How do you elevate things in a pub/bar?

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-07-21T17:54:57+00:00

You don't elevate in the bar, at first.

Isolating your target sounds like harsh wording but it's the only way to accurately gauge the girls interest so u can know how to proceed.

You go out for a smoke or some fresh air and tell her to feel free to join you. If the girl thinks u r attractive she will usually go with u. Girls behave differently and more openly show their interest level and start their own escalation game when u have them one on one away from the crowds and noise. By the time u go back in you should have a feel for the level of non verbal escalation and kino u can use to beat the noise.

Western-Month-3877 · 2024-07-21T20:25:27+00:00

No you shouldn’t be more bold with these girls. You seem like you know how to carry yourself, know how to talk to girls, you just don’t have methods on how to close it.

Big-Date8342 · 2024-07-21T22:36:43+00:00

Good approach will build attraction right away. Generic hi and questions sound bad. Cocky funny builds attraction, not serious/romantic. Touch is used to escalate, minor touch to start with. Bounce with the group back to your house or there's or wherever. Isolate target. Escalate more with touch while acting not interested, will have her begging for intimacy.

DaygameCode · 2024-07-22T11:01:05+00:00

“_There are too many guys who approach us in a sexual way and i’m glad you didn’t_”

That’s not a compliment. Those guys who act sexual are far more likely to get laid than you. All she is telling you is that she is happy to get an asexual male friend, and basically friendzoning you.

Intentions need to be clear from the start, that doesn’t mean you directly say “_hey i don’t you but i would like to sleep with you_”, that’s because saying that would get turned down since girls are not automatically in the mood for sex with a guy they just met even if it happens to be her type. There needs to be an emotional build up to get her comfortable, desired, valued and turned on t get to that point.

But you can say that you find them attractive, cute, at the beginning, and that you want to see if her personality is as nice as her looks. In other words you need to frame the conversation early on as an attempt to hit on her, which you don’t seem to be doing for now.

You seem to be starting conversations in an indirect manner, not really establishing that you are there to hit on them, but instead acting like you are just socialising and wanting to be friends first, without indicating in a clear way that you find them attractive.

This is bad because it wastes their time and your time. I get that it’s easier to hide your intentions because that way you cannot be rejected right away, but you are simply delaying the rejection for later after you wasted time. Elevating things to a romantic way needs therefore to be done at the beginning, not delayed.

GymBroTRT · 2024-07-22T00:21:26+00:00

On the contrary, you don’t want to be the guy who is trying to get her. You are still wondering how to get these girls, how to make them interested. But by virtue of trying to get them interested, you are presupposing that they are not interested because you are not sexy and attractive. So right off the bat, you are approaching as if you have to overcompensate for some major hurdle or flaw.

But when you do this, you are basically communicating to a woman “I’m not sexy and attractive, so I have to talk you into thinking I’m sexy and attractive”. It’s like shooting yourself in the dick before you even get started.

Better frame? Just assume they are interested just like every other woman in the place, so you can skip the whole “trying to get them interested by proving yourself to them” think and just skip to you screening and qualifying them to see if they are the type of girl you want to spend your precious time with.

MrAnonPoster · 2024-07-22T02:36:54+00:00

Keep her unbalanced

MouseAware809 · 2024-07-23T00:58:19+00:00

AnLearn a method, you dont know what your doing.

I'm going to actually suggest Mystery Method (the method not just the routines). It is built around being indirect.

Basically in a nut shell:

Do what ever it is your currently doing to approach. Your basically being told your asexual, you can't be anymore indirect than that.

Tell exciting stories about yourself. Ideally with the following themes "Pre-selected by women", "leader of men", be fun, show your adventurous.

Once they get interested, get them to qualify themselves.

Once they give you a reason to be interested other than their looks, NOW you show interest.

Now build comfort and rapport after ideally isolating your target.

SHare some sort of connection. Talk about shit thats happened in your life

Whilst doing all this, kino escalate.

Ideally bounce to another location.

Either get them back to yours or say "This has been fun, how can we continue this"

Then setup a day 2 or show them your bed.

Anyway, a lot of people find this method cringeworthy, so its upto you.

You can always go the super direct route, tell everyone "I just saw you and thought you were cute so I had to say hello". Sooner or later someone will bite. But if its a group of women, well even if one likes you, she won't want to be seen as easy.

Overall-Macaron-8466 · 2024-07-24T03:24:36+00:00

Change your mentality. Go out to meet people without having a hidden agenda. Girls pick up on that the minute you walk up to them lol

McPigg · 2024-07-24T21:22:26+00:00

You act more sexual and wild in a general sense, but not single on out. So you flirt with all of them addressing them as a group, and/or make sexual jokes, tell and talk about sexual shit in general (like about yourself or people in the enviroment, people you know or people in general). Key is to not single one out interest wise. This will make you not seem like too much of a pussy/friendzone type, while at the same not like a desperate needy creep. Your a cool talkative sexual guy, but kind of above it all, just having fun.

Them saying "your friendly not hitting on us" seems like more of a bad thing in your case, but you could actually play into that going like "yeah im not looking for anything tonight, im kinda over the whole boy-girl thing at the moment anyway." or "yeah im totally gay lol". You actively disqualify yourself, while keeping to show attractive traits.

You do that until you get choosing signals by a girl you want (her asking questions, being very atrentive, trying to get your attention etc)

Thats when you show a little interest to her in the form of curiosity/qualifying (prompt her to tell and show you shit about herself). If she invests into it, you reward that by acting impressed and giving a little more interest. Then when she "earned your interest" enough that way, you isolate, so you take her to the bar or outside "real quick".

There, you do the standard getting to know her questions. Nonverbally, you build sexual tension by getting horny and relaxed with her and showing it through your eyes and voice. You also sprinkle in some basic escalation at high points in the convo (like jewelry inspection, getting close to whisper sth or look at sth etc, kissing her). You can read about all that in more detail elsewhere.

This outline ive written is basically a bastardized version of the mystery method. His structure and tactics are actually still great, but all of his routines and lines are super cringe imo, theyre tailored to a 2006 hollywood magician.

Title	How do you elevate things in a pub/bar?
Author	Artium99
Upvotes	2
Comments	9
Date	July 21, 2024 5:15 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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