How do U stop being in your head and stop giving a fuck ? Like I’m always in my head and like self conscious I wanna be more confident

kookiethunderthighs · 2020-01-10T20:47:51+00:00

For me personally ... I have to be mad to not give a fuck .. and it makes really confident since I stop caring about what people think . I listen to some hype music with my headphones on blast .. or I sing the song in my head (I’m not crazy .... I think). I have a resting bitch face though ..... but in the end it works out for me cause In reality I’m a really shy person ... but when I’m mad I’m not shy 😅

TheXXL · 2020-01-11T01:34:59+00:00

Understand a couple of things:

People do not care what you do or say. They are too much in their own heads to have any time to care.
you can't take most people seriously. They always talk and never act on it.
you can get away with so many things, it's ridiculous. You could outright be an asshole to a girl and even though she might play upset, after a while she'll either not care about you, or has forgotten.
know your value. Why would you care what someone thinks of you if you know you have enough value without their confirmation?
last but not least: being cynical helps a lot. If you understand the world is fucked up, you can only laugh at it and you liberate your thinking.

EricJr123456 · 2020-01-10T19:59:32+00:00

Let me know when you figure out the solution lol

manonpoint_com · 2020-01-10T22:46:08+00:00

Keep getting out there and get success. Don't think, ACT. Make it a goal to perform certain discrete, simple, small, concrete ACTIONS, as opposed to more vague actions. For example, instead of "I'm going to approach tonight", try "I'm going to go up to 1 girl at the bar and say Hi, I'm Joe". Gradually build up from there, as you see that nothing bad happens when you try.

Envizion_7 · 2020-01-11T02:08:24+00:00

You heard of the KISS principle? It’s short for keep it simple stupid. Every time I begin to overthink shit, I think of that.

Have an abundance mindset and be on your purpose. You will become more confident by doing and knowing you are making progress toward your goals.

zazzomicron · 2020-01-11T05:11:31+00:00

It's really easy. You got to learn to love yourself more. That's what lifting, eating well, etc is all about. It's not about looking better - its you liking yourself more and that showing up in your presence.

Take a good look at yourself and cultivate gratitude for what you have. Then get better and pat yourself on the back every time you make progress. Failure is tuition and if you're paying, you're progressing!

Hubblenobbin · 2020-01-11T02:22:11+00:00

Do what actors do and rant/monologue in the mood you want to be in. Do this in a private place before socializing obviously.

Talk to a lot of girls in quick succession, less than 30 seconds between each interaction.

2020-01-10T21:05:50+00:00

Check out Stoicism and godspeed to you, seductive stoic

grrinchas · 2020-01-10T23:04:27+00:00

Just act like you don’t give a fuck.

kookiethunderthighs · 2020-01-11T04:09:23+00:00

It’s the songs that you listen to and I walk with a very serious face so ... That helps

Tyrion69Lannister · 2020-01-11T06:34:32+00:00

What works for me is changing my values. The reason why this works is because your values dictate your goals and desires, those goals and desires dictate where your energy and attention is spent.

Insecurity and self consciousness usually comes with (or are byproducts of) its own set of values. Examples are: wanting people to like you (so you supplicate often), avoiding pain and criticism, etc.

Add to this the value of women to you (which can be ridiculously high depending on your situation) and it’s pretty reasonable for you to be “in your head”.

Unfortunately, i can’t offer a solution for this, but I’m sure a counselor or therapist will be able to help if you tell them your situation.

Insaneflirt_max · 2020-01-11T11:56:33+00:00

Get social momentum. After the sixth approach you'll feel better.

fuckthisoneainttaken · 2020-01-11T23:06:46+00:00

Some of my routins I used to release myself from overthinking:

Saying “Hi.” to any women i would find attractive and passed by.
Laying down on my back while reading a book, in the middle of the street. 30 min would be enough.
Going and asking a beggar for a coin. (Toss a coin to your pick-up artist, Oh valley of seduction)
Making compliments to every women I would interact with. Maybe the girl that serves at the bar, maybe the girl you saw another day in the library, or maybe the girl that’s working in the shop you’re frequenting.
Go and ask girls things like “Would you like to take me a photo?” or “Do you mind if I sit near you?”

Little things, and renegated things are the things that’ll get you out the confort zone. Stop minding about society and their limited social horizons.

hermitnerd1 · 2020-01-12T16:52:18+00:00

Kratom, make sure it’s a white vein

Title	How do U stop being in your head and stop giving a fuck ? Like I’m always in my head and like self conscious I wanna be more confident
Author	Fattybomba123
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Date	January 10, 2020 7:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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