Cold approach seems so simple, yet so challenging

TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-19T03:26:57+00:00

You can get 90% of the way there in a month if you really push yourself.

You know what sucks more..

Being 80 years old on your death bed feeling nothing but regret that you didn't just do it and have an abundance of girls in your life.

Regret is worse than rejection.

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-09-19T00:47:59+00:00

Watching others do it and reading about it really doesn’t help much imo. You have to just do it, yeah it’s uncomfortable yeah it probably won’t end well but ultimately if it’s something you want to do you have to try it. And once you do, the ironic part is you’re not going to remember all the stuff you read

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-09-19T05:51:54+00:00

Cold approaching is not an end of itself. It's just one method to accomplish the thing that you need - meet a woman you find attractive and hopefully take her home. Stop looking at it as something special and meaningful. Giving it this mythical meaning is what makes you nervous. It is actually the most normal thing in the world. Men and women seek each other out and are often constrained due to social rules, such as don't talk to strangers, or it's weird to walk up to someone and strike up a conversation because you are attracted to them. No it's not. That's just society bullshit.

gbizzle2 · 2021-09-19T01:27:49+00:00

Its only challenging because its equivalent to spamming aka "cold calling". Its better to advertise things to an audience that is actively looking for the product. How do you find your audience? You do it by gaging their interests and demographics. You learn about who they are and what they want BEFORE you advertise the product. So once you're ready to present your ad you know that the viewer is likely to purchase the product.

VS spamming. Spammers go around door to door interruping your time with some cheap ass offer. Something usually with little to no value. If you take the offer it usually leaves you feeling manipulated or buying it just to have pity for the salesman but things with real value arent offered door to door. We've never seen a lamborghini commercial because their value is exceedingly above the average consumer

So hot approach = that of a luxury vehicle. Display status and the approach will no longer be a challenge. Display weakness and you will be diminished.

MetaphysicPhilosophy · 2021-09-19T05:50:36+00:00

Stop watching other people do it and do it yourself. It is easy, but it will be hard your first couple of approaches (it actually continues to be difficult but you learn how to much better manage the anxiety). Once I decided to really start approaching, I cut out all PUA vids so I wasn’t living through others. That’s a necessary step. You think the guys in the videos who approach became good from watching PUA videos? No, they became good from taking action. The only reason they have the knowledge and skill they do is because of personal experience. Just get yourself out there man. Start small and continuously push yourself out your comfort zone.

missterrcammeraa · 2021-09-19T02:35:41+00:00

Remember how you first started walking, reading, pooping or riding a bike? Same like that you just gotta do it. It’s scary and or hard at first but you just have to do it. Everything you learn is easier said done

bridgetthebanker · 2021-09-19T23:07:51+00:00

Stop calling it that. You’re psyching yourself out. Cold approach sounds terrifying. Just fucking say hi to us and start doing it every day. Get comfortable with the basics. “Hi.” “How’s your day?” These should be easy.

bridgetthebanker · 2021-09-19T23:11:26+00:00

Last thing: please be brave. Even just to say hi. I hang out where men hang Out to make it easy for them and they still don’t say hello or try. Last weekend I went to the driving range thinking there would be lots of men there. There were. I hit balls for about two hours and not one said hi. NOT ONE. I was the ONLY woman and not one man bothered to come up and say hi and talk about golf. It’s always disappointing as a woman to always do ALL the work because men are too nervous to come say hi and just make a fucking friend. Don’t be the guy that goes up and tries to mansplain something. Just make a friend!

BugHistorical8691 · 2021-09-19T08:38:27+00:00

yeah obviously, you are approaching a bunch of strangers that doesnt want anything to do with you

if they did they would give you IOIs at first

you just end upp like the PUA clowns in their crappy infield videos where they just stand and talk a girl to death until she gives in and gives out her number (or a fake number) just to get rid of the guy and calls it a successfull approach

2021-09-19T10:39:02+00:00

You just have to get used to it. Try to just talk to then first (with no intention of moving further). Practice talking to strange women and get used to it.

If that is also hard, maybe you could even try to just make small talk with random guys if that is easier. Just get comfortable with it and move on to girls and eventually you will develop game.

PeanutButterPlease- · 2021-09-19T21:31:12+00:00

The cold approach seems hard for a lot of men because they they go into it with intention. Just trying walking up and talking to someone (man or woman) without intention of anything and you’ll notice it’s a lot easier to strike up a conversation. Especially when the situation you’re in gives you context to an opener.

For example, the other day I was at a local mall. The lady working in the store came up and introduced herself and asked if I needed needed help with anything. I used that as an opener to strike up conversation.

If you’re really feeling yourself, you could of even just used a cheesy pickup line and said something like, “yeah you can help me by letting me take you out for a drink sometime.”

bridgetthebanker · 2021-09-19T23:06:36+00:00

Trust me. I’m a beautiful woman and I wish more men would approach me. They rarely do. I always have to try to start the convo and they never get the hint. They think I’m actually trying to talk to them and really I just want them to notice me or like me enough to be friends or more. I think a lot of men are overthinking this big time. A woman like me should never be lonely.

spicy_simba · 2021-09-20T11:28:59+00:00

Watching videos is the issue my friend !

Don't obsess about it, just live your life and make sure to replace overthinking with actions that make you challenge yourself !

Title	Cold approach seems so simple, yet so challenging
Author	Amazondriver23
Upvotes	32
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Date	September 18, 2021 11:55 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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