Diary of a Serial Chode-user

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-08-06T15:56:07+00:00

She's trying too hard to make it happen. Unfortunately, this seems to be the norm. People think that if they just follow society's prescription for life, they'll find happiness. But they won't because it's unnatural. That's why she's not feeling the chemistry.

She wasn’t particularly interested in most of the men she went out with, but she became wrapped up in whether they were interested in her.

This sentence is very telling. She's seeking validation, not having fun.

apow · 2012-08-06T18:42:01+00:00

Paying for a date is a flirtation, says Laurie Davis, who runs a website called eFlirtexpert, a way for the man to signal his interest. “If he splits with you,” she suggests, “then perhaps he looks at you as more of a friend.”

HAHA /thread

Bunabayashi · 2012-08-06T14:03:39+00:00

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yokhai · 2012-08-06T16:53:21+00:00

U mad bro? yeah u mad

That's dating in any major city.

Did you see the paragraph where she stocks her apt with food and shit for when a date comes home with her.

She is playing up the very social norm side of dating. Doing what society in upper class Northern USA has taught her.

She is 30 dating in a very financial secure social setting. There is a whole self analysis where she said she was perfectly fine splitting checks when she was in her 20's, but now she is for the full package, and that includes financial stability, and the easiest ways to show that is expensive dates.

She is looking for something substantial, not just serial dating for free food. It's clearly not worth her time and money. This type of dating is very indicative of some one who knows the game and plays it the way she wants.

I fully applaude her. You go girl!

sedditpro · 2012-08-07T09:10:30+00:00

This is nowhere near as bad as that woman that Roosh linked to in his twitter. Hideous woman, and she's made an art of living off of men's pocketbooks. All because obesity is such a rampant epidemic in America.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-08-07T15:13:50+00:00

Stories like this are exactly why following the standard rules of dating doesn't work. This girl goes on 3-4 dates per week. If you meet her for drinks and tell her about your succesful accounting job and your weekend trips to the family beach house, do you really think she's gonna be impressed? She hears the same boring story every other day! You'd have to have the most fascinating career in the history of mankind to stand out in that field!

People feel love & lust when they form connections. People form connections when they share memorable experiences. You're never going to create a memorable experience for a woman by being the fourth guy that week who met her for drinks and went over the standard dating questions.

PUAdept · 2012-08-06T18:19:07+00:00

She goes on bar dates rather than insisting on dinner, offers to pay for the second round and is open to sex on the first date. Not sure that is chode-using. I would let her get the second round or abort if I wasn't feeling it. But I guarantee if Adam had been more alpha, cocky and funny, she would have felt chemistry. Third date should be cook at home, not fancy dinner. Save the fancy dinners for after sex when you know there is strong, mutual attraction.

Title	Diary of a Serial Chode-user
Author	Bunabayashi
Upvotes	3
Comments	13
Date	August 6, 2012 1:17 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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