Go speak to her, right now!

NebulaOk · 2021-02-09T13:31:08+00:00

I think we are living in a sick society. Nobody's talking to anybody, everybody's looking at their phones. I realized sometimes only saying hi to someone can make their day. This shit's going in a bad direction.

LarfleezePlz · 2021-02-09T13:39:13+00:00

You’re so right @OP I’ve recently started doing this more after weeks of overthinking every little detail. You can’t worry too much about what she’ll say, if she shoots you down, or just straight up gives you a fake number. It doesn’t matter if you strike out at least you’re going up to bat.

razkun1234 · 2021-02-09T18:19:44+00:00

Just spoke to her. Got friendzoned. Thanks op.

Floloppi · 2021-02-09T14:44:49+00:00

Oh man, if i would have read this post 5 mins early i would have done 2 approaches, but i didn’t! So i didn’t approached them but instead found excuses not to do it... next time im gonna have your words in mind.

usernamesarehard25 · 2021-02-09T16:48:05+00:00

It's as Yoda says: "Do, or do not. There is no try."

feed_the_ak · 2021-02-09T16:58:36+00:00

I would message her, but only last week she left me on delivered for like 24 hours and then opened it and ignored it at like 12 midnight.

Something's telling me she doesn't wanna talk.

bacardiandbenchpress · 2021-02-09T16:20:50+00:00

Man I just read the first example and that was enough for me, didn’t need to read the rest, I got the message loud and clear

Helipilot22 · 2021-02-09T16:43:35+00:00

Baptism by fire, it's the only way. Just have your intentions known to both yourself and her. Don't be a sleeze or fake, doesn't work. Don't believe me, try it. Unless you like fake woman than be my guest.

burncushlikewood · 2021-02-09T22:12:11+00:00

Procrastination is the enemy, when I have something that needs to get done I hate just letting it sit. I have and anxious urgency to get things done, never settle and get it going. Don't wait to approach that girl that smiles at you in school, dont wait to approach that leggy brunette at the club with her friends who's been checking you out. Be a man and get things done, women do not find lazy men attractive. This is why girls like rich guys, because they are driven and offer them the kind of lifestyle they want, someone who knows how to achieve their goals and get what they want.

anthonyyankees1194 · 2021-02-09T22:50:42+00:00

I did this to myself today and I’m beating myself up for it, this cute girl at the gym I regularly go to( She goes too but not as much as me) kept eyeing me today, I was in perfect position to talk to her but I didn’t do it, I kept noticing other people around me and got nervous thinking I’m going to embarrass myself.

At the same time, I know she’ll be there again, so I’m not THAT upset, just upset I didn’t take a great opportunity.

socialanimal_us · 2021-02-09T15:03:55+00:00

you have to stop censoring yourself, express yourself: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rreXlrxVW6w

qtdd · 2021-02-09T16:43:43+00:00

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ghost3_ · 2021-02-09T17:31:34+00:00

Correct! The only way to affect your future is to act now. "Now" is the only point in time where you can change the flow of things. Otherwise your future will be like your past.

slav2groive · 2021-02-09T18:21:38+00:00

If I knew how to give this my free coin, I would. Cheers Mate

nic0lk · 2021-02-10T02:31:35+00:00

How do you go about it if it's a friend or a coworker and you're worried that'll it'll make things awkward in the future if they don't share similar feelings or interest?

the-seydi · 2021-02-09T20:20:38+00:00

Low quality post

TyphoonSubLover · 2021-02-10T01:39:39+00:00

well thats why there is an entire industry out there, because obviously, saying Hi is not enough, its what are you supposed to talk about in the initial interaction, thats why there is a huge industry out there

squeegypeegy · 2021-02-09T16:18:39+00:00

I agree with your entire post minus the alcoholism part, for me it took the Sinclair Method to cure my alcoholism. Other than that a fantastic, resonant post! :)

SignatureHefty3849 · 2021-02-09T18:58:17+00:00

THIS

BraVader777 · 2021-02-09T20:32:11+00:00

This post makes sense and I can get behind the message but the fear of rejection is a real thing cause some of these girls only have the patience to hear a sentence. Nevermind starting a conversation for lolz and to kill time.

darth_taco_117 · 2021-02-09T20:38:49+00:00

I get it. But online dating sucks and I am interested in someone I met thru my online class. It’s still not too safe to meet with a stranger and there’s not much one can do either way (well technically we can go out but I’m sure neither of us will).

2021-02-10T01:54:34+00:00

I never used to be a reader but I started reading don't sweat the small stuff. It has great ideas on life, example think about yourself at your funeral what do we usually hear from others they wished they did something different and spent time with friends and family now I get it covid put a damper on it, but if we all bitch about it and not do our part then that is all it will be is a constant bitch session. The in basket at work will be there when we are gone anyway I'm sure you know what I mean. I have forgotten how to be selfless I would do something nice for someone and automatically think karma will come around. Absolutely not nobody should ever think give something get in return, it should be a natural thing. Believe me it isn't easy to not think that way I'm working on it. I agree about how everyone is in there phones including me etc. I think this is the perfect time to learn any positive things to help the world. I've put in my two cents it has helped me is all

godofguitar3 · 2021-02-10T02:34:34+00:00

I should read this everyday right after waking up and before going to bed.

adsq93 · 2021-02-10T03:11:32+00:00

I get what you are saying with this post BUT don’t go wasting energy on someone that isn’t even returning half of it back.

If that person seems like they don’t want to talk to you, then its because they don’t. If that person takes 3 days to answer back but always appears online, take that as a sign.

deep_in_smoke · 2021-02-10T08:31:27+00:00

There is only this tangible, perceptible world.

There is only this moment, this very moment.

.

Which is why there's another line racked. Which is why there's metal blaring. Which is why I'm always pushing forward to be who I want to be.

I don't talk in this sub much but y'all have some great ideals. I'm not searching for a partner as I'm enjoying the hermitic life. Maybe I'll bother with it in a few more years but for now I use what I find here to improve myself for myself. Thank you for existing.

timmerdetimmieb · 2021-02-10T10:10:03+00:00

Well I already asked her out multiple times in the past and she rejected me multiple times so now I just want to leave her alone. So I can’t really speak to her, right now

TerminatorReborn · 2021-02-10T14:49:59+00:00

I had a crush on a girl from college and didn't ask her out even though she used to talk to me. I thought she was too much for me (all the guys said she was the hottest girl, but some of my friends said I had a chance and whatever) it went on for like a year talking to her sporadically but never asked her out.

Like 2 years later she dm me on Instagram all embarrassed saying she had a crush on me back then and still does.... I'm trying to not beat myself up for not asking her out back then but I did now and went on a first date and scheduled the next.

What I'm saying is that from lack of confidence we think we have no shot with that girl, but how about stop overthinking and let her be the judge?

Title	Go speak to her, right now!
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Upvotes	788
Comments	75
Date	February 9, 2021 12:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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