Learning about game and understanding social dynamics has literally changed my life over a matter of weeks. I’ve never been socially awkward or shit with girls, but I have never truly understood how and why things have worked for me in the past. Having access to all this information has allowed me to decode my past successes and realise what my strengths are, enabling me to play to them.

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2 weekends ago I decided to actually start applying what I had read/learnt and it’s been going amazingly well for me so far. I went to a nightclub and felt so in tune with my surroundings. I noticed the guys with no confidence staring at girls from the edge of the room. I could see the desperate/horney girls with their periscope like head movements desperate for IOI’s, wanting to be approached. I noticed the eye contact that lasted a few seconds longer than just glancing. For the first night I took all the pressure off myself to actually pull/score with a girl that night and instead decided to just have an awesome night and be social.

I noticed a cute girl with her friend who kept looking over, so I approached and introduced myself to them both. After saying hello and introducing myself and shaking both their hands I asked how their night was going and was immediately hit with a shit test (before I would have never realised this and probably took it to heart). “awesome before you showed up” (no smile) , I blew this completely and obviously out of proportion (in a fun way) as if I was offended while turning to the one I liked and saying something like “oh my god I can’t believe she said that! Is she always this mean? I’m going to go over there and cry now”. This had them both laughing and the girl who said it reached over and grabbed my arm and told me how she was only joking (obviously). Now before I wouldn’t have known where to take the interaction but now I knew I had to show intent. I started Kino with the girl I liked, touching her arm while talking, then progressed to touching her lower back while talking into her ear, all while telling her I loved her style and I thought she looked like a sexy rock chick etc. and that’s why I came over. I knew damn well I needed a wingman in order to isolate her from her obvious ‘leader’ friend but the guy who I went out with was hopeless. I wasn’t going to just 3rd wheel this group all night so after a while I told them I’d catch up with them soon and went to the bar.

From then on I just bounced from one group to another on the dancefloor/bar area, meeting tons of people and generally being a fun guy to meet and be with - High energy, here to have fun and not taking myself seriously in the slightest.

I caught the eye of another hot girl from over the dance floor and smiled and winked at her while I stood waiting to get served at the bar. Next thing I know, she is stood right next to me. I’m pretty sure she had seen me talking to tons of different people and being ‘fun’ and wanted to see what the fuss was about. The club was a rock/underground nightclub and she was dressed very different to the usual type of tattooed rock chicks (that I love). I introduced myself and said while touching her back and talking into her ear “can I be completely honest with you?” I could tell she was intrigued as her eyes light up and she said “of course”. I told her that I can tell this isn’t usually where you go on a weekend and your friends have dragged you here right? She cracked up and started laughing at the correct observation. We talked for a while then I told her I was going for a cigarette and I’d catch her soon.

By the time I got outside, the first 2 girls shouted me over and I joined them and we chatted. At this point I have met almost half the club and the other half didn’t seem worth knowing - fun wise. I feel as if I was drawn to the people on my wave length that were there to do the same as me and because of this we got on very well.

Next thing I’m been dragged away by a guy and a girl I had met earlier as they start pulling my T-shirt up to checkout my tattoos (I have a very unique full sleeve), saying they had been dying to see it. I looked over and saw the look in the eyes of the girl I first spoke to. As stupid as it sounds I felt high value, that I was ‘the guy’ everyone likes having around.

Going back into the club I was dancing with a group and turned to see the first girl again. She grabbed me and told me what I suspected/felt like, that I was a really fun guy to hang out with and that she was glad to have met me.

When the night started drawing to a close I found my ‘wingman’ outside. He’d pretty much ditched me all night as he didn’t have the confidence to do what I was asking of him, which was? Just talk to the hot girl I told him to after opening a group. Not too hard right? Anyway, no hard feelings as he’s a friend of 10+ years and I understand we’re not all on the same level.

I got some numbers while outside chatting with some girls I’d met, but I knew they held barely any weight as I hadn’t escalated enough for it to mean anything other than ‘that fun guy to hang out with’, no sexual tension etc. what so ever.

This was an amazing night and an eye opening experience. I couldn’t wait to do it again, but this time actually pulling the trigger. I had maybe had a few too many drinks, but like I mentioned earlier, I knew what I was trying to achieve and spending all night trying to pull/fuck a girl wasn’t that.

Moving on to this weekend.

With my new found ‘social confidence’ I decided to apply this ‘fun guy to hang out with’ persona to everything, not just when drunk at 3am in a club. This time though, I wanted to actually pull the girl at the end, without sacrificing how much fun I had before.

I had a date set up for 2pm with one of the girls from the previous weekend. I knew 100% she would flake on me, as I knew there wasn’t enough done at the time we met – so important.

5 minutes before the date she text me tons of rubbish excuses, to which I just replied “are you serious?”. She replied a few more times but I didn’t waste any more time and ignored it, next. I was already on route to the coffee shop so I thought screw it, I’ll grab a beer in this fun bar around the corner. It was buzzing and it was only 2pm. Stood at the bar I got chatting to a HB and guy who I presumed was her boyfriend. To cut a long story short, I basically chatted to everyone at the bar that seemed interesting. Small compliments, random questions to kick start an interaction “Hey, you tried the food here? I’m starving”, “That drink looks so damn fancy, how’s it taste?”, “that biker jacket is awesome dude”. The girl and guy at the bar invited me over to meet their friends and I quickly got on well with everyone, making them laugh and showing interest in getting to know them etc. all while I waited for my friend to show up (guy from previous weekend). He turns up to see me with a group of around 12 people, which I have met all of them and now know their names so I introduce him.

They invited us from bar to bar with them as they said we were fun to hang out with, again I feel as though I’m dragging my friend along for the ride a little but I don’t mind, he’s a bro and If I have to drag his ass screaming into this new social life I will, as I wish someone had for me 3 years ago (I know he appreciates it). We had a great time with everyone and made some cool friends, but there was a lack of ‘gaming’ going on as all of the chicks in the group were coupled up with the dudes.

Once it started to get later on and the clubs and party bars started opening we all started to party, but I kept a lid on my drinking this time – kind of.

In a bar later on that night, around 12:30am I saw this cute girl I liked with her friends, talking to some of my new friends and thought to myself, I’m going to take her home tonight. I didn’t think she might reject me, I didn’t get up in my head, I just acted. I went over and introduced myself to them and we all chatted as a group. After a few minutes I found myself just talking to the cute girl, great eye contact and light Kino going on. I took her hand and sat us both down to continue chatting – still very strong eye contact while escalating further with Kino. Know I’ve read stuff on here about you’ll just know when you can kiss a girl and I just knew. Midway through her sentence I just leaned in and kissed her, she kissed back hard.

After a while my new group of friends were leaving, they’d had a long day and so had I to be fair, but I wasn’t finished yet. After the goodbyes I took the cute girl by the hand and switched venues. We went to a few places, had fun together, danced, laughed, just generally a fun night.

After a few more hours we got a taxi back to hers and you can imagine the rest of the story.

Anyway, if you’ve read all this then thanks for reading!

Don’t just read all the information on this sub/online. Get out there and start making it happen, your life will change and you will fucking love it.

One of the best pieces of advice I have ever come across in regards to bar/night game, was from RSD Tyler and it basically explains how you should ‘absorb’ the energy of the place you’re in, then let that come through in your interactions. It works so well.

TL;DR Had awesome weekend being social with no pressure/expectation of pulling a girl that night – focusing on being a fun guy to hang out with and generally just enjoying myself.

Then decided to do the same again the following weekend, fun guy to hang out with, met tons of new friends, but this time weaved some game into this later into the night and scored the girl at the end.

Good luck bros.

Edit: spelling