I got Scammed , maybe (?)

BajinghaBlop · 2015-05-27T05:27:02+00:00

Why did you pay for all of that? It doesn't matter what happened after you paid. That was stupid to begin with.

Next time stand your ground. Don't ask if she wants to do something that isn't a dinner date; give her the choice of joining you on a date of your choosing, or not coming at all.

philoskeeper · 2015-05-27T08:59:17+00:00

When you saw the bill you should have "gone to the restroom" and just left

curly_headed101 · 2015-05-27T05:37:32+00:00

banin0351 · 2015-05-27T11:36:41+00:00

Welcome to dating. There's girls out there that do this for fun. My wife's best friend has never been in a relationship, she just goes on fancy dates with different men all the time. Best advice would be to drop that gold diggin mooch. Or if you want I can give you my wife's best friends number and you can spend another $190 on a dead end date.

Your in luck. She's in the Bay Area too.

Janjjoic · 2015-05-27T05:25:20+00:00

How long were you talking to her before the date??

kemar7856 · 2015-05-27T13:34:51+00:00

I would'nt say scammed but played yes

Iloveyou-Iknow · 2015-05-27T10:16:59+00:00

I hope this horrible experience works as a wake up call for you. You need to immediately get help if you ever want to talk to a woman and trust her again.

Read:

Double Your Dating 2nd ED (David DeAngelo) today. It is pretty short but I want you to take everything it says AS THE TRUTH. Forget everything that the society or your mother ever taught you about women, about being a man, and about relationships. They obviously haven't worked.

Chances are you will read his other material, listen to the audio recordings of seminars, and read other books too. But you first need to fix your way of thinking.

Ever heard of Neil Strauss? He is bald too. He was a complete wallflower and a nice guy. He wrote "The Game"; the bible of pick up. He simply decided he should fix this area of his life called "dealing with women"; and worked on it without being lazy or afraid. I am not saying you should be a pick up artist; but there is a veeeeeeeeeeeeeerryyy wiiiiiiideee band of self respect and skill between where you are right now and someone who respects and loves women, treats them right; but never offers anything other than his personality and a good sex life.

This is an online public library edition of the book I want you to get some coffee and read this today. Take it as your new testament. Message me when you are done and I will advise you more material and a course of action to become a bald beast in a few months up to a year.

The "old you" dies TODAY.

SIV221 · 2015-05-27T12:49:55+00:00

The way you made this sounds like a wife, but she was just some girl. All you need to do is be confident and know you won't give them more than five dollars no matter how rich. You're here to have a good time, drink some frappuccino or such. That's the key part. Never pay for their meals. 190's absurd but good to see it wouldn't affect you.

All in all, bad date and wouldn't even drive this woman home. If a woman suggests lunch or dinner, I say no. What's the problem of going to a park or just chatting? How hard is it to be a social man and have fun?

I feel for you and hope you don't get scammed like this. It is a message for everyone, don't do dinner/lunch dates. They'll flake.

livinghonestly · 2015-05-27T14:43:57+00:00

Sounds like a rough experience but a positive one. I had to pay a grand once for a lesson because a "friend" robbed me when he heard I had cash hidden in my room. It sucked, but I needed to learn to draw firmer boundaries with people in order to keep the shitty ones out of my life. That was an expensive lesson.

You paid $190 for several lessons. One, don't put yourself in a position to be taken advantage by a person unless you know them well enough to trust them. Just because she has tits doesn't mean she gets to go to a pricy dinner. Meet for coffee and if its going well and both of you are interested you can transition there. She is cold/disinterested and was looking for a free meal, you deserve better. You started by saying that you are "also premature bald and shave my head full". As long as you see your self as prematurely balding/ old/ inexperienced you'll act insecurely and find yourself vulnerable to unhealthy women. There are plenty PUAs out there that are more hideous than the both of us, but they have addressed their inner beliefs about themselves and aren't held back by it.

ResistingTemptation · 2015-05-27T15:37:09+00:00

She may have done this on purpose or not. But you allowed it to happen so you're at fault here.

You could've said no to lunch/dinner at the pricey restaurant, no to how much she ordered. Forget about politeness at that point, she was already being rude herself by expecting you to pay and ordering far more than expected.

For next time, keep it casual, at least for the first few dates. Nothing pricey. Coffee, light lunch etc. I personally don't have an issue for paying for that, but you don't want to fit into the role of the 'provider' yet, if at any time. $190 could have easily bought you like 10+ dates haha.

If she keeps dating you, then you know it's not because of money. Easy problem, easy solution. Stop being a pushover and you'll be able to separate the interested from those who aren't.

Mudane · 2015-05-27T23:38:18+00:00

You should I've never played for the gold digger in the first place. Hoes will do that too you. Never use any of threw to get sex from a girl you just met. Drugs,money, and power. When you can get girls so simple without them three things. You did get scammed but don't be a fool. Learn from this and move on. Thats how betas become alphas and how alphas become omgeas.

WuCrayon · 2015-05-29T04:15:30+00:00

Finessed

themanbat · 2015-05-27T12:11:24+00:00

Look. You chose to take her out. You chose to pay. You were in control of all these things.

Yes women traditionally get free shit in the dating process. But it was you who chose to adhere to tradition.

She may have thought it was a lovely date, but just doesn't want a second one for a million of private reasons.

Not saying that it doesn't suck, but it's not a scam. Her eating food when offered, without wanting to further things, isn't a scam anymore than it would be for you to have sex with her, without wanting to marry her.

ljlf · 2015-05-28T04:24:20+00:00

I hope I won't get downvoted but, swing by /r/TheRedPill/ Good luck! I know you've learned a lot with this experience which is pretty much the only thing you can do.

TacticalBouncyCastle · 2015-05-27T10:46:40+00:00

As a rule, don't pay for girls until you have sex.

There are exceptions of course, but without knowledge of the nuances you are very likely to be fucking up. If a girl wants you, she'll usually insist she pay. Some will require you allow them to buy you a drink. If you want to spring for something for the sake of convenience, do so knowing that she's very likely to lose some respect for you unless you emphasize she's the one seeking out your time.

If a girl is asking for you to pay for something, she's almost always playing you.

Hecticchow · 2015-05-27T09:55:04+00:00

She's cold because you did not come across as a very dominant man. 1. Always plan a date yourself and avoid dinners for first dates. 2. Make it clear you won't pay for her

Title	I got Scammed , maybe (?)
Author	daitwait
Upvotes	22
Comments	26
Date	May 27, 2015 5:08 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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