Did I blow it?

Tatleman68 · 2024-04-11T22:35:02+00:00

I think you're overthinking it. Also, she is a waitress and is probably nice to people for tips.

However, you could try asking her out, why not. I wouldn't wait weeks before asking her out though. Go for it!

psychonaughty666 · 2024-04-11T23:41:17+00:00

Neediness man. You will screw it up one way or another. You could go back as a «regular», but most likely you wont be able to act normal since you are overthinking it..

johnnys6guns · 2024-04-11T22:27:34+00:00

This is how I met my wife.

Goldliner6263 · 2024-04-11T23:58:31+00:00

I think that's fine. I would pop through ideally when it isn't so busy. So she has a bit of time to chat.

midnight_toker22 · 2024-04-11T23:07:04+00:00

You blew a good moment but the chance isn’t dead and buried.

Might as well go back and try to ask her out, the worst that could happen is the exact same thing that’ll happen if you don’t try in the first place.

skunkmere · 2024-04-11T23:00:22+00:00

I think you should ask her for her number. If she rejects you then you will get that experience and if she doesn't then you got her number, win/win

Ok-Abbreviations9212 · 2024-04-11T23:14:24+00:00

You didn't blow it.

You showed a little vulnerability. That's OK. Go ahead and go back in a week.

noiceonebro · 2024-04-12T06:51:58+00:00

Can’t say. Just because you blushed didn’t mean you blew it. I’ve been there and sometimes it only made her got interested in me more. Something along the lines of it making me “look cuter” maybe. Being adorkable can sometimes work.

Yes, coming across as someone in control might be your aim with girls, but I don’t think any reasonable woman would think you actually are in control all the time. Blushing might make them go “Oh this guy failed 😒” or “Oh I got him now 😏.” You just never know.

Being married now, I think she becomes more intense during sexy times if I blushed a little during kiss and foreplay. It makes her feel sexy enough to make my usual stoic/controlled self lose my ground, and this in turn makes her feel more turned on. All good.

EquivalentSnap · 2024-04-12T11:31:49+00:00

She’s a waitress. It’s her job to be friendly. Not like she asked for your number

AnimalLivid9899 · 2024-04-12T06:57:27+00:00

Just get it done. Live life. Enjoy the moments. Ask the girl.

Eezay · 2024-04-12T08:13:41+00:00

Try it, why not. You have nothing to lose basically. Just do me a favor and take it easily if she does reject you, it is very uncomfortable for service workers having to reject unwanted advances.

Honest_Solid2117 · 2024-04-12T11:26:52+00:00

Play into what happened. Go back, if she's working then tell her that you froze up. Tell her that you where literally lost for words, you think she's a beautiful girl and that you'd like to take her out.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-04-11T23:44:21+00:00

You blew it by thinking you had a real chance with a waitress, she was flirting with who was at your table before, the table next to you and whoever sits there next.

Servers want tips, not love

Title	Did I blow it?
Author	mysteryplays
Upvotes	56
Comments	17
Date	April 11, 2024 10:20 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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