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[–]PaintingCool 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago* (12 children) | Copy Link
A huge thing no one ever talks about is the habit of making ugly faces without realizing it. Actors watch recordings of their face for hours just to study how their own faces appear to others. There’s this look I have to put in that melts girls away but I honestly have to channel it to pull it off. It’s a powerful focused and curious look. Something I’d never had learned to do until I worked on my face expressions and voice!
[–]npossoesquecer 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
Wow I never thought about that, I often smile at the mirror to practice but now I’ll pay more attention, thanks
[–]PaintingCool 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
Much more, I want you to do what actors do. Talk to the mirror, laugh at it ( or in your phone camera) I don’t care how silly it sounds, this is half the battle right here. What’s you devilish look? Your approval look? What’s your intense lustful look? Knock this out of the park
[–]npossoesquecer 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You’re a genius.
[–]PaintingCool 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (7 children) | Copy Link
You got this in you too trust me! And thanks :D
Remember, you’ve def seen fugly looking make models on magazines. Long noses and small chins. But they’re always decked out with ears pierced good hair and white teeth. Also you can change your face structure by making sure your tounge is always pressed to the roof of your mouth it pushes the structure of your face up and out a little so your check bones define and your nose grows straight , if you don’t believe me Google that last sentence
[–]slightdrippin 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Those are some genius tips man. I am curious what's your opinion on skincare? I think it's as important as hairstyle
[–]PaintingCool 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
So personal my my worst attribute is my skin, I have acne scars from my teens. One of the best things though I’ve learned is by getting those little pimple popper tools they sell at makeup sections in places like CVS or rite aid. It’s the metal stick with the circle ⭕️ at the end. Those things squeeze blackheads right out like you wouldn’t believe( be ready for the straight gunk that’s gonna come out of your nose). I also make sure I put cream on before I sleep, when I wash my face in the am and before I leave at nighttime. One thing too I wish I did when I was younger was wash my face more often durring the day. Now I make the habit of legit taking the time to get all the oils off my face at least 4 times a day, my skins not greasy anymore and I don’t have pimples( I’m gonna do the laser scar removal soon for my scars) When it comes to skin we’re not expected to glow(girls cheat with make up anyway) but we need to make sure our nose isn’t covered in blackheads and our cheeks practically reflecting light because it’s so shiny with grease
[–]npossoesquecer 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Me too, nowadays I use like a thousand skin products, my self steam changed completely once I got rid of acne
[–]PaintingCool 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I totally can relate! I can’t wait to get the laser removal it’s not even that expensive anymore, for like less than 1000 bucks I have have perfect skin again. Also for just 80 bucks a month you can straighten your teeth and even the most fucked up teeth don’t even take 9 months to fix
[–]npossoesquecer 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I have some scars but vitamin c is helping a lot. Beauty procedures are getting way easier to get, I have good teeth but ONE of them is crooked and I’m already considering to use Invisalign to straighten it up
[–]PaintingCool 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hope that helps, I know it’s nothing ground breaking but guys really do nothing about their blackheads, we touch our noses a lot
[–]Electric_kundalini 32 points33 points34 points 4 years ago* (11 children) | Copy Link
It’s more about how you value yourself. If you walk around thinking you’re attractive people will believe it (not saying be arrogant, cocky and narcissistic). Women are in tune with this stuff they sense it in your vibe. Days when I feel handsome I do well with Women, other days when I feel like Gollum I don’t approach cause I’m not in the right mindset and I’d rather just focus on myself. There’s a notable difference in how Women act around me depending on my mindset.
[–]npossoesquecer 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
How can u draw the line between that and being cocky? I’m terrified of looking arrogant
[–]Electric_kundalini 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t act like you’re above anyone and just know that you’re a snack that a Woman would be happy to have. Some Women won’t like the confidence because they have low self esteem and are projecting but high value Women will.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Great point. Being proud is positive, being prideful is thinking you’re above others.
[–]Exciting_Champion 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bro if you really dont fell attractive you are very far away from beeing arrogant. You are worrying about something that is very far away from. Its like somebody who is starving worrying about getting fat. First of work on how you view yourself. Maybe you will get also (but not only) a bit arrogant from this but then you can also work on this and go to the next level.
In my eyes when you dont feel attractive and want to see yourself as attractive it is part of the journey to be arrogant for a time. Then you can overcome this
You have to pay the price for beauty... yes some people are given it but you seriously can take your attractiveness way higher! Girls spend HOURS a day on them selves and guys won’t even buy separate bottle for shampoo and conditioner. It’s really subjective, you’ve doomed yourself because acne or a few centimeters too high of a nose or chin? I’m sorry to come at you with so much energy, I agree with you totally! I see your point and logic, what I’m hoping to get across to some people is that they need to awaken that inner fire or creativity and expression and stop going for a safe look....man just doing dumb shit like getting my ears pierced and picking a stylist instead of a mom and pop barber instantly improved my look. Try....TRY...TRY!!!!
[–]PaintingCool 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
People may voice like they mock arrogant people but honestly even being blatantly arrogant is better than nothing at all. People put down arrogance because they themselves have little self worth and get upset when they meet someone who does
[–]Agreable_Actuator84 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Your fear of being arrogant will hold you back. Give yourself permission to make mistakes and maybe go too far. Give yourself permission to be arrogant for a while. You probably won’t be, it will just feel like it. You can always dial back. Stretch your comfort zone with being over assertive, see the results good and bad (if any bad), and re calibrate. It’s like tacking on a ship. You can’t sail In a straight line but you zig and zag a bit.
[–]npossoesquecer 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I guess this fear really holds me back, I don’t like arrogant ppl so I guess I get a bit paranoid about that lol, but I’ll pay attention to this. Thank u!!
[–]SherifffOfNottingham 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Second time recommending this today but Models by Mark Manson covers that well
[–]vonballad 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Looking arrogant is more attractive to a woman than being weak, fearful, and indecisive.
[–]YoungDionysus 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't judge your worth as more than other people but NEVER judge it as less
[–]YoungDionysus 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Work out, eat healthy, get your vitamins, take care of your hair and skin. Keep a healthy sleep schedule.
But by far the most important thing you can do to make you more attractive, is to stop worrying about whether or not you're attractive
[–]npossoesquecer 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Overthinking is a pain in the ass
Try remembering that the best looking and most confident people in the world still hate the way they look 9/10 times tget see a mirror. They're just good at pretending, so pretend. After a while you forget you're pretending and start to like your face and self a little bit more.
You're a project, and the project isn't done yet, don't expect to be a finished product, but work towards that goal every day - that's where confidence comes from
[–]PaintingCool 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Face symmetry is just 1 part of it. You don’t realize how broad and subjective attractiveness is. Got a funny face ? Well then dammit focus on at least having the most amazing hair. Are your teeth straight and white? Forget about your arm size or your belly. Can people tell you do not workout by the slouch or curved neck you got? What about your voice ?
You can do so much if you put in the time to learn. YouTube this shit from your dam couch
[–]npossoesquecer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I tried YouTube videos but I feel like I’ll end up looking like some troom troom shit, I guess my way of acting is just... boring? I’ll make some researches, thanks!
Hair style tips, skin and black head care. And also don’t be afraid of trying. Try for the hair style you make coming out the shower but comb before you come out. Going for a “safe” look is never going to get you where you’re trying to be
Look into how they train models for Poses. Don’t worry I’m not saying go out there a start hitting chicks with the zoolander blue steel... just that there amazing advice in there
[–]PaintingCool 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
And push ups everyday for posture, not sayigg you should join the military but it is such an easy fix it’s a crying shame this is still an issue
[–]bbchad 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve seen ugly, boring, below average guys getting hot girls just because they were arrogant and narcissistic. In my experience, women can sense the confidence in you and many of them will be attracted to you for that alone, even if you lack in other departments. If you just wanna get laid you can do that by being cocky and overconfident, it will get you noticed by the hotties even if you are just faking it. If you are looking for a relationship, being cocky is the worst you can do.
[–]cytomome 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Models are beautiful and have symmetrical features. But have you seen them outside of a shoot? They're often gangly and awkward, have terrible posture. Posture and gracefulness have a lot to do with attractiveness and those are intangible qualities. My face is terrible but people still think I'm attractive, lol. I have good posture and dance decently. I have good command of my body. I can put together a flattering outfit.
One of the reasons exercise is so beneficial is that it makes you comfortable in ownership of your own body, regardless of absolute size/fitness level. Find exercise you love and get to love what your body can do. Find clothes that make you feel wonderful, regardless of whether they're in fashion. Own your style.
Yes!! Working out really helps a lot with self steam, I’m still awkward but at least I feel way cooler after I started biking
[–]tonstermits69 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exercise more and eat better, your face will thank you.
[–]Interesting-Brief202 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
(Arnold voice) You already know what you haff to do. Be a man and pump ze iRon
[–]lukitadagaler 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Entra pra academia, se vc é bonito, pra ser gostoso e atraente na sua propria opinião, o que falta é o corpo. Sua auto-estima vai melhorar muito.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Look up " Zan perrion 21 studios " on youtube... i pretty sure u will find ur answer there... he has an amazing talk about what makes a man attractive..
Also OP you could always grow your hair out oeuvre your ears and get tattoos while dressing like a rock star or Adam Levine. That’s an easy way
[–]KosovaKing00 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Honestly this is what I think works best: 1. Recent haircut: and no yee yee cuts such as mullets 2. Cologne: studies have shown women are more attracted to smell than looks. 3. One designer item worn girls love designer so if you compliment their designer item they’ll return the favor and a conversation will start. 4. (Optional) if you’re shorter buy shoes that make you taller then add the lifters inside the shoes to gain about 3inches to your height
[–]npossoesquecer 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d rather be bald than having a mullet lmao
[–]Ilovethaiicedtea 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stand up straight, chest out, arms back, shoulders down.
Look at the middle of women's noses when you talk to them and smile.
I find women are very attracted to people that have itineraries, know where shit is, pick the restaurant, make the group plans and heard the group etc. Of course in a 1 on 1 date scenario, this is even more important.
[–]burncushlikewood 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Take supplements, eat a balanced diet, fruits and vegetables, grains and rice, non red meat fish chicken lamb occasionally, dairy make sure you have milk everyday. Workout, take protein and creatine, 5 days a week, 3 days for muscle building and 2 days for cardio, you don't necessarily have to run play pickup basketball or something. When you workout do legs twice and upper body once. Deadlifts, squats, leg press. Super set workouts with push ups/ pull ups. Then buy some clothes, look into different styles and find clothes that fit well and look good on you, then work on your game do approaches, write a log and analyze what you did right and wrong in your sets.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ask yourself, why you want to be hot?
The fact is that some men/women will be very interested in you, some other not.
Let's say 50/50 ratio.
By being attractive you are just changing the ratio, 40/60 or 30/70
Attractiveness is a little overrated, because of the media, social media, and some dating apps, etc... some attractive people have way too much audience. But it's not that important in real life, it's not really what will determine your success at dating. What's happening in your head is the more critical.
This advice will probably change my life thanks
[–]Throwaway7907901 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cosmetic surgery will truly ascend you like it does with celebrities. But if not then do what others suggested.
[–]N3wAlia5 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Stop being superficial. Guys complain about girls who only date “chad douchebags” and hate nice guys but… Why would you be interested in a bitch that’s only interested in that? If you think you’re a cool guy then just keep being a cool guy and you’ll attract who you’re supposed to.
[–]Anhedonic_Gamer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Cultivate self love, and learn what triggers put you in a good mood. Build a genuinely interesting life that you'd like to live and invite people into your world etc.
Work on developing a particular style that conveys your unique interests passions etc. Hangout in environments where similar types of people are so that you have a basis for rapport. Go on instagram and find some styles of people you like/resonate with and go buy some new cloths. Just some tips.
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