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Kenic_In_MD · 2021-08-09T02:03:16+00:00

I mentioned to girls that I'm a middle eastern refugee

Stop mentioning something so deep/personal so early. Leave that for actual GFs and long-term GFs. Just messing around with girls you gotta keep it light and fun. Some topics are too heavy, your past is one of those heavy topics. Leave that for later.

BensonInFL · 2021-08-09T03:03:45+00:00

whenever I mentioned to girls that I'm a middle eastern refugee, they seemed to get shocked and started treating me differently in a non romantic way

So... you're doing something which produces a negative result, and you're asking whether you should keep doing it? From a 'seduction' point of view, NO. From a morality point of view, only you can answer how many things you want to hide and be okay with...

Remember, from a seduction point of view, everything you say and do should be done with a specific intent. You are trying to build comfort, trying to build attraction, trying to demonstrate confidence, humor, and higher value. From this frame or lens, how does your refuge story accomplish these goals?

You can always open up about your past after you sleep with her. Whatever real or perceived negative associations girls have with being a refuge (or anything else) will be reduced or eliminated by something called 'cognitive dissonance'.

Finally, being a refuge seems to be an important topic for you, i.e. you are defining yourself and/or labeling yourself by what has occurred to you in the past.. consider that other people might not care or be that interested in that.. but by you bringing it up, you may be elevating its importance and girls become more concerned about it.. perhaps you can define yourself by your unique knowledge and skills, by your charm, intelligence, confidence, long term goals, etc..

-B

OMGitspiero · 2021-08-09T00:54:58+00:00

There is nothing wrong but there is always ignorant people who would judge you before getting to know you .

Probably would be better to open about it after they get to know better ?

Also depends where you live , different countries has different mentality regarding that .

I live in a city that has pretty a lot of refuges , have friends who are and I’m an immigrant.

putcoolusernamehere · 2021-08-09T02:37:41+00:00

Wait til like date 3 to bring it up

meAADIL · 2021-08-09T10:36:43+00:00

It doesn't need to be mentioned...after all that doesn't make u less human. U could say I'm middle eastern, that's it , if asked..

NateHate1402 · 2021-08-09T09:49:43+00:00

Gotta love middle class white girl saviour complexes.

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Isley_Brother · 2021-08-09T02:45:25+00:00

I wouldn’t take it personal. It could just be that it isn’t a sexy topic of conversation.

PleasentUsername · 2021-08-09T08:27:14+00:00

What country?

The-Sea-Warden · 2021-08-09T17:03:46+00:00

Hard truth: girls are heavily influenced by status and wealth. When they find out that you’re a refugee it tells them that you are of low status (right now) and likely not wealthy (right now). Thankfully you now live in a country with good opportunity to increase your status and wealth. Don’t worry about the girls and just focus on building yourself. If you do pursue girls then I’d suggest you don’t mention your status as a refugee, at least until you establish yourself and your career.

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