How do I improve my speech?

KingKoil · 2016-12-24T06:46:57+00:00

Join Toastmasters. Gaining experience with public speaking will help your overall communication, as well as your ability to speak extemporaneously.

Take a breath and collect your thoughts before you speak. The pause will seem longer than it actually is.

Speak more slowly-- give your brain a chance to catch up with your mouth.

Don't speak from your throat or mouth. Stand up straight and project from your diaphragm (gut).

Ensure you avoid "upspeak." Everything you say should come across definitive and with confidence-- otherwise, why would you say it?

Once you make the above recommendations habitual, experiment with varying your volume, speed, and tonal quality to create emphasis, highlight punctuation, and create more compelling speech.

As with everything worthwhile: Practice, practice, practice.

ninjamuffin · 2016-12-24T07:14:25+00:00

I have found slowing down and not talking right away have helped me not start sentences I regret.

ITEM01 · 2016-12-24T05:32:47+00:00

Red Leather Yellow Leather.

momschickencurry · 2016-12-24T12:49:04+00:00

One of the major tricks I use while speaking in a public place is that I pretend I am being filmed by a camera.That way I am conscious about what I am speaking and idont speak nonsense.Takes a bit of a practice but was helpful to me

Veganpuncher · 2016-12-24T10:53:12+00:00

Read the Greats. Read people who are great orators.

Hunter Thompson taught himself how to write by, literally, copying whole books on his typewriter so he knew what great literature felt like to write and could feel the 'rhythm'.

Do the same.

Here are some suggestions:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/We_shall_fight_on_the_beaches

http://www.bartleby.com/124/pres56.html

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I47Y6VHc3Ms

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gettysburg_Address

http://teachingamericanhistory.org/library/document/what-to-the-slave-is-the-fourth-of-july/

When you can speak these into a mirror. You're on your way. There's no miracle cure. Just learn to speak like great men and the rest will become natural.

yamraj212 · 2016-12-24T12:41:24+00:00

I used to have this problem and still do. Start reading books, or even better essays on topics that might interest you. It will help you articulate your thoughts better.

Also read reviews for movies as soon as you watch them, that will give you an idea on how to analyse and relate to the plot. A great reviewer to start with is Roger Ebert.

M8813 · 2016-12-24T05:59:29+00:00

There are online courses that can help improve your speaking voice. I grew up with a speech impediment and I've found doing simple voice exercises every day has made my voice stronger and more confident.

As far as being more eloquent goes, I've found reading a wide variety of well written books helps. I know that sounds counter intuitive, but it does help speaking since it helps develop your thought process and ability to construct sentences subconsciously.

GrandmasterM · 2016-12-24T07:38:19+00:00

One thing I do quite often, as weird as it sounds, is talking to myself. A better way to describe it is I say my thoughts out loud instead of thinking to myself in my head. We all have that little voice in our head and if you choose to verbalize your thoughts instead of keep them inside, you can eventually get to a point where you can verbalize thoughts at more or less the same pace that you can think them to yourself. And like others said, slow down your speech and use pauses instead of saying "ummm" or "uhh". I also freewrite (or more specifically freetype) every once in a while because sometimes having too many thoughts in your head can also hinder smoothly expressing your thoughts verbally. The drills and perspective RSD Todd puts forth in this video were very helpful when I first started out. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x79EV2Va9RY

pourcesoir · 2016-12-24T09:34:35+00:00

Perhaps you just get nervous, when you start to relax then you can enunciate better. Also, I don't think your speech will bother a kind loving woman. If a woman gets turned off by speech alone, she won't even be worth your time. So,you should not worry about it.

2016-12-24T14:49:20+00:00

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grate314 · 2016-12-24T13:54:37+00:00

I really think it's as simple as 'fake it til you make it'. You've yelled before, right? Tried to talk to your friend when you're at a loud concert, NASCAR, Shuttle Launch, etc...? RIP shuttle program...

Anyway, just try to trick yourself into thinking, "It's loud in here, I should speak up." When your brain say, "Hey, you're yelling indoors, that's rude!" Ignore it. Be too loud for a bit. You'll find a balance eventually, but obviously your internal mechanism isn't working and you need to recalibrate it.

Most of the other advice on here is also stellar.

2016-12-24T21:05:22+00:00

I too had lack of confidence in speech, articulation, and simply being spontaneous. I would join but remeber it will only benefit if you make a long term commitment. The excerices they do will really improve your speech and you also get a critique from your fellow toastmember colleagues. It will be fun!!

aka_mythos · 2016-12-24T21:36:58+00:00

Shy and too quiet... just imagine you're talking to someone a couple feet behind the person you're talking to; not too many feet. It should help you feel like you have the room you need and you will learn to project your voice in a way that is more confident. Breath with your diaphragm and speak with the front of your face it will give the timbre of your voice a depth and warmth. Speaking in this way, even if you're still on the quiet side your voice will be more easily heard and understood.

PepelePeaux · 2016-12-24T22:04:43+00:00

Read more. Groups like toastmasters too.

juloxx · 2016-12-24T16:59:31+00:00

Read a lot of books. Read a page from the dictionary a day (this is how Big Pun and Nas learned how to rap)

celestulle · 2016-12-24T08:37:01+00:00

Shy guys are sweet and lovely. Don't pressure yourself! As a female, I'm telling you you have nothing to worry about. Merry Christmas, OP x

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