In my life amongst all the girls I met there was only one who I would have made my wife no questions asked, geniune baddie who had all the good qualities and a personality that made her an ideal woman in my eyes.

Yet she is not with me, largely cause I was simply didn't care about my social/relative status and was not simply at the right moment at the right time.

Growing up as an only child I grew very independent and bit accustomed to doing things on my own. As such rarely spent time on activities that did not bring direct benefits or seemed more like a waste of time. Like studying on my own rather than doing homework with other classmates like it was common back in my school days, in college same thing I would only take part in group projects because I needed to, instead of seeking out study groups I studied on my own. I always had few good bros that I always hang out with, as such never saw the need of involving myself in social activities.

In turn aside from one night stands here and there I did not have much of a dating life and the women that were attracted to me were either the ones I was myself not attracted and in general not my type.

I blamed it all on my looks or my lack of game, the truth was I simply was not meeting new people, getting myself into social activities or groups that would allow me to meet women that were of my preference. Put it simply, I knew few people and few people knew me. Therefore in the eyes of girls I meet I was a total stranger with no invisible green approval mark floating above my head. That in turn led to more rejections than my looks, financial status, lack of game or other external factors I blamed.

Sad thing is, I have seen many wife materials as well as genuine baddies being in relationships with rather mediocre guys simply because those guys were slightly more social and had spent some of their free time getting themselves involved in social clubs or events those girls were in. Outside of those groups these guys might have nothing going on, yet they will have more luck than a 10/10 guy who sits home all day.

Had I realized it soon, I likely would have spent my early 20s actually dating women that I wished I could have.