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JRSss · 2012-03-14T07:03:31+00:00

I don't remember who it was but they advocated saying "you're beautiful" to 25 women in a single day. Not hitting on, but just complimenting. The exercise was to get over the fear of talking to women.

30vanquish · 2012-03-14T07:30:40+00:00

It's like you read my mind. This is identical to what I'm going through right now. I also mainly do daygame but I don't really mind failing. I'm relatively outcome independent. Some days I just talk to girls for the sake of talking, don't even try to number close unless the girl really seems worthwhile.

My main problem is I slip into "interview mode" a lot and can't really find a good comfort zone with kino. This happens regardless of whether I use a direct/indirect opener.

Should I be more direct after a direct opener? Like if I walk up to a girl saying "Hey you're cute I needed to talk to you" (A line I've been loving lately) should I continue along a more direct path like asking if she's single, being more flirtatious, etc. Similarly, if I use a more indirect/situational opener, should I be focusing on making a transistion into that? Either way though I just end up asking them questions, and I don't really feel like I'm building attraction as often as I'd like to.

And as for Kino, I don't even know. It's just not natural for me yet. I just become the hand on the shoulder guy. I know when to emphasize it and can sense when things should be naturally smooth, but it just doesn't feel smooth for for me yet.

DesignMyself · 2012-03-14T06:09:41+00:00

I've mostly avoided cold approaches, but I'd really like to get started on daygame.

mileshigh_23 · 2012-03-14T07:58:39+00:00

Make it your goal to become completely and utterly comfortable with rejection. My game right now is higher than it's every been x 50, and it's due to that attitude.

magicroot75 · 2012-03-14T15:37:27+00:00

Been approaching for a year. Probably have not done 1000 though. This actually made me feel a little better about my struggles. Seems like a ton of people here join the community and a couple nights later brag about their exploits.

Zerodown · 2012-03-14T20:24:03+00:00

I think it's important not to lose your pride and just put up with the flakes. Allowing yourself to fail is massively important, but I always try to remind myself that 'she' is not the prize. Everyone is on a level. I think the best 'game' quote I've ever heard/read (and I can't remember which PUA came up with this one sorry) is "I don't accept second class behaviour, from myself or others"

Here's something I wrote for myself some time ago as a reminder that I am not a doormat and there is no game to be played

http://redd.it/qwniq

Worst_Idea_Ever · 2012-03-14T22:36:32+00:00

1000 might be a little much, but I agree with you. I call it "the gauntlet."

Level_75_Zapdos · 2012-03-14T06:36:17+00:00

1,000 is a ridiculously high number. That's 5 girls a day for almost 3 years. If I failed that hard, I would fucking kill myself.

edit: my math is retarded. brb killing myself

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