How can you avoid getting overly exited (obsessed) when you are dating a girl that has everything you are looking for?

hulk_hogans_nutsweat · 2021-08-07T12:42:35+00:00

Talk to more women. If you’re exclusive with her, you still need to talk to more women. That doesn’t necessarily mean try to date them, but to subconsciously remind yourself that she isn’t the only girl on the planet. These don’t even have to be random women at a bar. Female coworkers will work just fine.

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2021-08-07T12:14:32+00:00

It helps to realize two things:

She's not perfect. Not even close.
Your checklist sucks. You still have s lot to learn about what kind of partner is best for you in the long run.

Also, it helps to have hobbies and other dates. If you're sitting around bored all the time, you WILL start obsessing over her. It sounds like you already are.

bunnykins18 · 2021-08-07T11:52:45+00:00

Go slow. Allow her to chase some too. I get overly excited too, sure way to fuck it up

jwilhelm0618 · 2021-08-07T12:21:55+00:00

Just go down that road a few times and have it flame out in glorious fashion. That should get that under control.

andyhura · 2021-08-07T15:53:12+00:00

Stop living with a scarcity mindset and you won’t feel this way

bishop_larue · 2021-08-07T17:21:01+00:00

Have a higher purpose in life other than dating

zeninfinity · 2021-08-07T12:30:20+00:00

Exercise

Ohhhwordddd · 2021-08-07T14:22:46+00:00

Keep expectations low. Have kind of abundance

thegreyone3000 · 2021-08-08T07:32:45+00:00

Abundance mindset is apparently the way to go. It’s like those weird Chinese finger things. You know what I’m talking about, where you and someone else has a finger in each end and it won’t come out if you pull away, you have to bring them closer first.

Probably a silly analogy, but my point is. If you’re trying hard to keep her … well in the analogy above you’re trying to escape, right. The harder you try to keep her and impress her and all that fancy shit, it’s going to push her away. I know this because I’ve done it myself, countless fucking times like an idiot.

So it’s logical then, that for you to keep her you need to seem like the opposite, appear as if you got options, treat her mean keep her keen you know type of deal. I’m not saying he a complete wanker, just don’t be like I’ve just described when trying to keep her.

Hope it helps.

serdarsam · 2021-08-08T08:05:30+00:00

Even if she has everything "that you want", remember that there is always a better option out there somewhere and will always be. Besides, did you see her without make up? If not, you may have a huge disappointment when you do.

Legitimate-Lies · 2021-08-07T22:41:15+00:00

The reality that there are a million girls like her because, although I have high standards, they aren’t really unrealistic and if they are, then the bar is embarrassingly low.

Also have less expectations. I’ve fucked girls that dudes say are the love of their life and I know from personal experience that they fucking suck

andyhura · 2021-08-07T15:53:18+00:00

Stop living with a scarcity mindset and you won’t feel this way

SunshineDaisies934 · 2021-08-07T19:21:21+00:00

Step one: stay busy Step two: be confident also be comfortable being alone Step three: get hobbies, work like crazy, and stay busy Step four: work in yourself.. what are your goals for the future? Are you working on being a better person every day

You shouldn’t feel like this person completes you or anything. Don’t be desperate or needy

StrangeGene6037 · 2021-08-07T21:48:45+00:00

Just breathe, yo

Gaydame · 2021-08-07T23:48:44+00:00

You're seeking validation and self worth from her because you don't value and respect yourself.

I speak from experience as a recovering validation sucker from women.

The answer is to invest in yourself, build a life you're proud of and get your validation that way.

By putting your identity into the approval of her you'll push her away and every other woman for that matter.

cunningcaring · 2021-08-07T23:50:26+00:00

You recognize she does not have everything you are looking for. In fact you hardly know her.

alaxoskl4 · 2021-08-08T01:53:45+00:00

The worst number of girls you are dating is one, you could over invest in her, talk and date multiple womans at once until you get a gf.

How can you avoid getting overly exited (obsessed) when you are dating a girl that has everything you are looking for?

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