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Czekraft · 2022-02-11T19:59:00+00:00

It's like you said, grades are the only thing that matters. Most of the people you meet in HS you likely won't hear from them again in a decade. But that doesn't mean you can't build your social skills (which you will use for a life time). As kapoof2 said, talk to girls and guys and build them up and they will return the favor to you.

And if you see bullying, stopping that shit will improve your reputation.

pokemonpokemonmario · 2022-02-11T18:40:40+00:00

Don't give a fuck. You'll look back and regret it otherwise

Kapoof2 · 2022-02-11T19:34:00+00:00

It will affect your reputation, and you should care. Don't listen to the others in this subreddit. They have nothing on the line while you do.

Hitting on other students is the same as hitting on coworkers. Don't shit where you eat.

With that being said, if you must flirt with coworkers, it HAS to be done tactfully and respectfully. Cold approaching is to be done with strangers that you will never see again if it doesn't go your way.

If your reputation makes all the girls perceive you as just "a horny dog", the only women who will be interested in you are women you want to stay far away from. If you can build a reputation as the "Outgoing and well spoken guy", that is more ideal. This is done in a couple of ways.

Don't just talk to girls, talk to everyone.

Don't just talk to attractive people, talk to everyone.

Don't just talk about yourself, ask questions.

Dont try to be the most important person in the room, build others up and they will do the same for you.

ProfessionalSeries40 · 2022-02-11T21:29:21+00:00

I'm 20 now, in University(in Romania it's not called college) and I literally never approached any girl during my 4 years in HS and I honestly regret it. So, yeah, keep doing what you're doing.

2022-02-11T18:55:06+00:00

High school is the jungle. It’s human nature fully exposed. After high school the world becomes more complex, but in high school it is simple. The most fit & confident guys get the girls, the weak guys with no confidence, don’t get the girls. Just like it was for most of human history.

Whether you’re perceived as creepy or friendly is largely dependent on how you carry yourself.

Do you dress with sense or do you try to be edgy, weird & “different”? If it’s the latter, you be perceived as a creep.

Are you fat or really skinny, or do you eat right & generally stay in shape? If its the latter people will be more receptive to your approach.

Do you speak confidently & mentally internalize that “you’re the shit”, or are you extremely passive, insecure & stumble over your words? If you’re the latter, you’ll be perceived as a creep.

Are you aligned with any masculine activities like a sports or athletics team, or are you a loner that can’t display some form of mastery or excellence?

If it’s the former, you’ll likely be respected (humans have always respected physical prowess, it’s why athletes earn more than doctors.

In high school its especially the case because high school is primal. If it’s the latter, girls may befriend you but you may find yourself friendzoned very quickly women are inclusive like that.

After all, in the early days of our existence, the men who couldn’t hang with the hunters & warriors, often had to pick the berries with the women and they were more than happy to stick a flower in that guy’s hair for shits and giggles.

I know a lot of what I’m saying may sound exaggerated, and to an extent it kind of is, but to stress a point about the dynamics that lead to respect or being outcasted in high school.

You can either accept the world you’re in as it is, or live a lie, but its YOU that will deal with the results not anyone on this sub, so you get to decide how you wanna take this post.

Nevertheless, don’t stress over girls too much. You’re young, you’re just coming into your boyhood, far from being a man. Once you head off to college, that’s where the real fun starts (if you start working on your fitness & confidence now, that is).

princesspeachy0 · 2022-02-11T20:07:36+00:00

You want to be careful about not coming off as a creep by showing you can build and have normal and healthy friendships. I’ve been creeped out by (and I know girls talk to each other about) guys that don’t seem to have any chill, just hitting up any girl (sometimes randomly in person or sliding thru DMs) and not making much effort to hang out with other guys.

spartan-kick · 2022-02-12T00:12:55+00:00

Yes, it will affect your reputation. People will think you’re a cool and friendly guy who is also good with girls.

dobbs1997 · 2022-02-12T03:46:28+00:00

When I was in High School I did the same but instead of only talking to chicks and flirting with them, I simply talked to everyone, girls, guys, teachers, everybody..and while doing that I inevitably encountered certain females who I ended up having an intimate connection with & I’d just capitalize on that if I felt like it..but talk to everyone, not just girls..trust, it’s the right way to go.

Max_Longfellow · 2022-02-12T04:00:39+00:00

Depends on the high school but if high school is still like it was a couple decades ago, word gets around quick.

The good thing is, even though it feels like the whole world right now, temporary.

Take it from someone who didn't regret not being popular in high school:

Work out. When you start noticing differences, you bet your ass other people are.
Focus on grades, that shit will follow you but your reputation won't. No one in college gives a shit who you are when you get there.
Learn about how people are interacting and positive ways to get involved with social groups. Cold approaching a group in highschool in my day, unless you were the stereotypical hot jock quarterback mcfuckstick whoever they were, was useless. Someone will always try to bring you down unless you have some kind of gimmick. Fucking yo-yo tricks used to be an easy way to walk by and open lol!

I wouldn't say necessarily "don't give a fuck" because you could get into some bad habits that work in high school, but aren't so attractive as adults, depending on the caliber of woman you want that is lol.

I would say that since you know it will all be the past, use this time to try some game and find out what is working for YOU personally. Take risks but give a fuck taking them. Hell make a list. Put a check next to things that progress and cross out things that don't. When The Game came out, fucking canned material had most of us like "wtf?! this works?" but was pretty much outted within a few years.

What you'll ultimately want and what will make things sooooooo much less work for you, is knowing what works for you, then applying aspects of gaming to amplify your natural game.

College is gonna be rad for you dude. If you're having a hard time now but are trying, everything gets flipped upside down in college. Sure the athletes get chicks easy, but you start to realize that when you parents made you take those piano lessons people picked on you for (or whatever skill you may have), that suddenly the ability to whip out something on the piano at a party will have all the ladies looking at you.

intensely_human · 2022-02-11T20:09:24+00:00

The effect on your reputation will depend on how they respond. If they’re telling you to go away and you persist your rep will be bad. But if you get positive responses, your reputation will be fine.

2022-02-11T23:17:47+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't do much approaching like this in high school until senior year. Yes grades are ultimately all that matters, but getting a negative reputation can make it hard to keep your grades up. It becomes easier to approach without building a rep in college, especially if you go to a medium to large school.

oreopimp · 2022-02-12T00:00:18+00:00

Bad press is better than no press.

If it helps people in my life: family, co-workers, women think I’m some kind of incubus (their word). I’m always social w everyone when out, always talking to women or with women and it’s only been a net positive. As long as you don’t have a player vibe, and more a fun masculine man vibe who doesn’t hide his sexuality keep it up!

2022-02-12T01:32:14+00:00

Who gives a shit, they'll remember you as the confident guy who went after what he wanted and had the balls to do so. If anything that's a plus to your reputation

2022-02-12T02:29:54+00:00

In high school this will actually make you the man. Keep up this energy. IF they’re actually into it… plus fuck it if you’re new, there’s no reason not to approach new people and make new friends

b_a_d_r0b0t · 2022-02-12T05:14:57+00:00

Lmao, creepy dude

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-02-12T09:25:03+00:00

Focus on school, everything else is a rabbit. Go pet rabbits when you’re in the mood to. Avoiding falling into a specific clique keeps your people options open, which in turn keeps your options for girls open. Approach everyone and float.

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