How to build attraction over text over long periods?

itsmevichet · 2013-05-20T14:37:18+00:00

If there's no physical contact for a while, why aren't you meeting other women?

Is this your wife? Is this even your girlfriend? What's the hold-up?

These rules seem kinda dumb to me.

And I can't tell if you're trolling.

But I don't know how to stop attraction from dwindling if there's no kino for a while.

Sorry, buddy, but if you don't water plants, they die. Period.

You can't text water to a plant. You can't text your way into attraction unless the girl is already strongly attracted to you from how you've interacted in person. And even then, it goes away a little each day she doesn't see you. And the less attracted she is to you, the more annoying your texts are.

Then there's this: every day that she's away from you, and if she's got no actual commitments to you, she's meeting guys in person who have tight game, and they're building way more attraction in person than whatever messages you might be sending her.

So, again, is this your wife or girlfriend?

yokhai · 2013-05-20T16:34:06+00:00

fuck rules, send whatever text you want, get laid.

lisward · 2013-05-20T19:19:39+00:00

You need to have a fucking purpose when you send texts, that's most important. Too many guys just send texts to get validation from a female. An important man who fucks a lot of females doesn't have time to banter over texts.

s0craduction · 2013-05-21T00:37:08+00:00

There is only 2 goals with text game: to keep whatever level of attraction and comfort you have; and get a meetup. Only real reason not to text is if she isn't responding. If she is responding to all your texts make a bit of light flirty small talk then suggest a meetup as soon as it feels right. Sooner is always better if its from night game because whatever attraction you had starts fading as soon as you leave that interaction and soon you'll just be that guy she talked to the other night.

If they don't respond wait a day then try again still no response wait 2 days this time then 4. At this point give up they're clearly not interested. This is sort of arbitrary but this will keep you from coming across as needy and desperate in the cases where they might have been busy or out of town etc.

Good text game starts in the interaction though, always program your number into her phone that way you completely avoid the: "this is blank we met at blank" text from some random number. Better yet (and this is my favorite number close) take a picture together with her phone and ask to send it to yours, then program your number in with the picture.

Always try to seed a day 2 idea into the initial interaction and really over sell it so she gets excited about it and already wants to meet up again. You don't have to ever do the day 2 but it gives them a reason to want to talk and see you again. So its not weird your texting her you already made plans sort of.

CaSh31MoNeY · 2013-05-20T14:23:57+00:00

girls want to talk about anything and everything. use that to your advantage, but you don't want to be like her friends that yap about nothing. don't try to be mr. fix it but do suggest things, little off topic sorry.

try asking her about her day or how she's doing/if she has any fun plans. most don't stop talking once you ask them questions.

being that there is no physical contact (why exactly? long distance, someone you just met?) and compliments are the easiest/most affective (not generic be specific) makes this difficult. do you ever see her? tell her you want to see her because (fill in blank with compliment). sorry kinda need more to give advise

in short, attention and caring is what attracts women. cool car, hair, football, guitar attracts HS girls ;)

au1357 · 2013-05-21T00:54:03+00:00

So you need to drop her cold. No text or other contact initiated by you until the exams begin. Then simply wish her luck on the exams when they begin. Nothing more and see where the conversation leads and thats when you sense if she is feeling you... then you make your final attempt to get her out. You need to build attraction by not giving a fuck. See /r/howtonotgiveafuck This sub reddit really helped my text game... you need to not care. No that you are a HONEYBADGER you better have purpose to texts that will make her laugh, smile or generally feel good about you. I choose humor mostly, but negs from time to time, and direct compliments/encouragment. DO NOT TALK ABOUT BS. You have too much else going on far as she is concerned... you need to be more busy than she is or atleast seem that way. If you really like this girl I also recommend that you practice as often as humanly possible on your entire game if you want to give it your best go at this girl... So I think you need to set a goal for how many Kcloses, #closes, Fcloses you think is realistic in 3 weeks and hit it hard! PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE!

GirTheRobot · 2013-05-21T07:52:27+00:00

I've recently hit it off quite nicely with a couple girls (makeout sesh with one, date scheduled with another) and I have been texting them, but there are a few things I keep in mind:

Don't talk about whatever the fuck. The ONLY things you should be saying should be funny/witty, get her imagination going, teasing or be completely sexual. For instance, the very first text I sent to one of these girls was "QUICK A KILLER WHALE HAS YOU HOSTAGE AT GUN POINT AND THE ONLY THING YOU CAN DEFEND YOURSELF WITH IS THE NEAREST OBJECT TO YOUR LEFT. WHAT DO YOU DO?" and this went on for a bit.

With another girl, she tried to get me to talk about myself (asking where i work) and I just completely avoided the question and instead asked her what her favorite part of the male body was. This lead to some interesting conversations, as well as EASY gateways for teasing.

Basically with both of these chicks I made my intentions clear right from the start, and also established myself as a fun kinda guy. I also established a LOT of inside jokes this way, which you of course can bring up in person when you guys hang out. You can also pull the classic "feign disinterest" and not respond for hours at a time, depending on the context. Sometimes I literally can't respond for hours at a time because I'm at a movie or at work or w/e. Other times I just like to make them wait.

Just don't overdo it. Don't text all the time. Give it a day breather every now and then, etc. You should consider the texting supplemental material to the physical interaction/hanging out.

Title	How to build attraction over text over long periods?
Author	MikeNashFlash
Upvotes	9
Comments	22
Date	May 20, 2013 2:12 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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