Perhaps it is the way I approach, but every time I approach I either get a number or get a "You're so sweet but I have a boyfriend" response. Here are the tenets of my approach.

  1. I always try to learn from every interaction. After a convo ends I think about what felt strong and what felt off. I use the app Shawty that gives quick metrics on content and flow so I can see patterns fast and get better without overthinking it forever. Helps keep the momentum going for the next one.
  2. I always makes sure she sees me before I approach. This means walking in front of her before speaking to her. I want to make my presence known beforehand so she isn't startled.
  3. I do daygame. In daygame, try to right off the bat give them a cute/pretty/beautiful compliment so they know why I am talking to them. I used to just start small talk with them for no apparent reason, but I always got the feeling that they were wondering why the hell I was spending so much time talking to them.
  4. I don't care that other people are listening in. Ironically, most of the time they are supportive of my approach. Regardless, I choose not to care about people listening in.
  5. I am always closing. Even if the interaction sucks, I always ask for the date. It is just a good habit to have and you never know when they will say yes.
  6. I ask for the date instead of the phone number. To me, it is more manly and less playerish to ask for the date. It shows your intent, and displays that you are there to take her out, not to chat on the phone.
  7. Regardless of how it goes, I always end on a high note. I always say it was nice meeting them. Mainly because I might run into them again and I don't want any problems.
  8. I ask them about their passions. I try to direct the conversation toward what they love to talk about, not just the mundane and regular.
  9. I do pickup with a purpose. I never do pickup for the sake of doing pickup. I do pickup while going to work, while going to the coffee shop, or while waiting for the train. I am always doing something with my life. Even when I am doing pickup with a buddy, I am spending time hanging out with him. This changes the whole dynamic of pickup. Instead of measuring your success by how many numbers you get, you measure success by how your job went, and you got numbers as a bonus.
  10. I follow the 3 second rule. I see a hot chick, I have 3 seconds to decide whether or not to approach her. If I think yes then I go in immediately. If I think no then I pass.
  11. I text girls immediately after I meet them. Literally immediately. I text them something along the lines of "It's the beautiful Jane! How is the lab? -heretogetbetter". If they don't respond the same day I keep their number but delete the thread. Gotta make space for new threads.

This is what I have found helpful in my daygame. I'm able to get numbers, all without missing my stride going to work and heading to the coffee shop.