How do I cope with rejection?

BayesianBits · 2020-10-14T16:58:42+00:00

You have to desensitize yourself to it. It sucks at first but you get used to it. It takes a lot on no's to get to a yes.

Umbran_scale · 2020-10-14T17:09:12+00:00

You may need to build up on your confidence first.

Rejection sucks, but if you're that afraid of rejection that much then you haven't got much confidence to begin with.

Psychological_Sea996 · 2020-10-14T17:43:29+00:00

Take this next month and only go for rejections. Saw dumb shit that should never work. Opened crazy sets. This time November you will have been rejected so many times it won’t be a problem anymore. Like the other guys said, you have to desensitize yourself to it.

GoldSmith64 · 2020-10-14T17:50:05+00:00

You are going to get 1 of 2 answers. Both of which come in many different forms but all essentially mean the same thing; either yes or no. You need to be prepared for both. Just accept it gracefully and move onto the next

purpleuser777 · 2020-10-14T18:54:24+00:00

Is it better to never hear yes because it saved you from hearing no? That’s a little rough but.......

Maybe the first step is managing your state so that you feel attractive. Maybe the second step is who gives a ....

ctr3589 · 2020-10-14T20:17:25+00:00

Feel a little sorry for yourself (it’s ok!)
Distract yourself - have fun & move on
Reflect; what can you improve?
Work on yourself

Don’t try to fail but do get your 10,000 hours in! It’s a practice. You’ve got this.

SnooOranges5570 · 2020-10-14T19:22:33+00:00

I really hope you wouldn't be attracted to someone who would ever say "ew". Honestly, if they reject you that sucks, but at least you'll know and believe me, you'll get over it! At least you'd be ae to move on easier. And of course, they could also just say yes! Maybe you can try and make it seem chill, maybe not label it as a date. Whatever you want lolol

vault444 · 2020-10-14T20:17:49+00:00

Respond with something friendly such as “ah I gotchu” or “no problem, have a good one!” And just walk away. There are so many people that will find you attractive and so many people that won’t, you just gotta wait until you meet someone of your preference who also prefers you.

KingCeddy24 · 2020-10-14T21:00:23+00:00

You move on quick, as fast as possible. Billions of women are waiting just to get to see the best version of you, and that girl wasn't one of them.

PsychologicalRoof2 · 2020-10-15T02:20:31+00:00

There is an advice that I found from another reddit user (on this sub, different post) :

Approach, get rejected. Blame it on the randomness of the universe. And move forward.

Dodechaedron · 2020-10-14T18:56:11+00:00

Does it hurt in the body? Does it kill or cripple you? Will you die if she rejects you? Is it maybe all about your fragile little ego?

hjallday182 · 2020-10-14T23:42:17+00:00

Don’t cope with it, if she says no act surprised. Tell her you thought she had good taste and you will see her later.

MK2718 · 2020-10-14T17:18:25+00:00

Overcoming Fear of Rejection

Illum1nated · 2020-10-14T19:46:06+00:00

I think everyone is missing the point. If she is your coworker or something, perhaps it's best if you don't engage in trying to get a date, as it can make things weird if you have to work together. But the overall answer is it does not matter. You need to be happy with who you are and you want to share your gifts with the world and with a woman. If she says no, the better, as it already points you in other direction, instead of loosing time in dates that would not lead anywhere.

manny7797 · 2020-10-14T20:27:53+00:00

The only Thing I can say to you is that just because one, two or even ten people reject you, just know that, everyone has opinions. Everyone has there attractions. Just because you may not be there’s doesn’t mean that others won’t like you and want to date you. Keep your head up. A rejection may be saving you from something. Good luck and stay confident no matter what.

Amikatey · 2020-10-14T20:50:04+00:00

Bro....it's easire said than Done... But DAMN IT... that sht hurts.. We all chop that sht... It's part of the Game but remember REJECTION TASTES MORE SWEETER THAN REGRET.. so just go for it and stop worrying about it till it happens. Else you will forget things can go well and focus on getting rejected which will then trigger the rejection... So just focus on thinking it will go well and when the rejection happens it's easire to say ''eewwww'' and walk away feeling like the James Bond for trying what 95 % of guys wount do. Go and F*cking apporach Her.

Its0ver4U · 2020-10-14T22:01:06+00:00

Sounds like you need better genetics bro.

I've been working on myself for years now constantly and still get harshly rejected by girls because I don't look like a male model.

It's insane to think that nearly 1/3 of young men today can't get laid because of women's inflated standards.

There is a lot of scary shit in store for our civilizations in 10-15 years.

99% of the women sleeping with the top 1% of men will soon be a reality.

VIGILANCE981 · 2020-10-14T22:15:21+00:00

You keep getting burnt till you have no fucks to give

The_curious_polymath · 2020-10-14T22:29:24+00:00

Cry and never try again.

Smugdemeanor · 2020-10-14T22:34:04+00:00

As all other comments are suggesting, exposure therapy is pretty much the only way to grow out of it.

I think at the end of the day, reminding yourself that there's tonnes of girls out there that would like you should give you all the motivation you need to move on as quickly as possible in search for them.

I asked a girl if she'd like to kiss me over the weekend, and she said "I don't think so", I handled it awkwardly, but what I realised is that it hurt significantly less than when I did it the first time with a different girl (this was my second time "asking")

So man, the only way around it is to keep getting no's till you realise that, at the end of it all, you'll be just fine. The world won't end. And, not every girl will say yes. It's just an impossibility. Once you come to terms with that, your game will skyrocket.

Wjourney · 2020-10-14T22:37:30+00:00

Accept it, you dont like every girl, not every girl is going to like you. Its a part of life

NDex101 · 2020-10-14T23:14:49+00:00

Truth!? You don't. Rejection happens and your mind copes with it in it's own way. You have to build up a resistance to it and that gets better over over time. It's like a fighter. They must stay in good enough shape to be able to fight. Yet, once they come back from a vacation, they can't just sit on the couch and eat pizza everyday then expect to get back in the ring. You have to take the good with the bad when it comes to rejection. You deal with it by know not trying to win every girl. Instead like the experience of trying to pickup a girl rather than how well she rejected you. Calibrate, do your field reports, learn from the mistakes and move forward. I like the fact that you can start with a different girl soon after being rejected. Be vigilant, everyone gets rejected. Everyone. I got rejected 5 days ago from some girl at this party. I just remembered thinking,"You can't win 'em all." And that's it right there. Move on. That quick.

letsgetrandy · 2020-10-15T00:43:59+00:00

I'm so tired of reading how people think rejection will crush you or destroy you or whatever. You kids need to fucking nut up.

LOOK: You are already not dating the girl. You are already not kissing the girl. You are already not fucking her. You are already not engaged to her.

If she says no, turns you down, says she's not interested, whatever... LITERALLY NO PART OF YOUR LIFE WILL HAVE CHANGED.

Why are you all so fucking scared of rejection?

whatskeeping · 2020-10-15T01:23:03+00:00

You say, "Ok Thanks, have a great day" I mean it's ok for you to say no as well. It's not personal. How many left swipes do you make? Either way you took your shot, were all hunting.

abjones97 · 2020-10-15T02:12:05+00:00

Once you have actual confidence, go into things NOT expecting to be rejected. And just being rejected, works like exposure therapy. More of it you’re exposed to, the more comfortable you become with it.

Minimum-Physics-7473 · 2020-10-15T07:46:06+00:00

I have been rejected by alot of girls but today i have the best girlfriend i could have asked for. She looks really good she is super cute and smart.

I have always gone for girls “above” me look wise. This however have turend into alot of rejektions but it have also forced me to work on myself (my styl,my humoer, my body language and so on) And slowely l have turend into a better version of myself so even if you get rejeckted you wil learn from it.

After some time i began to know myself better and i was abel to attrack girls pretty easy. Not beacues i had change my body( beacues i haden’t) i changed my styl and tried to look good and I have also changed “myself” (am not the moste attractive guy but i dont care about that anymore 😂)

if you get rejected don’t spend to much time and feel sry for yourself, go out and do stuff with friends ore what you enjoy. Don’t sit in you’re room and think about her all the time no try to do something that will distract you instead.

Also don’t believe what people say about only go for “you’re league”. That is horse shit. Why do you think a lot of “ugly men” have a hot women? Am one of those and no is not because I have alot money because I haven’t You should go for the girl you like no matter how she looks. Confidence And begin youself goes a long way my dude so believe in yourself and work on yourself and you will get a good girl who you deserve.

(My English is bad because is my third language 😂)

Title	How do I cope with rejection?
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Date	October 14, 2020 4:53 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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