How do you come up with observational/comment opener?

Matter_Still · 2026-08-01T05:55:57+00:00

Buddy, you have got to snap out of it. A few days ago you said you had made your last post and here you are, again, with the another variation on the theme.

You are in what pilots call a “flat spin”. More times than not you can’t recover from one.

Take a breather. Walk away from the whole thing for a week or a month. Stop thinking about it. Every time you ruminate on your inability to talk to a woman your brain refortifies a neural circuit of “I can’t”.

Sometimes very good quarterbacks get “benched”. You need to bench yourself until your head clears.

Sendittor · 2026-08-01T03:38:20+00:00

It's best to actually talk to more than just good looking girls. It's much easier to directly compliment somebody when you absolutely want nothing from them and they don't look at you as somebody who wants something from them in the first place, more of just general human interaction.

Some people will ignore you because they have other things on their mind or other places to be or are just shy or really don't wanna talk to strangers; that has nothing to do with what you need to focus on.

When you realize attractive women are just as friendly when approached or talked to like a regular person, You can approach any interaction like an action on the street with any other total stranger.

Now put it all together and do not compliment a woman on her looks, If she is a potential mate.

If you see an older cashier lady has probably just gotten her hair done you can say "your hair looks nice"

If there's a hot chick in the grocery aisle that you wanna fuck, random example, you can say, tell yourself, or kind of out loud in general, and, kind of just side eye: "Ever since I was a kid I just crave SpaghettiOs sometimes..." I mean, who gives a fuck if she responds or not. The key is... if it gets any sort of reaction or agreement, you have a conversation opener.

I am NOT telling you what lines to use. You should be commenting on what is directly in front of you

That includes anything she is carrying with her or how she's dressed etc. There's where the fine line between not straight up trying to gloss her over and complement her looks, because you look like a suck up and she will lose respect... If there was already a overwhelming tension vibe in the air one or two moonshots might work but it is generally not worth the risk of showing all your cards right off the bat.

My point is you will have a hard time practicing observational commentary unless you practice it

and you're going to practice a lot less if you wait till you see a girl that you are trying to approach.

Edit: teases are100% observational humor that should draw absurd conclusions

Desperate_Ad_4561 · 2026-08-01T01:18:15+00:00

Why are you drinking corona you Spanish? Whats with that dress special occasion? I something to tell you, your skin complexion is just my type where you from? Just my type, hi my names Michael whats yours. What do you think of that boat painting over there? You ever been on a boat in the ocean? Is it hot in here or Just you, my names Michael. Look at them or your surroundings and make shit up

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-08-01T01:36:20+00:00

just the first thing taht comes to mind really.

The key is, you dont have to wow them in 3 sentences or less. SO i just take interest in something that they may like or wantt o hear from a stranger.

"hey just wanted to say i really like that dress, you are pulling it off really well. and here i thought it wasnt sundress weather yet."

"hey sorry to bother you, i noticed you were reading that book and honestly ive had it in my cart for 2 weeks and havent pulled the trigger out of fear it wasnt good. What do you think so far?"

"excuse me ladies, ive never been here. Ive always heard there's one girl in the group who always gets the best drinks, whose that int his group and what would she suggest?"

ControlGood8979 · 2026-08-01T06:30:55+00:00

You observe thats what observation means. Sometimes you indirectly do it. You really have to think and asking people for ideas on a sub is not thinking.

To be able to do this you must run what is identical to a background service in a computer. It must always be turned on and to have it always turned on you must use it frequently so that it's primed for the eventuality you meet a worthy woman.

To be able to come up with original openers and things to say is like being comedic and having good timing in addition to having experiences you can draw from to get inspiration from.

For example you could meet a French girl and say. Are you French?. I've always wanted to go to Paris in the summer. It looks so beautiful and interesting.

Then listen for the lifelines she gives you too continue the conversation.

She might say well I've never been to Paris... then you can take it forward but I imagine if you're asking for openers you will give that difficult too. So in that case: What openers do you use and what is the scene?.

Nervous-Arrogance · 2026-08-01T06:53:28+00:00

Practice "see it, say it" (Google "Improv exercises") or watch a YT video on it, hell one of the members of this sub, made a video on it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ibFezC8kKW0

Also I am going to say, in your last post regarding this same issue, you mentioned you have done improv, practice openers, etc (following on from advice people give you), yet when I read your last FR, you were walking around saying "Hi, whats your name". So, I mean this in the nicest possible way, as you are clearly stuck in some sort of loop here, please just practice stuff, so it comes naturally.

Realwoujo · 2026-08-01T15:50:44+00:00

Trying to memorize lists of openers is stupid. Trying to think of the "perfect" opener on the spot is stupid. Just give girls compliments. It will make your life much easier.

Big_Nick_1313 · 2026-08-01T17:52:30+00:00

World Cup was a gem, girls in jersey

Like a girl wearing a Brazil jersey.. ask are you Brazilian

Total_Obligation_371 · 2026-08-01T23:21:59+00:00

Hey dude, I responded to your post in the video I just posted. Hope it helps you.

https://youtu.be/WfKFjigVf2M?is=0dM3WDMUhJ83OOvD

Jason__Hardon · 2026-08-02T18:33:15+00:00

I personally use my eyes.

Title	How do you come up with observational/comment opener?
Author	Best_Marzipan_7774
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Date	August 1, 2026 1:09 AM UTC (2 weeks ago)
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