How do I deal with GF's ex visiting from another country?

young-renzel · 2016-07-02T10:16:10+00:00

Lol they're only going to be friends. They already fucked

She doesn't respect you at all man

DerpishGambino · 2016-07-02T10:44:00+00:00

Tl;Dr - OP gets cucked by girlfriend's foreign ex

I_only_fuck_dolphins · 2016-07-02T12:41:11+00:00

Sorry for your loss.

Avadon7 · 2016-07-02T10:29:27+00:00

Bro, I am sorry to tell you this but "She suggested we should hang out without her ex occasionally and see where things go." Basically ended your relationship forever.

Now EVEN if she would somehow choose you, even then it would only mean basically this " Well my ex was not so great as I remembered might as well for now go with my 2 choice." You might even date for 2 years or something but eventually it will lead to a break up. She likes you yeah, but not in a way she would respect you and seriously consider spending rest of her life with you.

Helmet_Icicle · 2016-07-02T12:46:25+00:00

she told me her ex would be visiting (from another country) and he'd be staying in her apartment

She assured me they had a friends only relationship

the girl I'm dating becomes a totally different person

very distant, doesn't talk, doesn't look at me, and TBH when we're together it feels she's never seen me before: zero connection

She said she feels uncomfortable with the whole 3-way thing and assured me she didn't want to lose me

She suggested we should hang out without her ex occasionally

Bro.

collegegreens · 2016-07-02T09:31:42+00:00

Dude seriously? They are going to have sex.

safe_passage · 2016-07-02T09:46:16+00:00

I can't believe I'm reading this lmao. No words. Someone else can handle this one

EastInternetCompany · 2016-07-02T10:11:34+00:00

You don't deal with this. You're done. It was completely wrong for her to even arrange this. But if that's the way it is you move on.

throwawayno75 · 2016-07-02T11:58:07+00:00

Wow.

I guess you at least got a go on her. That's about it. Walk away now.

samurai69 · 2016-07-02T12:43:20+00:00

Dump her. Bad enough that you went to the airport to pick him up so that she can have sex with the ex every night while you are watching Netflix.

SkaterMan · 2016-07-02T12:45:56+00:00

Op don't be a cuck

Also I'm sorry.things like this have happened to me before, and they dint exactly feel great. Rip the bandaid off before you get your feelings ripped out

enkae7317 · 2016-07-02T09:56:08+00:00

If she turns really cold towards you that means she probably still has feelings for the ex. She gave you the cold shoulder either means she's guilty of something or doesn't feel strongly enough for you in order to express it in front of her ex. Also...he IS staying over at her place. It doesn't take a genius to figure out what's going to happen (or what will inevitably happen).

Sorry mate, you best get down to the bottom of this if you're really sure about her. Honestly if my gf gave me the cold shoulder like that in public (in front of another guy), she'd better have a fucking good reason, or I'd pawn her ass back to the stone age.

boristheactor · 2016-07-02T12:10:30+00:00

Dump her

SmoothPrimal · 2016-07-02T10:43:18+00:00

Im more confused with the phrase "we should hang out without her ex ocassionally." Did she mean you two should hang out without him or the two of them hang out without you?

Dankob · 2016-07-02T11:19:18+00:00

I believe there can be friendship between them but that turning cold is a little weird. Maybe she's uncomfortable and got her feelings mixed up. I wouldn't jump to the conclusion she will have sex. But I don't know her and u so it depends.

gmwbh · 2016-07-02T12:11:40+00:00

Get prepared to being cheated on.

lItsAutomaticl · 2016-07-02T12:57:37+00:00

She doesn't care about the relationship if she wants her ex to come and stay with her.

Saophen · 2016-07-02T12:17:22+00:00

Dude everyone here is on fucking point. Foreign bf visiting from another country? Friends lmao, plenty of hoes to demolish move on bro act like the man you should be.

elmariachi304 · 2016-07-02T13:20:44+00:00

Soon after we started dating, she told me her ex would be visiting (from another country) and he'd be staying in her apartment.

This is the point where if you had any self-respect, you peace out of the relationship. Seriously WTF dude.

Heflar · 2016-07-02T13:24:34+00:00

RemindMe! 10 hour "guy getting cucked"

aG_Infamous · 2016-07-02T13:57:12+00:00

Guys his name literally has troll in it

Hakametal · 2016-07-02T10:19:10+00:00

You stand up like a fucking alpha and call her out on this bullshit. Like, is this a joke? I actually can't tell. She's got you by the balls and you don't even realise it.

This is unacceptable behaviour. Tell her that. PUT HER IN HER FUCKING PLACE.

SexySmexxy · 2016-07-02T10:04:26+00:00

At the end of the day, if She's gonna cheat on you She's gonna do it.

You trying to keep them apart or whatever is pointless.

Its like trying to stop her getting some water if she wants water.

After a certain point, what is the point.

Just tell her if she cheats then it's over. There's no point in you trying to stop her. If you had to stop her for her not to cheat then what's the point?

fap_fap_fap_ · 2016-07-02T14:16:25+00:00

everybody's different, and i'm old school jealous, so take this with a grain of salt:

some other guy, forget about the fact is her ex for now, is staying at her place? can you stay at her place too? to me that'd be a deal breaker. i'd spent my night imagining how they're fucking each other.

now about the fact he's an ex, foreigner and living far away:

if they're still talking, that means they aren't really over each other. yeah, think about that
foreign has a sense of mystery and sexy. we tend to associate foreign people with stereotypes of that country, good stereotype when we like the person, bad stereotypes when we don't like the person (part of racism). she's probably already told you, with doe eyer, "he is so (whatever nationality)!!"
in long distance relationships, partners idealize the other. we project our perfect partner on the other person, we notice and exagerate their qualities, we can afford ignoring their weaknesses. what they have right now is the hottest thing ever, they can both be on their best, they can have as much fun as they want, there are no long term implication at all, because they know it's not long term.
they already know what sexy thing the other likes!

TheWhiteshadow187 · 2016-07-02T13:17:21+00:00

I've been in a similar situation. Dump the shit out of her. Hard and fast, like a Band-Aid

B-Dubb8 · 2016-07-02T13:42:46+00:00

CUUUUUUUUUUUCK

Time to drop the bitch

Dcm210 · 2016-07-02T13:47:44+00:00

Sorry op, but you should distant yourself from her. Try to move on. There are better people put there.

Cookiest · 2016-07-02T13:58:22+00:00

Do not ever bring up her ex. If he is brought up in convo: Do not suggest hanging out with him; and end his topic immediately. Ask her if she thinks it's cool that her ex lover is sleeping at her house. Ask her if one of your exes stayed at your house how would she feel.

He is bad news to your relationship and it is only a matter of days until they cheat, if it hasn't happened already. Also, don't forgot about emotional cheating same bad news.

the-capitan · 2016-07-02T14:51:04+00:00

she told me her ex would be visiting (from another country) and he'd be staying in her apartment. She assured me they had a friends only relationship, and in my heart I believe this to be true.

what the fucking fuck. do not issue an ultimatum. do not tell her to change anything. just drop her.

davidbowiedavidbowie · 2016-07-02T15:09:30+00:00

Jesus man, just bail. Bail bail bail. Stand up for yourself.

trippleknot · 2016-07-02T15:16:57+00:00

I broke up with my ex for many reasons but the main thing was her constantly being on her phone giggling then hiding it from me if I ever looked over. Her snap chat score went up about 2k-3k in month which I thought was Hella suspect considering her lack of friends.

It might sound like paranoid crazy person talk. But I decided that i was not cool with how it made me feel. After expressing that to her it did not change and I made the call to end the relationship.

I would explain to your girl how you feel about it. If she actually cares about you, I would think you would be more important than keeping up her relation with her ex.

tacotroll · 2016-07-02T18:53:11+00:00

Thanks for the comments and wealth of advice. As always the majority has spoken and she's en-route to dumpville: population: her.

Just to be clear on something about the ex: This girl lived in the country where the ex is from; that's how they met.

She told me about him and his visit before we started going out, which is why I didn't make a scene of it, and him being from a far away country, I'm sure this was planned well before I came into her radar.

Title	How do I deal with GF's ex visiting from another country?
Author	tacotroll
Upvotes	38
Comments	43
Date	July 2, 2016 9:12 AM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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