How do you avoid being a creep?

TyllyH · 2018-10-08T18:21:24+00:00

Being creepy is a lack of social calibration. Because there's something "off", it scares people.

Approaching when it's dark. Smiling at a funeral. Stalking a girl and not approaching. Inability to take a clear rejection. Saying morbid jokes to people you just met.

You fix this by socializing more and calibrating towards building comfort.

GomboAndGimlee · 2018-10-08T21:17:43+00:00

If you get called a creep or creepy once of twice in your life I don't think it's a big deal. If you get called that fairly regularly I'd say you need to make changes.

toreachtheapex · 2018-10-08T19:15:08+00:00

If you're an active poster in this sub, chances are you're an "el crepo" and its time to face the facts

LimitedContributor · 2018-10-08T17:24:40+00:00

You don't. You take the risk. Your anxiety can be your savior sometimes tho. Its telling you don't approach because your too unstable. Try again another time.

Missymuppetty · 2018-10-08T23:11:45+00:00

Take no for an answer.

I don't mind being hit on. I don't like being harassed.

quinnmcd · 2018-10-08T18:40:32+00:00

Believe it or not women don't know what a creep is. Ask a few girls what's a creep. They won't have a definition, but they will have examples of what they think it is. You can walk up to a girl, say hi and she might think you're a creep. You can walk up to a different girl, say hi and she'll think you're normal guy being friendly. We all have different perceptions of what a "creep" is.

Neediness and self worth are a mindset thing. I recommend reading Models for that. Low self-worth means you need to raise your confidence. This has been said before in this sub million time, if you want to raise your confidence 1. work out/exercise 2. improve your style, hygiene 3. practice working on your body language and posture.

You should never see yourself as a weirdo. If you feel misunderstood that's normal. From reading your post I would try working on communication and try to stop caring how people see you. If you believe your creep, then you might act like one. If you believe you're an awesome guy with extraordinary interests, fun hobbies ad person people want to be around then you'll start seeing you're as an awesome guy.

tramplemestilsken · 2018-10-08T20:06:44+00:00

There's a good quote in Mark Manson's 'Models' that goes something like.

If you're going to pursue women, there will be times when you will be called a creep. Taking risks means you might make some people uncomfortable.

How you avoid it, is responding with emotional intelligence if you are obviously making someone uncomfortable. Apologize or shrug it off with a comment and change the subject.

dailymanup · 2018-10-08T17:46:13+00:00

You must not have been paying attention man because posts about being a "creeper" are up on here all the time. In my view, being a creeper is self fulfilling. If you're constantly worrying about being a creeper, you're going to come across as creepy in everything you do. If you just chill out and be comfortable and confident with yourself, that will come across in everything you do.

Creepy guys are the ones constantly worrying about being creepy.

functionalsociopathy · 2018-10-08T18:25:28+00:00

"Creepy" is just a cop out word for "unattractive" that people use when they want to feel less shallow about disliking someone. There's not really a way to avoid it other than guiding them to a different derogatory word. Just call them uncreative if they say you're creepy.

K3wp · 2018-10-08T18:45:26+00:00

"Creepiness" is simply attention (usually of a sexual nature) from an undesirable suitor.

You can solve this by either being desirable, denying women attention or simply both.

Practice ignoring people. Don't even look in their direction. When you do, make the interaction brief before focusing on something else.

dodged_that_one · 2018-10-08T19:08:34+00:00

The appearance of confidence. If you're nervous they'll pick up on it and start speculating why you're nervous and that'll lead to conclusions that you are not being sincere, worried about being found out and creepy.

Women want to know where they stand, that's one of the main appeals of what people describe as being "alpha". Most of that is BS pseudo-science. What's important is that someone who is like that is being sincere in their communication of intentions - even if they are joking and being insincere in what they are actually saying. The woman knows where she stands and is flattered by the attention. The guy is taking charge of the situation and she can enjoy the ride, doesn't have to worry about having to steer things herself.

Title	How do you avoid being a creep?
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Date	October 8, 2018 4:44 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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