How do i get more comfortable using kino?

paladin400 · 2016-11-27T16:07:28+00:00

Maybe you need to see an example rather than just reading about it, would give you a better idea of how it works

Try this one

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kmZa-dtruFI

lozboss · 2016-11-27T19:03:01+00:00

OP- it's about confidence. If you are awkward with it then they will be too.

Confidence sells the act. You have to realize that touching is a human interaction and if this offends them.....well then they can f*ck off frankly.

RespondsWithImprov · 2016-11-27T20:38:00+00:00

Use it as a reward when the person does/says something that makes you want to reward that.

The_Music · 2016-11-28T03:06:44+00:00

Start small. My build up was always

Hi fives.
Thumb wars.
Incidental touching on waist. If you're showing her something dont tap her shoulder, lightly touch her waist.
Hugs, hand on small of back.

Unless shes actively avoiding these then procees with more.

Most Important factor is doing this FROM THE START. If you get nervous and don't kino from the start it'll appear suddenly and be uncomfortable/forced.

Also kino guys too. Easiest way to internalize it is by doing it to your dude friends.

IANAPUA_Yet · 2016-11-27T16:54:06+00:00

Same way you get comfortable with any new skill: practice. You just have to force yourself to do it. It'll feel awkward for awhile, but eventually it'll start to happen "naturally".

reddituser875 · 2016-11-28T02:42:26+00:00

I too feel awkward about touch at times. I think it stems from a really real situation that happened to me some time ago, long before I even knew what "game" was.

I was at a party, talking with a woman who was an acquaintance of an acquaintance. It was all fun. We went on the dance floor together and started dancing. It was fun. I grabbed her (my hand around her waist and other hand clasping hers) so we could do that kind of rocking/swing dance thing. Well she freaked out and pushed me away and said not to touch her. I was shocked. Everything else had been going so well so far. I asked her why not, she said because she doesn't know me. Her friend who saw the situation came up to ask if everything were alright and intervene, as if I had just tried to grab her breasts or something. I was really thrown off by the whole situation.

Obviously, now I know she had some personal issues with being touched, maybe a prior traumatic event in her life or something, but still. I'm afraid I'll meet the wrong one and it will happen again. Even more concerning is getting charged for assault or something like that if someone really over-reacts to being touched in a more sexual way ( ie a kiss). I wouldn't have expected her to react that way to a genuinely casual and friendly move. I'd have done the same to my own sister honestly, if we were just dancing around or playing, it was all fun.

To make it even more confusing, I had met the same woman and flirted a bit with her some time before this whole incident while she was peddling sex toys at another party. Ugh

secantstrut · 2016-11-28T03:47:12+00:00

practice on friends, if they get weirded out just explain: then it could be funny to your friends and they will probably help you.

msmiitz · 2016-11-27T23:26:00+00:00

use kino...?

Title	How do i get more comfortable using kino?
Author	Renatusisk
Upvotes	23
Comments	28
Date	November 27, 2016 3:22 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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