What is the difference between a conversation that creates attraction and a normal friendly one? As stated in the title I find it hard to understand. Essentially when I talk to friends and people I use the same instruments I “should” use in seduction :cold reading,statement, question and storytelling. The only thing that differ is flirting. Which is basically teasing ,being playful and polarizing. All of which could be basically wit,humor and push pull. So I got to thinking maybe I should frame it as hitting on women and just use flirting all day with everyone at different volumes. If I do that then my problem is the why am I approaching - from the women perspective. I am social but I hate it when stranger come up to and have conversation with me especially when I’m with my headphones. So it is hard for me to be able to that just socialize.