How do I work on my confidence?

partyn3xtd00r6 · 2022-11-01T08:08:42+00:00

U can’t have confidence without ever accomplishing anything. U gotta get some wins under ur belt to be confident.

FreeKwameKilpatrick · 2022-10-31T19:07:56+00:00

dress better, get a fresh haircut, when u feel better about your self the confidence to talk to other ppl will come naturally.

revente · 2022-10-31T20:20:44+00:00

I just don’t have the confidence to flirt or be more bold. How do I work on this?

By flirting and being more bold.

You know what you need to do, start implementing it.

There are no magic tricks.

Pencilhands · 2022-11-01T02:37:02+00:00

See the rejections as a learning experience rather than the absolute thing you can’t mess up

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2022-11-01T10:31:11+00:00

Set yourself some easy to obtain goals and make them happen. Confidence is derived from successfully achieving goals.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-11-01T09:33:10+00:00

It's a half success that you already know what you should do but simply you're afraid of doing it. The one and probably only way to get but rather gain confidence are to know what you're afraid of doing but do it anyway. I know easier said than done but just a motivation if it would be easy, everybody would be confident but if you look around people, they're usually anxious and insecure af so it's much your job to step up for yourself and do things that you know you should do. Another thing could be trying out some martial arts. I'm still scared of every fight I get into but guess what. I do it anyway. So it gives you some things that nobody can take away from you just be patient with yourself it's not gonna happen overnight

zapadz · 2022-11-04T01:46:38+00:00

Here are some videos on building confidence

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=f6s5-LiVCL8

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLeztx1--I_i-Uup3kAW7okkR2uGVkJ7pv

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wXehvygXNEc

epimpstyle · 2022-10-31T20:07:22+00:00

How many guys have a gf and they are not confident?

Confidence is a skill, if you have it - be happy, if you don't have it is not a tragedy.

Hrishi220 · 2022-11-01T13:07:41+00:00

Smell good,dress good and just be aware of the words you are saying,take it slowly and not spontaneously

DeanG30 · 2022-11-07T09:12:06+00:00

Confidence will come with a high self-esteem within yourself, and practice, practice. Being able to not take rejection personally, and hurt your ego will help, and also come with improving confidence. Not basing your worth on someone rejecting you will also help with confidence when it comes to approaching. It can be learnt, but you need to be okay with making yourself uncomfortable.

Jarsnofski · 2022-10-31T20:24:17+00:00

Liquid courage my friend

goldenrocky · 2022-10-31T19:01:19+00:00

This is a broad question.

You have to determine why it is that you’re feeling unconfident.

There are a range of factors and beliefs that play a role in it.

Initial-Laugh1442 · 2022-11-01T17:25:11+00:00

You can't stand rejection and you are insecure. That's a starting point, it's not all bad, because you know your current limitations and this is important. Of course rejection is humiliating. It's a risk to be taken, but, as always with risks, an assessment is due. The best advice I can give is that 1) you should become "outcome independent". Think that, if you were a salesperson and you had to meet a client to place a £100 contract, you would be stressed, for x amount. If you were to meet a £100,000 client, you would be much, much more stressed, understandably. For some reason, any interaction you now have with women is as if she was a £100,000 client. You should turn the table, before even starting the flirting / seduction process: is this person a £100 or a £100,000 client for me? Assume £100 (ok, she has mating potentials but so do 2 billion women), let HER prove she's worth your risk of humiliation. If SHE fails to be interesting, charming and personable, you don't invest and DON'T flirt ... just politely move on. 2) learn to read other people and women in particular. During the interaction is she giving any signals of interest, is she keeping the conversation going, as much as you do? Is she being funny, is she playing with her hair? Is she looking deep into your eyes? That's the most important sign, in my opinion. If there are no signs that she likes spending time with you, again, don't waste your time and, more importantly, your self-esteem.

What should you do if at the end of the screening no girls seem to be invested (unlikely)? Gym, good clothes, career, my dear ... repeat.

sinhaanip · 2022-11-01T12:46:31+00:00

By eliminating fear

Title	How do I work on my confidence?
Author	sad_breadcrumbs
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Date	October 31, 2022 6:44 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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