How Do I (20F) Get Spouse (18-22MF)?

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2021-10-14T04:23:59+00:00

You don't really find someone to marry. You date around and find someone that you love and loves you and eventually get married. It's a process that takes years.

TBH, if I was a guy your age and I was on a first date and you said you were looking for marriage, we wouldn't have a second date. Asking that kind of a commitment from a stranger, especially one in their early 20s at the oldest, is unrealistic. I'm not saying this to be insulting, I'm letting you know that guys aren't going to want to date you if you tell them you want to get married right away. It will scare them off.

Is there a particular reason you want to get married so young?

There's other dating apps besides Tinder where you can meet someone. Are you talking about all dating apps or just Tinder? Bumble is better at weeding out the idiots and pervs. For real life, find ways to do things you enjoy with strangers. Maybe volunteer at a museum for history buffs or take a dance class for the old music.

TheSunshineMan · 2021-10-14T03:38:51+00:00

See a guy on the street you like, go up and have a conversation.

That's the easiest and best way for you to do it.

Dog parks? Hobby groups? Meetup.com Facebook groups for your city. Couchsurfing.com meetups in your city.

truthbomb999 · 2021-10-14T20:17:47+00:00

How Do I (20F) Get Spouse (18-22MF)?

It's pretty easy. Don't be fat, be sexually available, be pleasant to be around, and go where men are.

Getting a spouse at that age range is going to be really hard, tbh and most guys looking to settle down are going to be older. Some guys are just starting to have sex at that age.

More to the point, it's not what you want, its all about what your potential spouse wants in a life partner at that age. I don't understand why you would even want a spouse at this age. Go looking for compatible boyfriends first not a spouse. I'd fucking run from.any girl at that age trying to get married.

Thinking parks and shops

Maybe a park, but you a re going to have to approach random strangers and hope they are compatible with you.

Definitely not shops.

Or church, but I'm not Christian

I'd say absolutely not as far as church...

Maybe a music festival?

This is better.

You don't seem to know what you want in a guy though. The music festival crowd is likely 100% polar opposites from the church crowd.

My list is: not a brute/pervert, sweet to people from different walks of life instead of guffawing, wants marriage

Your list is fucking stupid...this reads like something a 12 year old would write. Go look at actual shit that causes divorce and in the alternative keeps couples together.

Your list is way too vague and has nothing to do with a successful relationship.

Two things also: not a pervert is meaningless and as a guy when you get married, you are expecting regular sex in any way you want it... otherwise, what's the point? Nobody is looking to marry a prude.

Idc about stupid stuff like money/height

Your biology does. No need to virtue signal for us.

I am normal, look good, have a job, and good chat. I dress weirdly and like history and old music.

Again, none of this stuff matters to what men want or a successful relationship.

I want to maximise the amount of nice guys, minimise arrogant, stupid perverts, and get better at approaching.

You need to approach the men you want...but it seems like you don't see sex as part of a relationship, which again is almost a guaranteed mission failure. Why would I want to date or marry a prude.

PatientAssociation62 · 2021-10-15T16:21:59+00:00

If you are willing to consider an older dude a lot of them are looking for someone they can see having a future with. Or you can just start dating and be up front about not wanting just random hookups and telling them you are marriage minded. Best of luck to you. I honestly wished more women were more interested in finding a spouse or at least not wasting time with dudes they really don't want a future with.

OrzhovPalatine · 2021-10-14T04:42:18+00:00

I am normal

I dress weirdly

These are contradictory

look good

This is frankly the only thing we care about upfront

have a job

Your job doesnt make you any more attractive to a guy. The cute cashier girl is just as attractive as the high class lawyer girl.

good chat

This is only relevant if we already like you physically. Guys have plenty of guy friends to chat with.

My list is: not a brute/pervert, sweet to people from different walks of life instead of guffawing, wants marriage

These are super vague. Most guys arent brutes/perverts, are sweet and do want marriage but arent picked.

Idc about stupid stuff like money/height

That's a very socially acceptable answer. Be honest, I've never a girl who didnt have some physical/money requirements.

For example you wouldnt date a 5'2 homeless guy let's be honest here.

It's ok to want what you want.

garlopf · 2021-10-14T04:05:13+00:00

Have you tried reddit?

Pedadinga · 2021-10-14T04:24:25+00:00

You’re 20. Quit trying to find a spouse. Worry about this shit when you’re 39.

WeakEmu8 · 2021-10-14T03:37:25+00:00

Go where you'll find the type of guys you're interested in.

Self employed makes that a little more work, but find activities to meet people. Maybe a rock-climbing group (or whatever you're interested in). You're looking to expand your social circle, mostly.

Engaging with as many people as possible, increases your odds of meeting someone.

Be focused on the process of meeting people (guys), and don't let your own agenda get in the way. Be outcome independent. (If you're overly focused on end-goals or outcomes, you won't be genuine in your interactions, which pushes people away - no one wants to feel like they're just filling a requirements check box).

No_Ask_132 · 2021-10-14T14:49:20+00:00

Christian asking guys on seduction subreddit for advice. This is what you call a contradiction

EksCrims0n · 2021-10-14T15:00:11+00:00

I recommend Hardware stores or auto shops. The male to female ratio is heavily in your favor.

2021-10-14T18:43:28+00:00

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Title	How Do I (20F) Get Spouse (18-22MF)?
Author	Mission-Assistance73
Upvotes	3
Comments	36
Date	October 14, 2021 3:27 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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