reach out to her?”

The answer is neither of those options dude.

She says she has other plans.
She says she doesn’t want to plan more dates
She says “if it does” hinting that she is not even certain she will see you again.
Her texts are more and more dry.
She leaves you on read for 4 days.

You know, women are not usually direct, but all this signs point to the obvious conclusion that she is just not interested anymore.

It is over dude. If you expect her to be more direct and more definitive, just know that women dont feel comfortable doing that, they always do this in indirect ways hoping the man takes the hint.

I know you want closure, but sometimes you can’t get that and you have to move on. Don’t text her more stuff, just move on.

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-02-15T16:04:19+00:00

She had you on a carousel, now it’s someone else’s turn. I love western dating 😂😂😂

willgo-waggins · 2022-02-15T17:06:06+00:00

Let her ride. She has another interest whether or not it’s something or somebody. If she is still interested she will come around.

It’s kinda like my FWB who has feelings and wanted to “explore” a relationship then ski season started (she’s a ski nut) and she got very pull back (remember SHE wanted to look into getting serious). But then we eventually talked after I put her into the friend (WB) zone and she clarified that she literally is on the slopes every weekend (we live within 90 minutes drive of a ton of resorts) because she buys a pass and is competitive. She comes around every week to four and we get together. Going camping this coming weekend as she is taking a “ski break” to spend time together.

Just back off and let her figure herself out or not.

MrStallion22 · 2022-02-15T15:20:31+00:00

Her answer to you was pretty direct in itself and it’s awkward for her to repeat herself because she’s trying to let you down gently without spelling it out the way you want it spelt out. Just give her room and if she doesn’t reach out then you can reach out to see how she is but keep it casual and don’t mention the previous conversation cos you already got your answer

2022-02-15T16:29:49+00:00

She's not interested in you. Go no contact until she hits you up again. You already laid out all your cards on the table. Now play the waiting game. Sucks, but that's what you have to do. Any more than that and it's desperate. You already told her you liked her and she refused that then you countered with then let's just keep it casual. It's like you changed your stance immediately just to see her again but it's clear you have feelings for her and she sees right through that.

Czekraft · 2022-02-15T17:08:12+00:00

Being spontaneous is another word for 'not asking someone if they want to be spontaneous with you'

Perfect_War5446 · 2022-02-15T18:00:05+00:00

Just move on

onishchukd5 · 2022-02-15T19:52:42+00:00

Contact her in 3-4 weeks a few days before to see if she wants to go out again. If she is busy just forget about her and move on. You have an established intimacy so she may come back if she wants so no reason to completely cut ties or burn bridges.

2022-02-15T20:44:54+00:00

It sounds from her message that she wants to stop seeing you for a while or do it less frequently. When you mentioned, "keep the intimacy", that came off as really needy like you were trying to get that sex from her.

If she wants to see you less it means her passion for you is reduced and possibly seeing someone else. You should invite her to an activity that she will find fun and bring your A game.

If she doesn't respond to that ... its over. If you stop reaching out, its likely her passion for you will wane and she will forget about you.

Furaskjoldr · 2022-02-16T00:24:15+00:00

Same thing happened to me.

She just started completely ghosting me. I ignored it in the end and just left her to it.

Fast forward a couple of months and I've started dating this really awesome girl (ghosting girl knows about this from my socials). All of a sudden guess who suddenly pops up again and says she was 'busy with work' (she wasnt). Ghosting girl then tried to get together with me again, and outright suggested we date and have a regular thing. I obviously rejected her as I'd met this new girl.

God, rejecting her after she ghosted me and then came crawling back felt so good.

poopandpeeface · 2022-02-15T17:49:57+00:00

Your being the woman in the relationship. Trying to define what we are etc. That is the woman’s job. A man does not worry about where he stands with a girl and is focused on his purpose and nothing else. Woman are more attracted to men whose feelings are unclear. You do you homie. If she likes you, she’ll reach out. If she doesn’t, you keep doing you.

Mini_groot · 2022-02-15T18:43:31+00:00

Urgh dealing with this shit 4 months in is why I don't wana get into dating

Dirty411420 · 2022-02-15T17:36:51+00:00

u got never be kingly tht is definitely one piece of it. yuck

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-02-15T20:39:17+00:00

She’s seeing another guy or is interested in someone else. Don’t be someone’s backup option

taracolleenn · 2022-02-16T00:44:24+00:00

Stop asking. If she’s going to keep ignoring you, Fuck it. Not worth your energy at that point. Someone who can’t even give you the respect of an answer definitely doesn’t deserve you in a vulnerable intimate state.

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