How do you deal with failure?

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-19T20:03:59+00:00

My life could finally become interesting with this girl”

This is why you fail, because your life should already be interesting without the girl. No girl wants to be the reason your life is interesting.

They wanna join someone who already has an interesting life.

Women will never ever make want to be the reason your life is interesting, so if you can’t find something else to make your life worth living then i’m afraid this is a lost cause for you.

Go get friends, new hobbies, travel, whatever it takes but don’t rely on a girl because that won’t get you anywhere with them.

mrpodo · 2022-05-20T01:43:36+00:00

Yeah I'm getting more and more depressed and regretful every single day. I suppose the fact we're still here makes us winners?

Neo-Rio · 2022-05-20T05:37:27+00:00

I know a lot of people are going to say "get an interesting life", but you're hardly going to be a man of mystery if you reveal everything about yourself either.

Frankly, most women don't really want some guy to hog the conversation and talk about himself all the time either.

You goal in a conversation is to get information about her, listen to what she says, and determine what words, ideas, and concepts she leans on when she finds herself attracted to a man. Then you use your language skills to accurately describe the process to her to drop her in a state that's amenable to getting her attracted to you. Given that this is what most women look for when they're on a date - you won't have any resistance to this.

So no, you have have a boring life going nowhere, but if you are able to touch a woman's emotions and master them - then it doesn't matter that nothing else is going on in your life.

Some of the best pick-up artists I have met have been unemployed bums with a lot of free time on their hands.

Dramadons · 2022-05-19T20:21:54+00:00

Just remember you’re worthy to talk to anyone, and don’t focus on yourself before and after the interaction but on her.

NastyMonkeyKing · 2022-05-19T23:59:07+00:00

Making mistakes once is fine and natural.

Making the same mistake multiple times is bad.

As much as it sucks you gotta realize this is a new game you're learning and you gonna fuck up at the beginning.

I also just got dumped and have had 4 soft rejections (not get go away, but moved passed exchanging contacts) and that's it since so no success since I've been trying to learn lol. Just the mind frame I'm trying to have

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-05-19T22:58:39+00:00

Try not to make the same mistakes over and over. Acknowledge it and try to force yourself to take the initiative next time.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-05-20T01:35:21+00:00

Take ownership. It’s fucking hard sometimes

Be analytical about what you did wrong, and use it to do better next time. Don’t beat yourself up over it

incognito3107 · 2022-05-20T09:17:01+00:00

Like with any other "failures", you need to forgive yourself and keep going. Be your own best friend.

marshall_strud · 2022-05-20T14:31:23+00:00

Failure doesn’t exist. You either succeeded or you learn. That’s it.

BeWaryOfBackstepping · 2022-05-20T19:32:16+00:00

Are there things you CAN control that are causing problems for you? I'm talking diet, skin care, physique, even damn hair cuts and personal grooming. These things are all completely within your control to manage and will do wonders. You're one of many many single men; what sets you apart? Anime, metal, and video games (just examples not saying this is you) aren't gonna get you the woman you want

Title	How do you deal with failure?
Author	Yellow_Squeezer
Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	May 19, 2022 7:48 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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