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[–]educatedwithoutclass 47 points48 points49 points 14 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
touch... everyone?
[–]tmp_acct9 67 points68 points69 points 14 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
especially small children
[–]Dalenopowertools 16 points17 points18 points 14 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
All of the children.
[–]real_nice_guy 20 points21 points22 points 14 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
there shouldn't be a child left untouched.
[–]onenifty 25 points26 points27 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
No Child Left Untouched.
[–]real_nice_guy 7 points8 points9 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
new government initiative, coming to a city near you - 2013.
[–]eamonnnn 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks for the advice real_nice_guy! BRB pulling HB10 pussy
[–]aypez 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
TIL that the number after HB is age.
TIL this entire subreddit is full of pedophiles. ಠ_ಠ
[–]legendofpasta 2 points3 points4 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
touch ALL the bodies??
[–]Mr_Question 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
♪♪TOUCHING ALL THE BODIES♪♪
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[–]Level_75_Zapdos 21 points22 points23 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Hi. I noticed you are not wearing any interesting articles of clothing."
[–]30vanquish 12 points13 points14 points 14 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Glad you asked. One time I said, "Nice black shoes." when they weren't so special. Openers are overrated, just get talking.
But if you want a clear answer: Talk about something else near her. Like her laptop or coffee. However, if there really is nothing. You can be like "Hi, this mocha sucks." (If you use your own thing, you'll have to talk more though).
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Browsing seddit at a [6], read your mocha comment. Hysterical.
Also, never even thought about 'observing' something on myself to use as an opener, I'm always looking for something on them.
[–]30vanquish 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Took me a while to figure this out. Of course, when they can relate you are good. Say the mocha is good if they have a mocha too.
[–]idimmu 3 points4 points5 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Go direct and tell them they're hot, be honest with yourself and her, why did you approach her?
[–]30vanquish 2 points3 points4 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Direct is cool. I personally feel more success with indirect although it's always good to have all tools in your toolbox at disposal
[–]dablac 5 points6 points7 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"Hi, nice face."
[–]legendofpasta 4 points5 points6 points 14 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Hi, I'm a beginner who overthinks, please discuss the 3 second mandatory rule for my sake. I'm not aware of its existance or parameters. Much appreciated. And thanks a lot for your tips, I love reading this stuff and visuallizing myself doing it... It gives me hope. Gives me something to picture when I'm under the squat rack.
[–]30vanquish 5 points6 points7 points 14 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
When you see someone you want to talk to, you have 3 seconds to talk to them before your brain starts making excuses to not talk to them. Therefore just doing it within the first 3 seconds makes it easier for beginners.
[–]legendofpasta 6 points7 points8 points 14 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I really need to use this to motivate me to get the ball rolling. I was in the convenience store last week buying 12 litres of whole milk. (its for the GOMAD diet, if you're familiar with it) anyway, this HB8 walks in the door, as I'm walking toward it. We both stop, we both lock eyes, we both smile - and she had a beautiful smile - and in my best AFC style, I look down and say excuse me... SHHEEESH
In hindsight I should have pulled the direct "I'd really like to hit on you, but I'm holding 12 litres of milk and it might just look silly"
[–]30vanquish 9 points10 points11 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I bet she would've laughed. Trust me, 99% of girls would have laughed at that or at least smiled. Trust yourself and respect yourself enough to give yourself a shot with these beautiful strangers.
shrug and grin "They didn't have any cows."
[–]SuperKiye 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Should've said "This is my milk! Go find your own 12 litre milk!" Followed by a "Just joking"~with a SMILE~. Then wait for her to say something then you spring up with the ULTIMATE QUESTION which is "Are you an actress?" That will get you a good start just don't screw it up.
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sounds good man.
[–]real_nice_guy -3 points-2 points-1 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
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[–]healxph0enix 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
Jump in. Don't think. Go.
A person? Talk.
Say hi. Say nothing. Do anything. Murmur. As long as you just do it:)
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[–]healxph0enix 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well you did hello to everyone. That is awesome.
It is good that you are aware of it. You also seem to understand your thought process.
I am in a similar boat as you. That though process sounds almost exactly like mine or did. I would say I still have trouble, but I am getting better with practice.
Want advice?
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[–]healxph0enix 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Know I had depression. I still have a bit. I had it for 15+ years. I was in a bubble. I rarely talked. I use to shake when someone talked to me. I would just freeze, look down and hide. I spoke about 5-6 words a day average. I kept to myself. I was stuck in my mind. Had addictions to games and many other things. I was looking for a constant escape.
Point is fix your own issues first. Happy you brings happy others. What you see in people is really what you see in yourself. I tried to figure out how to talk but couldn't when I felt so miserable. I say what I said above because I didn't know I even had depression. I was sad constantly but couldn't figure out why. So make sure you are okay with yourself first:)
-Well the first step for me was to keep on exposing myself. I forced myself into groups. Even the ones I didn't really like. I just kept joining groups. Didn't say no to invitations unless I really honestly had to do something else. I used meetup.com. Found someone who invited me. He invites everyone but I took it anyways. Ever since I been invited by several people.
-Second was approaching. Simply saying hey. Just trying to do something. It was awkward as hell for couple months. I had no fucking idea what to do after saying hey, I'm Kenny. Just sat there.
-Third was accepting I had nothing to say, BUT I wanted to something to say. Chill. Don't expect yourself to handle all the conversations.
-So I experimented. I read books, articles, asked for opinions on how to converse. No matter what or who. You have to take it step by step and discover your own way. I had many awkward silences and such. No harm done. This happens to many others too. Just move on like it didn't happen. Learn from it.
-Found being honest works a lot with a bit of tweaking to it. like "Well I wanted to start a conversation because you seem like a interesting girl/guy but I am nervous." or just ask your friends/family "What do you guys say to start conversations?"
This is what is working for me so far, but what applies to all is...
-Don't give up. Keep on trying. It even gets exciting once you start to improve. It becomes an addiction:P
-It is common for people to have nothing to say sometimes. Just is. Practice lessens it. You are not alone.
-Start with what you can handle. Step by step. Rushing it will only backfire.
-Be okay with yourself. Accept who you are. Only then will others accept you:)
edit: Not saying you have issues with yourself, but that is important to handle first if you do.
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[–]healxph0enix 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I see. There we go.
You can start with going out with friends and talking to strangers.
Maybe ask about there friend you don't know and meet them together. Baby steps.
Also it may help you. Pretend to be friends with everyone. Look at a stranger as if you are good friends, but you haven't seen him in 20 years. You know nothing of him, but you feel comfortable and want to get to know everything that's been going on.
I read this somewhere. Didn't work for me, but heard it worked great for some:)
[–]30vanquish 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
When a girl is sitting that works. When she is walking, you'll need to jog to her and go direct. That's the only option when the girl walks by and is ahead of you (from what I've seen)
[–]enzo32ferrari 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
what's your opinion on Direct game?
Glad you asked. It depends on the person. Indirect works well for me because I know my value is with my sarcasm and humor, so I want to show that first.
[–][deleted] -4 points-3 points-2 points 14 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm all for touch, but high-fives are for bro's (not your friends, the bro stereotype).
[–]sithyiscool 10 points11 points12 points 14 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
High fives are for anyone. I see people do it naturally all the time when there is an excited agreement reached.
Yes. Even the elderly.
[–]real_nice_guy 1 point2 points3 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
for successful high-five, look at other persons elbow.
[–]HeroicPrinny 0 points1 point2 points 14 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
High Five!
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