Has anyone intentionally flaked on plans with a girl to generate attraction?

ckcornflake · 2010-04-26T01:19:41+00:00

What would work even better is if you are legitimately busy, dating other girls, and have a lot going on with your life, so that sometimes you have to reschedule plans naturally.

Call me crazy, but I find it pretty silly to intentionally flake out on someone you like.

EvolutionTheory · 2010-04-26T00:43:08+00:00

Yes it's a good idea. This can backfire on you too if you don't have enough rapport or attraction with her for a reschedule so don't just randomly do this. Use it as a tool and deploy it sparsely in my opinion.

I would say it is not rude unless you're rude in the excuse you come up with.

hotsexgary · 2010-04-26T04:41:35+00:00

Why would you have sex with a woman later rather than sooner? There are much better ways to be attractive.

intjpua · 2010-04-26T06:21:15+00:00

I would never leave someone hanging on firm plans; i.e. she's waiting for me at the meeting point and I just don't show. I just don't have it in me to do that...it's downright rude and disrespectful, and if a girl did it to me, I'd be through with her. But, I do find that I sometimes forget to call on the day when I said, "I'll call you on Friday, and if we've both got a couple of hours we'll hang out." I don't know if it builds attraction yet...I'm detecting some annoyance lately when it happens. It only happens when a girl is being difficult to schedule something with, though, so if it helps, that'd be good. I don't have enough data to know.

pooflinga · 2010-04-27T13:44:48+00:00

Depends on the girl/situation. As a general rule of thumb I don't flake out on plans unless I get double booked (which happens). But I have had some girls where it seems to work REALLY well.

For example: There was this girl I knew who often came out our parties, and me and her would always hit it off when we were together. Problem was she was well known for flaking on her plans with everyone. She did it to me a few times and I got sick of it, so next time we made plans I decided to flake on her. The next day she was trying to get ahold of me, and finally just showed up at my house with some of her friends that I had invited over. After that got together a few times (with no flakes), but she started to flake again after I became 'too easy' to hang out with again (as I said, I typically don't flake). Now I just flake on her occasionally to keep her interested.

rustoof · 2010-04-26T01:51:41+00:00

Whether it works or not I don't think I would want to be with a girl willing to put up with that sort of rudeness from a guy.

chickenshitmchammers · 2010-04-26T19:36:24+00:00

Don't do it man!!! I tried this shit awhile ago and needless to say, it didn't work out right. lol.

throwaway543210 · 2010-04-26T21:15:45+00:00

Eh, middle ground:

Make vague plans. When you want to see her, bring them up again. When you don't want to see her, let them drop without specifics.

2010-04-27T02:12:51+00:00

Double book and flake on one of them.

Title	Has anyone intentionally flaked on plans with a girl to generate attraction?
Author	GreatBarrierReefer
Upvotes	2
Comments	13
Date	April 26, 2010 12:00 AM UTC (16 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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