[FR] she started talking about a guy she liked on a date.

WayOfTheGentleman · 2015-10-19T09:16:10+00:00

You may have read my recent post on how to have lots of casual sex and threesomes.

It revolves around being the guy she can let go with, who she can tell anything to you.

Being jealous of other guys has no place in your world. You are totally awesome, and almost certainly the best choice for her.

So when she shows you all the messages she gets, why not show you understand her situation? Instead of thinking 'why would she like me, when she's got all these other guys?', why not say 'yeah, I bet it gets tiresome getting tons of guys desperately chasing you down all day everyday.'

Because most girls do feel like that, and most guys are desperate.

By saying this, you're understanding her situation and at the same time placing yourself above all the other guys in her phone. They are desperate and chasing and you are not.

I have a lot of chats with girls about what it's like to be her. What's her experience of tinder like? What's her experience of being in a bar and getting approached by guys like? What's a normal date for her look like? What kind of stuff do other guys do that irritate her?

Not only does this give you amazing insight into the world of a hot girl, it shows you as a guy who gets it. The mere fact you're sat there talking with her about the stuff lame dudes do implies that you're not one of those lame dudes.

Apexk9 · 2015-10-19T16:25:38+00:00

I would have kissed her. "Now I'm your last kiss"

I'm a great kisser so for me usually the Kiss opens it up.

Tip make the kiss slow and passionate [WOMEN LOVE EVERYTHING SLOW] then bite her lip and pull back release and peck.

My secret kissing technique.

If she showed me texts of guys texting her I'd take her phone and turn it off. I have a strict NO PHONE policy when I'm with a girl.

better_every_week · 2015-10-19T14:06:45+00:00

It's a shit test dude. She wants to see how insecure you are. She's subconsciously trying to figure out where you are in the pecking order. Dismiss it completely by saying something like "yup lots of thirsty guys out there, so anyway..."

recyclablebantha · 2015-10-19T18:32:22+00:00

So the date was going well, we were both touching, sitting very close like a couple. She was asking many questions about me, and if I went queit she would start the convo again. Lots of eye contact, and smiles from her. When I tease her, and she can't think of a comeback she just hits me.

Sounds good. It's also good that you are present enough that you were aware of these things.

Anyway just before I tried to kiss her she, she started talking about another guy she liked a while ago, and said that was her last kiss.

First thought: when did you try to kiss her? How and when did you decide this?

This was a turn off so I just a backed off, enjoyed the drinks. She then showed me all the random guys who text her.

Yeah, I'd understand that being a turn off. Because she is literally disconnecting from you and bringing other guys into it. She sounds insecure. It sounds like your attempt to kiss her, triggered her memory of that guy, who she still thinks of. And rather than process that by herself, she chose to dump it out and process it with the last person who'd want to hear about it, her date.

Then she made the same mistake a lot of guys make, she basically talked about other people in her dating pool.

To put that into perspective, think about what would happen if a GUY did that to a girl in the exact situation. He'd pretty much friend-zone himself almost immediately at the point of the kiss, most of the time. And then he'd add insult to injury by activating her ASD by bringing up all those other people.

Something to think about: if a guy has bad game, there are immediate consequences. And rightly so; a girl is going to have a bad time with an insecure guy. But if a girl has bad game, too many guys ignore it because they are too concerned with getting in there.

An hour later she text me , "thanks for the awesome night, get home safe xxxxxx" I did not reply. 30 mins after this she text me again "I love that song you showed me in the car, can't stop playing it"

This means that she shut down the kiss because she wasn't ready for it but did so in a way that took a dump all over everything. Or maybe she didn't see it as a date and only realized when you tried to kiss her. Maybe that's why she shut things down like she did. Now she's insecurely trying to make sure that things are still cool.

It's unclear if she wants to continue. I mean, she may have been completely oblivious to how she killed the vibe. She still wants to be friends, whatever else she may want.

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It revolves around being the guy she can let go with, who she can tell anything to you.

Getting girls to "tell anything" to you is not required to get to casual sex. In fact, talking dirty before sex has happened, is a good way to shut things down by triggering ASD.

Being jealous of other guys has no place in your world. You are totally awesome, and almost certainly the best choice for her.

This is just not a practical way to look at it. More relevant is the girl and whether OP is attracted or not. He appears to be turned off. She appears to be a poor choice for him.

So when she shows you all the messages she gets, why not show you understand her situation? Instead of thinking 'why would she like me, when she's got all these other guys?', why not say 'yeah, I bet it gets tiresome getting tons of guys desperately chasing you down all day everyday.'

I don't think the point is that OP was insecure about the other guys, but that the girl was kind of lame for diverting things from the date to these other dudes.

Can a girl be gamed when she does something like that? Of course. But the question is, does a guy want a girl who requires so much work? It's up to each guy to answer that. OP appears to think she's not worth the work. His call and perfectly valid.

Her mentioning other dudes is like dhving herself. It's like saying, "look wartole, i am a catch!"

Uh, no. The whole thing was not DHVing herself. She either didn't want the kiss or couldn't get the other guy out of her head.

Rayjaysdick · 2015-10-19T20:34:05+00:00

Seems like she is testing to see how jealous and insecure you are. And it seems like you are both.

ItsMachu · 2015-10-19T16:01:23+00:00

Didn't read anything past the title. If she talked about a guy she likes on your first date, then you my friend, are not on a date.

Title	[FR] she started talking about a guy she liked on a date.
Author	wartorle
Upvotes	13
Comments	41
Date	October 19, 2015 8:35 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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