[FR]saturday - ouch - feel suicidal

Turlast · 2017-07-02T01:46:11+00:00

Fuck that suicidal shit. Build from your pain. That shit sucks. It really sucks. Don't let that defeat you, though. You'll push through it.

kalolilo · 2017-07-02T07:58:07+00:00

You're really putting in the work. Good!

Try to be a bit more funny, upbeat, cocky, but be a bit careful with the cocky. :p

It is normal that you get very harsh rejection, be proud when you get one. It means younput in the work!

Kamikazie95 · 2017-07-02T09:13:02+00:00

Rejection is something that's going to happen all the time, the best thing to do is accept and embrace it. It makes you stronger for the next person you approach! Also I find that approaching a girl at a party or club is more difficult than even just walking up to a random stranger on the sidewalk. There's this "red carpet" effect that happens at clubs that makes people think they're too good for you (i.e the rude girl who said you had no chance). It's all about how you go about it, you can't try to pick up a girl at a party/club the same way you try to pick up a girl you know or have a rapport with. Most girls at a party are with their wolf pack of friends and are just looking to have a good time so you trying to break them away from the fun and ask them their name, tell them their pretty, etc is basically the opposite of the vibe around you. When you go to these events focus on whether or not you and your friends are having fun amongst EACH OTHER. When you do this you come off as more positive and it shows you don't care what everyone else is doing, you're worried about you and your people. While enjoying yourself, 8 times out of 10 you're going to come across a girl that looks over at you (people notice when you're having fun, I don't know why but it's true) and then just pull her to dance. Don't try to make an entire conversation, just grab her hand if she's been staring at you or if she hasn't and you think shes attractive just outright ask if she wants to (politely of course). If she says no then just keep having fun with your boys and keep scouting for other potential mates throughout the night. Sorry for this being so long but I used to be exactly like you so I relate with your post alot. I hated going to parties/clubs because I felt awkward and didn't know what to do so I would mostly just lean on the wall and watch everyone else dance. In fact I used to be WORSE than you! At least you have the courage to walk up to a girl and say something, at that point in my life I couldn't even do that! Never give up, there's always someone new to talk to. Rather than dwell on the few that rejected you look forward to the next ones who might say yes.

BTW I used to lean on the wall and watch people dance at parties and I'm 6'1", average looking, would dress really well, and I'm from the U.S. (it doesn't matter where you're from). You don't have to be 7 feet tall you just need a little confidence and perseverance, good luck!

ASAP_JAMS · 2017-07-02T05:06:24+00:00

Come on now

Ragondux · 2017-07-02T09:47:21+00:00

I feel like shit and feel as though only tall, handosme guys have got a shot at prettty girls.

On the dancefloor or on Tinder it's a bit true. But assuming you have a good personality why don't you try to approach women in a context where you can talk to them before being rejected?

ianxious · 2017-07-02T09:51:44+00:00

I was slightly drunk when I wrote this FR.

I don't think I really want to kill myself! :)

But I do feel VERY hopeless in terms of girls. I just don't think lots of people can relate to how it feels to CONSTANTLY get harsh rejections no matter how I adapt my approach.

My internet history is full of 2 things:

Plastic surgery websites and airline websites for places like Thailand and the Philipenes where I at least have the 'white God' factor - Would feel amazing to have girls receptive to me

I'm not even angry at girls for only liking handsome guys because to be honest, I only want good looking girls!

It would be wrong to get judgemental about it all, but it hurts none-the-less

rohan417 · 2017-07-02T12:17:07+00:00

First of all congratulations for taking action and implementing that, that shit takes major balls.

I think in those interactions, the girls were rude. Plus, I would suggest to talk somewhere like a bar where people go out to talk to people rather than a club where people go out to dance. Of you want to hit on a girl in a dance club, I suggest the smoking area. The direct approach works, you just have to be confident and polite. And one more thing dude, don't give a fuck if a girl isn't interested in talking to you. It's simply not personal, she doesn't know enough about you to reject you as a person.

savagesteve_13 · 2017-07-02T20:14:00+00:00

Gotta have the right attitude, for example

Approach 2:

Girl is dancing near me

Me: Hi. You're cute.

Her: You've got no chance!!

Me: "Okay!" wild eyed then dance off.

I don't approach on the dance floor, its hard to not be awkward. I do what animals have been doing for millions of years, I do my dancing in front of them to impress, like how some fish wiggle to show off their shiny scales to prospective females. I may point at them to say "Hey look at me". Its outrageous and sometimes comical but it does work. The trick is to get them to laugh and smile.

There's also a good way to get a girl to dance without even saying a thing. When a song I love starts, I just go up to her and point, beckon to dance, if she gestures no I just give her the double palm and dance away. Its about being a fun person.

Remember in 100 years nobody will remember what you did at the club, heck nobody will remember the next day what you did at the club unless it makes the local news.

Cocky_Douchebag · 2017-07-03T01:14:39+00:00

Ok, I used to have a lot of approaches very similar to yours in your FRs.

You gotta change you're attitude and energy.

It doesn't seem like you're bringing any fun to your sets and definitely not entering the mindset of having fun. I personally don't like thinking of them as "approaches". While doing them, gotta get into more of the " damn I wanna go talk to that hottie" mindset. Try and be more bold, a little more polarizing. Speak your mind, make more cold assumptions, joke around a little more.
Also it looks like you're going for name and where they're from a little to quick, you're being too formal IMO. Make them smile or laugh or at least get them slightly interested in you before you dive for a little info.

That girl wags her finger at you? You look at her funny with a smile and wag back lol , UK girls are indeed rude, it's okay to be a bit of a douche too though. Don't be too nice, no girl wants to fuck a guy who just agrees with them

Basic shit homie, keep it up. Remember to smile. And most of all, don't give a fuck.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-07-05T00:06:21+00:00

___1___

from roahano017 and with_more_feeling

I need to be more direct and state my intent from the open - So, I opened direct.

Ugh. No. They didn't know what they were talking about.

It's impossible to know your "intent" from the beginning. She could be completely lame. The point is to go find out what she's like.

Not to assume you want her when she might not be worth your time. This is the basis of the whole "you are the prize," mentality.

___2___

Gril is dancing near me on the fance floor:

me: Hi, I know this is unusual, but I just noticed you. I'm anix - you are gorgeous

So here, she was dancing and you opened her verbally with a generic compliment.

Unimaginative. Anyone could walk up with a general comment like that.

What's more, you're in a CLUB. A place dedicated to dancing and listening to loud music. So your opener is to interrupt the fun? What you did was like going to a LAN party without a computer and pulling the headphones off of someone and insisting they listen to you.

It's not that verbal openers are impossible. But they're pretty advanced in the sense that you need some confidence to pull them off.

And anyway, there are so many non-verbal openers you could be working with.

___3___

her: Ok. Nice to know

Yeah, you were already done.

___4___

Me: (After a few awkward seconds of dancing near her)

I touch her shoulder ato get her attention and say

'''wHo ARE YOU HERE with>>???''

Her: get your hands off me!! Go away

You started off with an awkward interruption of an opener.

Then you made matters worse by disregarding her clear ending of the conversation.

THEN you made things really bad by violating her space after she made it clear that she didn't even want to talk to her. Touching her after she rejected a conversation..... No, man. That's tone deaf.

You were paying enough attention that you probably knew this wasn't a good move and you did it anyway. You need to listen to yourself better.

Title	[FR]saturday - ouch - feel suicidal
Author	ianxious
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	July 2, 2017 1:17 AM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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