Feeling shitty about dating multiple women?

traceviral · 2019-01-23T04:07:31+00:00

lol i used to then i found out girls do that shit and not give a fuck.

muff_marauder · 2019-01-23T04:14:48+00:00

They do it way more often than you do and they give even less of a fuck.

It's normal.

RedPillMissionary · 2019-01-23T06:40:54+00:00

Imagine having a rolodex of ten guys who pay for your meals and drinks because they all think you’re “talking.”

somewhatintrigued · 2019-01-23T06:48:28+00:00

I'll take a slightly different angle here. If you're dating a girl regularly, you should be clear with her that you're not exclusive. Many girls will just assume exclusivity, and as much as the other commenters here are all on the "fuck bitches am i rite?" train, you don't want to hurt people.

HitMan8811 · 2019-01-23T10:51:13+00:00

I feel you man but just know that women are 10x worse and more promiscuous than you will ever be.

Freevoulous · 2019-01-23T13:37:07+00:00

If you lie to them claiming that you are monogamous and only with one of them - SHITTY

If you never mention dating multiple girls, but admit when asked - NON SHITTY

If you are open about dating multiple women, make a point of mentioning it, and actually attract MORE women because of it - FOOKIN LEGEND

floppyjabjab · 2019-01-23T04:42:25+00:00

beta mentality by social conditioning. keep on it girls want guys that other women want, it's called preselection. Also every woman is wired to have backup so they will always do it, they evolved to ensure their survival since back in the caveman era dudes be dying easily as result of hunting and conflicts

DadOnDabs · 2019-01-23T14:59:46+00:00

I do sometimes but then I remember it's all part of the game. Also I'm very up front and honest about my intentions from the start.

Last night I fucked one girl but wasn't satisfied so I called another when she left and fucked her. I walked girl 2 out and kissed her goodbye. Immediately walk 30 ft over to girl 1s car (she was waiting for me) and went and had a fun date.

Rkingpin · 2019-01-23T09:05:10+00:00

The demise of this sub continues

InFlames7891 · 2019-01-23T20:06:18+00:00

They are probably dating multiple guys.....don't feel bad.

HeavyMeringue · 2019-01-23T07:37:42+00:00

Women play the game too.Never be afraid to do this,be sure they may be seeing other people around the same time they are seeing you.Plus if you keep the dates cheap,you will have an abundance mindset and look less thirsty.Do not lose your frame though because they will get a wiff of that.

SUCK_MY_DICTIONARY · 2019-01-23T12:17:51+00:00

I don’t feel shitty about it but I still get that taboo feeling. It comes from being in primarily LTRs and not even knowing it was normal to date multiple people until my 20s.

There’s nothing wrong with not dating multiple women. However, the overwhelming opinion is that dating multiple will lead to a more healthy relationship because you learn more how to choose somebody who complements your life rather than find the first one who will settle.

Also, it’s just a simple game of opportunity cost. I’ve passed on matches or hitting up girls when I had a “sure thing” in a girl I was dating, only to find out later that I really didn’t like her that much. Consider this:

Imagine you’re hanging out in a bar and a guy walks in and offers you $10,000 to do a simple task for him. He is content sitting at that bar and discussing the task but you feel obligated to treat him for a drink at a nicer bar. Right after you leave, another man walks in and, because you’ve already left, offers the guy who was sitting next to you $10,000,000 to do half of that work. Now in discussion with the first guy, you realize that $10,000 is about half of your price and you pass. You’re now out the money for the drinks, the time you spent with him, and you missed out on the $10,000,000 offer.

Next time you feel bad about dating two people at once just think about the above principle. That is practically what happens when you pigeonhole yourself. If you are a secure person, you don’t feel the need to chase a deal or blockade yourself. Because a secure person knows that if they “miss out” on something, they’ll probably have another chance at it in the future.

BillyMac814 · 2019-01-23T21:35:51+00:00

I’ve been feeling this way, especially towards the one. Here’s my rationale though. Women want a confident man, it makes them feel safe, special and turns them on. I find when I start to put all my focus towards one woman I turn into a needy little bitch(slight exaggeration maybe). Yet when I’m with multiple women I seem to be the guy they are into, therefore the only way I can give them what they want is to see multiple women.

That only works for a while though, I’m not committed to anyone or cheating on anyone to achieve this.

Serg885 · 2019-01-23T12:21:52+00:00

I date multiple women from time to time. And with date I mean have sex with. I see nothing wrong with it and it's the most normal thing in the world. Without social brainwash and guilt tripping much more people would do it.

If you would be married with kids, that would be an entire different story. First of all because I see it as a responsibility to be a good parent. Secondly it is a marriage contract (just like a business contract) which you have to value or else there are pretty heavy sanctions. Like losing all your wealth and landing without a dime on the street.

DarkArtsPUA11 · 2019-01-23T15:39:49+00:00

if you're an unexperienced virgin 21 year old boy who has never touched a girl then yes you may feel that you are sleazy

but if you are a guy that loves dating and fucks regularly then you will see it as just a normal thing

Title	Feeling shitty about dating multiple women?
Author	LegacyTeutonic
Upvotes	15
Comments	32
Date	January 23, 2019 4:05 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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