How to be happy alone

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DaygameCode · 2024-07-01T09:33:08+00:00

Women won’t come to you even if you try to work on your life. Women still have to be seduced, you need to learn to talk to them, make them feel emotions, learn to have healthy relationship, learn to kiss, learn to have sex.

It’s a mistake many guys make thinking they need to have the perfect life ignoring women completely and then they are so old and still virgins and without any clue how to deal with a woman. mYou shouldn’t get a girlfriend, you should have short term relationships to get as much experience as possible while working on your goals. Hookups, friends with benefits, one night stands here and there, etc no serious commitments with anybody.

Remandergrowth · 2024-07-01T12:05:28+00:00

Don't wait to build anything or reach any goal before you go after women. This is a mistake I see men make all the time. They wait and wait until they reach some arbitrary goal and waste time. You have to learn to seek multiple goals at once. Getting a GF may be 1 goal, and getting in shape may be another. And you can do both at the same time.
Now you don't need to learn to be fully happy single but you can't let your singleness stop you from enjoying the pleasures of life. Another mistake I see men make all the time is that they do not prioritize exploration and personal fun. They are either completely dependent on their friends for experience, or they sit at home and don't experience anything. Go to a museum or concert by yourself. Explore new parts of your city. Volunteer. Fill your life with interesting activities, so you are not waiting for some woman to come into your life to feel good.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-07-01T07:31:11+00:00

I think the general idea is that you don't spend so much time chasing women that you forget to have a life.

Banhammer40000 · 2024-07-01T11:36:29+00:00

To be alone is a state of being. To be lonely is a state of mind. Work that out first.

The point is not to chase women, but attract them. That means to be a person worthy of attraction. There are many paths to this, but they all require work.

In short, be better

Mc_Dickles · 2024-07-01T06:51:18+00:00

You balance it out. The same way you pursue something, you also pursue women.

For example, last night my friend and I went to go see a performer. I didn’t have the courage to talk to any girls that night, especially because it was super loud in there. The performer ending up giving away some vinyls and my friend caught one. In the subway waiting for the train ride home, I made eye contact with a woman, and saw her smile. I immediately approached her, and showed her my friends vinyl and explained her the cool story. We chatted for a bit, and she gave me her Instagram. The next day she opened my DM and left me on seen, no follow back since.

LOL so what’s the point of my story? I think your love life should something just as similarly passive. Taking opportunity when it arises, and just going with the flow. Taking this “go for broke” approach where if something continues, awesome, and if it doesn’t then fuck it, onto the next. I’m gonna continue following and send two more DM’s until I unfollow and scrap that potential. You should be able to pursue your health and wealth goals, and in the middle of it all, be able to meet people as they come and go. Meeting women doesn’t require you at all to pause your life, and if anything, many of them are willing to accompany you and be a part of it. I didn’t stop going to parties… I would meet girls there or invite them to parties. Same thing.

meddiemo · 2024-07-01T06:52:16+00:00

Going through this right now 😪. Please advise

mallocco · 2024-07-01T08:31:33+00:00

Well one question is: how much do you have going on in your life right now?

Part of being happy alone is having hobbies, career goals, family, friends, etc. All of that stuff brings contentment to your life. Go see your friends, have a good time doing what you like to do. Get some hobbies: go birdwatching, hiking, play some video games, build a bookshelf. Anything that makes you happy.

A new thing I've found very fun and accomplishes both contentment and female interaction is volunteering at local events as a bartender (no professional experience necessary). I can flirt with girls all night (and 60 year old ladies), just for fun. If one of them was seriously in to me (the younger ones lol), she'll let it be known.

My above example is kind of an extension of "getting yourself out there." You want to go out and have fun, but you could also have a personal objective of talking to women. When you're single, you can pretty much always be on the prowl. You never know who you might meet!

ifonlyYRUso · 2024-07-01T06:44:18+00:00

I’ve learned through my experience when I’m seeking for a woman in my life nothing ever happens but when I get busy with life and don’t pay attention to seeking love it literally falls in right in my lap.

Chicagoj1563 · 2024-07-01T16:20:02+00:00

Unless you are doing some sort of reset where you want to be by yourself and do your own thing, it’s best to focus on getting social. Go out and meet people on a regular basis.

If most guys had an active social life, there probably wouldn’t be any dating scarcity issues even if you have no game.

Rabbit-Punch · 2024-07-01T17:31:45+00:00

Dude, whoever gave you that shit tier advice is wrong. Woman are not a byproduct of your success. If you want a woman, you should get her now as in today because you already are enough for a woman. Don’t put off that until you’ve built your empire or whatever

marypluslamb · 2024-07-01T18:01:57+00:00

I'm a woman and this is something I've thought so much about over the past year. I'm 39, and after my 15 year marriage ended a few years ago I really realized just how much having a connection with a man makes me feel more "balanced" in many ways. I'm working to get on my own two feet for the first time and have also wondered if a healthy relationship would just come as the inevitable next step in my own personal progress.

ZenoGeno · 2024-07-01T11:03:47+00:00

To a point this is impossible tbh, you will see your friends getting girlfriends/families and you will stay alone, thinking there's gotta be something wrong with you, been that way for me for 5 years now, even hobbies aren't as fullfiling.

Title	How to be happy alone
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