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[–]LoveMyChoppa 48 points49 points50 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depends if you want her as a friend or not.
Depends what you’re going for. If you’re trying to maximize the amount of ass you can get, go on the date and try to progress things. If you’d rather put energy elsewhere, do so.
My .02
[–]KingoftheNorth412 63 points64 points65 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I personally won’t see her again if you don’t want to be friends.
[–]YetzirahToAhssiah 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And I would definitely make a friend.
[–]Johndope6969 22 points23 points24 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like u are the back up
[–]ikeepon 67 points68 points69 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
She’s 27, she probably wants to f*ck. Go have a smoke session with her. Flirt with her and maintain your intention - you’re interested in her romantically/sexually but not as a friend. Try touching and escalating. If you get nowhere then I wouldn’t see her again.
[–]Havocnumbanine 34 points35 points36 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just want to add to this, IME the smoke session especially after she knew what ur intentions were- is just an excuse to get next to you. To me it seems like she might be looking for dick. Play it cool and don’t fuck up lol.
[–]ikeepon 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. If a woman invites me to smoke/drink them panties are coming off. lol. Seriously, go and have fun, keep the flirty vibe. Good things will happen.
[–]YetzirahToAhssiah 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This kind of advice is how you end up sleeping with some girls, but not make friends with any girls.
[+][deleted] -15 points-14 points-13 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
“Try touching and escalating” doesn’t sit well with me
EDIT: not sure why I’m getting mass down voted
[–]chamberlain323 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m not quite as ruthless as some of the other commenters here in that I will allow a longer timeline to pass before rendering a verdict on whether to continue on with a woman who has friendzoned me. Since you guys haven’t known each other long and she is inviting you to meet up, there may be an opportunity here. It’s your job to try and find out.
I say go to this meetup and feel things out. Keep the flirtation going and ask some questions. See if you can gauge what her relationship status and level of interest is. If she is not receptive to the flirting and indicating that she is not potentially interested in anything romantic, then I would politely finish the study date and then withdraw my attention. It is much better for your emotional health to only pursue women who are interested in you romantically, take it from me.
[–][deleted] 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Go and get high and have some giggles, if it leads somewhere it does, if it doesnt it doesnt. No outcome dependency bro, always be going with the flow. Be Zen like Buddha and you can never go wrong.
[–]truthbomb999 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How should I approach it?
I would nope the hell out of that. Sounds like she just wants to score some free drugs
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Short answer - no
Long answer - nope
Ps: next time reject a gal telling u any sentence with “friend” & “ex” bs. Then cut ur attention & contacts.
And dude, after a week of texting.. what kinda signals were u expecting when ur the one taking that long?
[–]joshdube7100 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
So in your opinion, what is a good amount of time before asking someone out? Not trolling, im genuinely asking cause I suck at this specific topic.
[–]UrFavPlayerIsBack 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Could be same day. Or couple days. A week. Or more. Depends on situation. And if more than you expected, you don’t seat and wait for that “special” day..
But the main point was nonsense talking be4 meetup which is a no no
[–]spicy_simba 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't overthink it, don't make any assumptions.
Take the offer as it is, do you want to go ? Then go
Don't decide what is on the other person's mind, just go there and see it. You are fully equipped to understand what is happening when it happens.
[–]JD_Revan451 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The outlook I try to have on most things
[–]JacobMoogberg69 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you want her to actually start obsessing over you, make the appointment but totally blow her off/ghost her. Then don't fucking spend a week texting back and forth killing all attraction.
[–]Fluffy_Risk9955 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She's older than you. A woman older than you is on a communicative level far more advanced than you are and she has the ability to manipulate you, without you knowing it. If it's going into a relationship it will be an amazing experience to you, but you'll never know you'll be manipulated. In order to protect yourself I'd recommend time framing it to half a year max to experience it and then terminate the relationship. Not doing that, is putting you're mental healthy at risk, because you risk getting dependent on her, because of the happiness rush that comes with the manipulation.
[–]Unitedtendies 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t!
[–]IGetBoredSometimes23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think she wants free weed, but go ahead and shoot your shot.
[–]JD_Revan451 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
She's actually the one offering some
[–]IGetBoredSometimes23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ahh. Good luck then, buddy.
[–]diegggs94 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I made a rule a long time ago. Ex baggage is a no for me. Obviously there are levels, but generally if they come up fast I’m not about it
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