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[–]LeftyScout 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Look at this negativity in the comments section. He was trying to be empathetic and make sure his friends also had a good time. If you ever heard of that.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I do appreciate the positive/negative feedback, I have a lot to improve when it comes to conveying my thoughts/knowing what to sharing. And getting better at that can only improve my text game so it’s a win either way!!
[–]LeftyScout 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Nah man , these guys are assholes.
[–]MisterBlaster1 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
u seem like a very good friend
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Trying my best!!
[–]Voltz_got_a_potato 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey! really enjoyed reading about your experience and appreciate you looking after the 'bros'. Anyway I couldn't help myself deeply understand that 'high energy' that you carry and could you please expand on it differentiating the energy between guys and girls? please add how do you flirt and tease too! Would be of great help for a person who has just broken off from their introvert shell.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Sure! I try to be in a good mood before I go out! On this particular night I was already pumped because I had worked out and played some smash bros with the bros! Do something that brings you joy whether it be video games, reading, a good tv show, something to lift your spirit!
I’ll give you an example of how to playfully flirt, at one point the birthday girl got up on the bar and poured a shot down my throat, of course this was a little messy, and one of her friends came over and was like “oh I’m so sorry! Let me clean you up” I took this opportunity to say “thanks! Do you get any on you” she says “idk maybe?” So I put my hands on her shoulder and turn her around just so I could get a “good look” she laughs and says “did you find anything?” And they go on to say no, I get her name and BOOM we start talking! It was kind of awkward when her boyfriend showed up behind her but I just introduced myself to him to!
Another line you can use is the “hey, we haven’t met yet, I’m insert name” this works great for places where people already know each other! I usually follow this up with a compliment if I generally like what the person is wearing! A lot of people go out to look good so they will appreciate it if it’s coming from a genuine place!
The only other thing I did was wave, if you catch your self making eye contact with a girl, and it last for say 3 second or so, I’ll just wave at them! If the wave back or smile a bit, I’ll go over and introduce myself! I would also add that I’m probably a 6/7 on the attractiveness scale and dress like a skater boi most of the time, but I’ve been told I have glowing skin and a really good smile! That’s from cutting back on the weed and drinking more water and just taking better care of myself in general, YOU WANNA FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF FIRST!!
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You should've focused on yourself and your game, why'd you let your two high school friends hold you back? Sure you drove them, but there's always a solution if they need to leave sooner or something. Bros before hoes only goes so far haha
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
It was a learning experience, and I also think it would have been fun if we were all socializing! I know what it feels like to be left out, id prefer not doing it to other people!!
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well sure, but if you made the effort for them and they were still not having it, then it's their problem.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I will remember this for next time! If my friends aren’t trying to put themselves out there, it’s not gonna stop me!!
[–]paddywacknack 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Don't listen to that guy. He doesn't know what he's talking about.
Making sure the people around you are having fun is good game.
Being a source of good feelings to everyone, regardless of your attraction to them, massively raises your social value and therefore your attractiveness.
You did good.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thank you, I do think it works for some people to just focus on themselves those when it comes to game, but yeah I’m not that kind of person, I really do enjoy it when everyone is having a good time! Just trying to find a balance!
[–]HarshKLife 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I also agree with this. Having been the person on both sides of this, you did a great thing and it shows you are a good person who has not become conceited because of newfound success. In every social interaction it’s important to consider everyone’s feelings. How your friends responded was their own issue but you did your part
[–]paddywacknack 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Because being the guy that is lifting everyone up and making sure everyone is having fun is the highest level of game.
[–]Canadian-Seductioner -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe so, but it didn't get him laid.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This whole post if just you patting yourself on the back for being a cool guy that cares about his friends having a good time, but then goes on a spree of paragraphs basically shit talking your friends behind their backs. It wouldve been cooler if maybe you called them out on it
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re right! I was trying to get them to Mingo by giving them subtle hints, because I know they can be fun to be around, but I should have been more direct like “dude just talk to some people” but I didn’t want to lay on the pressure to hard, will try to do that in the future
[–]TriniLime1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
How would that be cool?
[–]RegretsNothing1 -5 points-4 points-3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I mean, it does sound like humble bragging.
But... OP is right. People who talk the most are actually the ones who are getting the least.
Case in point. This post. OP only got the instagram. The worst contact info to get from a girl.
[–]paddywacknack 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The best contact info to get is the one she gives you.
If she responds it was good.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is a v good point, like I said I have a long way to go!
[+]kettlebell_workout -6 points-5 points-4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It is like a story from some cheesy teenage comedy, where a nerd becomes the cool guy.
I am happy for you that you improved your game, but you literally comparing yourself who knows how to actually pick up girls with someone who does not even know what the "opener"means.
It is like a math teacher would say to primary schoolers "Hey loosers, I know calculus and you don't".
Fair enough, I would like to point out that my friend would brag about being good with girls, but when the situation presented itself, they didn’t do anything. That’s the point I was trying to get across, but I just didn’t word it v well, sorry 😢
[–]Dontfeedthelocals 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah i got it, im sure most people did and its a valid point. Don't apologise what the other commenter mentioned wasn't important/relevant.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (24 children) | Copy Link
Some people also don't take every social event as a chance to get their hole. Maybe they just wanted to hang out with you and you were off thirsting?
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (22 children) | Copy Link
I see what your saying, but they wanted to go out! I just had a place we could go. And my problem wasn’t that they didn’t hook up with anybody (I clearly didn’t) it’s that they didn’t socialize at all, they could at the very least have said hi to a couple of people. But that’s just my opinion
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (21 children) | Copy Link
They wanted to go out with YOU. When I go out with friends I'll typically be spending time with my friends not introducing myself tohot "babes" (sidenote who actually says this under the age of 30). Doesn't mean I don't have game it just means I'm not obsessed with proving I can speak to girls every time I'm out and knowing when it's appropriate 🙄. Everyone has that friend who spends every night out speaking to girls trying to get his hole and usually they're the ones who are worst with girls ij my experience and can only pick up drunk girls.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (20 children) | Copy Link
Totally see where you’re coming from, but I’ll just have to respectfully disagree
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (19 children) | Copy Link
I'm sure your friends won't and just because they weren't in the mood to thirst after some girls with you doesn't mean you should make a post shit talking them behind their backs. Really bad friend and says a lot about you.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I totally get that, I will admit it does sounds like I’m trash talk, which I am, only because I was frustrated with my friends. It would be one this if they really trying to have a chill night, but they were on and on about this chick or that chick, showing me pics of other chicks instragrams, all before we left, I just thought it was super weird they didn’t talk to any girls after all that
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Because most guys don't do that on a night out with friends unless they're cunts 🙄
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Okay now you lost me
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Typically when friends go on a night out it's to hang out with their friends and not to be a borderline sex pest like this sub encourages. Talking to girls while out at a party or clubbing is no achievement and literally everyone knows you can pick up girls easily doing that. It's just most people don't want to past their first couple times at a club.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
My biggest problem with your comment is that your equating approach women, as a heterosexual male, with being a sex pest? It’s not like I keep engaging with a person after they make clear they don’t want to talk me, I’d like to clear that up
[–][deleted]1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
It's all in the way you do it. And 99% of the way this sub describes is creepy "it's just a numbers game" type energy.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast3 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I don’t think you can lump those together either, I also think it’s a numbers game, because it is for men. But I don’t approach every attractive girl I see, only in social setting like a bar/party/art pop. I never approach at a grocery store or a bank, that’s just way to intrusive in my opinion. I’m not here to turn every interaction into sex. I’m here to learn how to be more social and now how to show my interest when I do find someone attractive. I hope that makes sense
[–]SnooMachines14061 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
bro she's a woman she doesn't understand how proactive we have to be. It's like if they tried to get us to understand child birth or some other female centric stuff. They will never comprehend unless it's them which is impossible because there females and won't have to.
[–]TallDarkandBot 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
The irony is your comments say more about you than anything.
[–]Samokoske 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
You're beautiful, homie. Horrible comment thread. That other girl is trash.
And I'm assuming her gender here, yes, but 9/10 it's an FDS user.
[–]TallDarkandBot 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
We need more positivity around here fam, thanks. FDS is just a different side of the same coin. At they end of the day it all boils down to being wanted. When people don’t feel wanted, they act like the poster above.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Says the guy who doesn't just go to r/seduction to find funny stories about sexual harassment 🙄
[–]TallDarkandBot 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You can make whatever conclusions you want about me, but my point stands.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Not really considering the lack of social skills unironically using this sub implies.
[–]TallDarkandBot 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
If that’s your perspective, I’m sure you have room for improvement.
[–][deleted]-1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I'm sure I do but I can safely say I'm not as down bad as anyone on this sub lmfao
[–]TallDarkandBot2 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
That makes a lot of sense actually. You prowl around here to put down people so you feel better about yourself.
Everyone here is trying to find their way in life, some have a lot of experience and a good bit of them don’t. If all you can do is be negative to make yourself feel better, is that something to be proud of?
🙄 keep telling yourself that. If people want to genuinely improve themselves this isn't the place to do it and is as creepy as most incel subs.
Forums should be supplemental to actually getting out there and living life, I’m sure we can agree to that. Some of these guys may be incels, sure. But if putting people down who are already at their lowest makes you feel better, you may want to get help.
You’d be surprised how a little bit of positivity and encouragement can help people get out of a rut and show them that they don’t have to be an incel or to hate women.
Anyways, unless you actually have something meaningful to say that progresses this in a constructive way, I’m out.
[–]Samokoske1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Basura. Just straight. Basura.
[+]blck_bstinson -12 points-11 points-10 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
So you think you’re better than your homies because you got two instagrams?
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
No, I was actually being social, they weren’t talking to anybody, and I never said I was better, just trying to put thing into perspective
[+]blck_bstinson -10 points-9 points-8 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
This whole post is the pot calling the kettle black. No one cares that your friends didn’t do anything at a bar it happens to us all. Writing 9 paragraphs about it when you also went home and beat off is talking a big game.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Whoaaa, really don’t appreciate this kind of energy, stay blessed fam, try to let go of some of these bad vibes bro, peace and love
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[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks bro! I do have a long way to go but I’m so happy with the progress I’ve made, just wanted to share my experience
[–]Environmental_Work63 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (3 children) | Copy Link
I mean it’s true? There was no need for this post and you now seem like your old high school friends in which you described. It’s all about being humble and not getting cocky. Those high school friends probably thought the old gang was going to head out bar hopping but they encountered people who you know (college friends). I couldn’t party like that and some days people are social while others they aren’t. Congrats on the 2 Instagram accounts and hope you and the birthday girl connect in the future.
[–]Ramen-4-breakfast 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the feedback bro. I know this post sounds like I’m bragging and it’s because I AM, I love my friends, really, but going back like two years when we used to hang out all the time, they would constantly be talking about some new girl they either hooked up with, or some other girl that just won’t leave them alone, and me being the nice guy that I was, I was secretly sooooo jealous. So when we had the opportunity to finally hang out again and go to a bar where we could game, my expectation was “of these guys pull all the time, this is gonna be awesome gaming with these guys” but when we get there and they DONT TALK TO ANYBODY, like they talked to my college friends (2 other guys) that I introduced them too but that was it. And it’s not like I knew anyone else, everybody else was a stranger at some bar I was just trying to have a good time! it made me wonder why was I ever even jealous in the first place, ya know? Hope this made it a bit clearer
[–]Environmental_Work63 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ahh gotcha, I think everyone’s been there. That feeling of jealousy, who knows you probably made them feel what you experience back in the day.
Yes! I’m glad I could get that point across, and I’d rather nobody be jealous of anyone! I just want us all the same level! Because they are cool guys! And I want to have that kind of experience with them!
[–]a55_Goblin420 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If they brag about anything (not just women) they probably aren't that great. I believe in moving in silence.
[–]throwawaycollegeacco 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Guys lie a lot lol
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