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[–]LeadPrevenger 51 points52 points53 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
It’s too early to tell
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[–]throwawaynibs 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
It means ask her out on another date. Edit - also at least text her to say you had a nice time.
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[–]4ktx 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Invite her to your house man, she don’t want to date she want to smash.
[–]shittyfuckdick 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Like just straight up ask if she wants to come over?
[–]4ktx 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Straight up bro, text her normally, then straight out of the blue ask her if she wants to come over and hang.
“She said nothing serious”
She probably just wants to hook up
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[–]4ktx 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s alright bro, no worries on to the next.
[–]PLEASEYALE_ 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
also at least text her to say you had a nice time.
Why do you recommend this? Why is it important?
[–]throwawaynibs 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s basic common courtesy.
[–]_LilDuck 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Agree. I'd bet on the awkward stuff too. This just feels like a really weird interaction to me haha
[–]MA_CA_NV_CA 68 points69 points70 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She might have been awkward from nervousness of being attracted to you. If I’m reading this right you tried to make out with her at the bar. Some girls have a strict no making out in public policy. Sounds like she was possibly down to hook up if you had taken more initiative to take her somewhere private earlier. Some girls cheek the first kiss attempt. I wouldn’t take that as a clear rejection. I’d see if she’s down to hang out again.
[–]bosspaysmetoredit247 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My knee-jerk reaction was she was interested in hooking up for sure.
[–]Murrman1978 -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Kiss her at the beginning of the date. Do what Europeans do when they meet. Kiss her on the cheek on each side while kino touching her back.
[–]The-Bull89 21 points22 points23 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You've gotta be willing to take more risks. At that point you pretty much thought it was gonna be a fail especially since she didn't want to go to another bar. When she said your attractive, you should've leaned in an boldly said "that's cool, your place or mine? ;)" You could've been rejected, but you felt it was a rejection anyway and there's a fair chance it could've gone your way.
Alot of girls on dating apps are actually just looking for hookups but they'll never openly admit it to you. As the man you have to lead them.
[–]Renshato 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]Alonso81687 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She wanted that dick, bro!
[–]dasanman69 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Are there women you find attractive but you are not attracted to?
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[–]dasanman69 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I frequently walk into bars with all sorts of beautiful women, I find them attractive but I'll usually be attracted to just one of them. One will stand out above the others, she might not even be the prettiest one but there's usually something about her that catches my attention. The other girls are all attractive, but I'm only attracted to one.
Oh well in this case I was probably more attracted to her than most girls. She was pretty, smart, shy and conservative, not a party girl. The vibe was just off.
[–]dasanman69 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm not talking about her, I'm talking you. She said that you are attractive but that doesn't mean that she is attracted to you.
[–]pikecat 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Smart, shy and conservative. Normal rules don't apply to her. I know the type. She said that you were attractive, at least twice. She may well have wanted to smash, maybe not. Such girls do think about sex too. But they're also good at self control, so you never know what they will do.
You put in some time and she will open up and become more easy going. There is a way to get such shy girls to open right up quickly. It helps to have empathy for what it's like to be shy, instead of viewing it as a problem.
I think the repeated 'attractive' gave it away, what she wants. She's into you. You might even be able to get her into a relationship. Strong feelings hide within shy people. Lack of experience means that they can lose control of them.
Say something nice and set up another date.
[–]PLEASEYALE_ -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
YES!!! I know exactly what you mean!! It's amazing to see that there's another guy like this out there. And you out it into words really well
[–][deleted] 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
She wanted to hook up. If you didn’t doubt yourself, if you weren’t afraid and Instead confident and read to attack life to get what you want, you would’ve took initiative and hooked up. But your doubt and your lack of confident stopped you.
[–]WolfKina 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, you should text her. Not right now, give it one or two days. Say that you enjoyed being with her and that you should go on another date. If she says something about the weird vibe of the date, acknowledge that and be honest, tell her that you were a little nervous.
And when setting up the next date, try some place where she will be more comfortable.
[–]surfershane25 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
No eye contact, not good conversation, wanted to leave early all point to not being interested and while saying he is attractive and not looking for anything serious it sounds like she was letting him down easy, the dodged kiss confirms this. We don’t know what led to this but I don’t think she was begging for it like you’re making it sound like.
[–]Indian_Cap 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I reaaalllly don’t think she wanted to hook up. You should definitely text her though after some time. Get to know if she is awkward and anxious in general or it’s just around you. She could have social anxiety.
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[–]surfershane25 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh then if you do still wish to see her I’d ask if she’d like to go on a lower pressure date like coffee, a walk in a park or something mellow. Maybe she gets an upset stomach from anxiety and that’s why she wanted to dip. You might get a “didn’t feel the spark” but whatever the answer to a question unasked is always no.
[–]Indian_Cap 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Then it’s upto you if u want to date her. It could be too much work for you, but she might turn out to be an amazing person. She went out with you it means she is trying to overcome issues and just need a helping hand. But she might also not get over it soon. Better to take her to a more less crowded, comfortable place of her choice next time and see if u vibe.
She's very shy. What you know about girls is going to be wrong about her.
On your next date, ask her to tell you about whatever it is that she is very good at. Listen and ask questions, even if they're dumb. Do not dismiss whatever that is if you want to get with her.
I just got a shy girl, who answered questions in terse, monosyllabic answers, to tell me her life story after 5 minutes.
[+]BetaCuckSimp -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Because he was a self doubting weenie all night (sorry OP)
[–]power-cord 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lmao I made that mistake 😅. After a 7 year relationship I'm re learning how the hell to date hook up talk to woman etc. I had a girl extremely interested in me. We met at a bar she had me come back to her house after, and pulled out some wine... and proceeded to wait for me to make a damn move... and I did not.. except for a kiss on the cheek goodbye lmao 🤦♂️ as soon as I got in my car I'm like.... YOU IDIOT you were supposed to fuck her God dammit
[–]shittyfuckdick 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Dude are you me? Same situation I was in relationship for 7 years and trying to learn everything in my late 20s.
Oh well we’ll figure it out.
[–]MattPruga 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'd rather make her kiss my cheek if I'm not comfortable kissing her in the mouth yet. I point with my finger to my cheek and smile. Worked every time, although you have to make physical contact beforehand, showing your intent.
[–]Amkg2020[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she said you're attractive twice you should of asked to bang
[–]stanthemilkman88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh well. You can't control other people. Don't sweat it. If it keeps happening then something is off with the marketing or product.
[–]bearsarescaryasfuk 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She probably wasn’t feeling the vibe, gave you a compliment to soften the blow, she seemed like she was honest and balanced. Just move on, it’s okay
[–]Kooky_Crab_5563 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ass cheek?
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