How do you learn this stuff when good old fashioned practice isn't helping?

chaot7 · 2026-04-06T18:38:34+00:00

Get out of your head and expect nothing. How would you act if a good friend walked in? You would laugh. You would tell stories. You would make fun of them. You would ask them real questions. You wouldn’t care if they were busy.

It’s the same thing, but you might get laid afterwards.

questionmarqo · 2026-04-06T18:23:56+00:00

You need to become comfortable in your own skin first

V3X390 · 2026-04-06T19:42:18+00:00

You need to build some healthy social habits first. Ask the cashier how her day is going. Give a stranger on the bus a compliment. There’s podcasts out there on how to hold engaging conversations. Once you’ve learned how to talk to girls as comfortably as you talk to guys, then you can figure out how to flirt.

epimpstyle · 2026-04-06T18:46:30+00:00

What "old school" methods have you tried that you’re 100% sure don't work anymore?

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-04-06T20:52:31+00:00

What do you mean good old fashioned practice isn't working? Nothing about this post indicates that you've practiced at all.

You have poor social skills so go lookup a guide on how to build better social skills and go out and practice. Once you have a baseline of social skills you can start learning to flirt.

sexymageofweed · 2026-04-06T20:55:57+00:00

your parents fucked you up

so yeah, the correct question to the solution to what you're looking for : how do I find out, heal and fix from the way I was raised as a boy?

norwegiandoggo · 2026-04-06T19:12:25+00:00

Seems like most of your issues are due to negative thinking patterns / limiting beliefs.

These can be addressed by cognitive reframing. Look up cognitive therapy exercises.

The fact that you get nervous and feel bad as soon as women are close - point to the fact that you have some terrible thoughts going through your head at that time.

Awkward_Freedom_4551 · 2026-04-06T20:43:49+00:00

you need to go out solo brother and face your fears, there is no way around this.

ProfitisAlethia · 2026-04-06T21:33:44+00:00

I used to be like this and fixed it through therapy. Cognitive behavioral therapy with an exposure ladder. Read the books "How to be Yourself" and "Overcoming Social Anxiety". You're gonna need a journal to record everything in and you're going to have to put in actual work. There's no way around the fact that you're clearly pretty anxious and that's what ruining your good time, so you're going to have to force yourself to talk to people. You can do it though.

Title	How do you learn this stuff when good old fashioned practice isn't helping?
Author	DescriptionFuture851
Upvotes	3
Comments	15
Date	April 6, 2026 6:21 PM UTC (3 months ago)
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