How do you deal with ghosting?

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Playful_Dot_537 · 2025-07-08T04:14:09+00:00

Plenty of women will give numbers or social with little to no intention to follow up. Or maybe they keep you as a backup plan or maybe just to get the validation.

You just need to learn to live with it. Keep multiple plates spinning because likely they are as well.

Calemsonn · 2025-07-08T04:21:34+00:00

You don’t. You just have to have other things going on in your life more important than women, my friend.

Unfortunately ghosting is big in modern dating. It happens a lot to women as well. Just think of it as them losing out on you instead of you losing them. You don’t want to be led on by someone who was only 50/50 about you. Better to be ghosted, move on and find women who actually like you.

KingRemu · 2025-07-08T04:11:17+00:00

You move on.

Ok_Investigator7568 · 2025-07-08T04:26:09+00:00

Dont ask for their number until a date is planned. Dont talk too much, only to plan dates

Vyvansss · 2025-07-08T04:43:02+00:00

Yep, I experience it too. Fortunately I get a lot of matches and new connections, so I move on quickly.

Perhaps my text game sucks, but it's a common problem.

I find it a bit ironic that it's normally the girls that say "only looking for something serious" who seem to put in the least amount of effort.

Outside_Bowler8148 · 2025-07-08T04:29:11+00:00

Ok so… you like a girl, get her number, talk for a bit, then nothing. What happens then? Does your life go to shit? Does your quality of life dramatically decrease? No. You at the very worst are left at the same place. Just your life without this girl, which by the way, should be as fun as possible. You should love your life as it is without any women in it. Focus on that. Women can sense that shit and not needing them actually attracts them. And then worst case scenario, you’re right back where u started, a life you love. If you don’t love your life and think adding women to it will make things better, it will not.

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-07-08T04:37:58+00:00

you need to learn how to demonstrate value, something that sets you apart from the generic guy, and don't ever show interest or hit on them first, read the old pick up gurus man;

and also get more leads, don't get attached to a single girl who gave you a number,

HypeTekCrew · 2025-07-08T04:42:35+00:00

Chris Voss in the book Never Split the Difference says that the surefire way to elicit a response is to ask them "have you given up on x?" Where x is whatever subject you are driving at

codingIsfuner · 2025-07-08T04:53:32+00:00

You don't you jet get another girl

No_Fan6078 · 2025-07-08T05:02:25+00:00

That's why some men talk about have options, I don't like it too much but even if you don't want options when you are or learn how to talk to women hang out with them they are going to come so you will have options whether you like it or not. Personally I have been ghost a lot but I write to them after and they answer me quickly, so I don't know if they really ghost me or I leave the conversation die lol, nowadays I don't want to date I have been seeing a pattern, when they send me a message that can be used to invite a date and I just missed it they ghost me, before I didn't pay attention to it, but now that I am not dating it is what it is. Dont over thinking it, grow as a men with better social skill, leading them and make them laugh in person ( I mean that's I always do, I don't like too much text, maybe that's why they ghost me, I always say it) in text just for short jokes and set dates, have your own life and don't show that you care to much about if they like you or text you back, I say it cuz I have always with this approach ( at first was because I hate talk to women in my opinion they were soooo boring), so I am willing to talk to them but if you don't want fine I will find another who wants.

nycthrowaway338 · 2025-07-08T06:33:27+00:00

After 24-48 hours, I typically say something like” if that’s your thing” or simply just “hey”. Don’t text the example you gave. It comes across as needy & annoying and isn’t attractive.

Ghosting sucks. I’ve dealt with it plenty of times. Either text something like I suggested and, if nothing happens after that, move on.

TaxRepresentative787 · 2025-07-08T04:02:36+00:00

You don’t “deal” with it, think of a female like a child, you don’t punish a child it’s just a child and you are at least in theory a men

Title	How do you deal with ghosting?
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Date	July 8, 2025 3:57 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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