I just dont know how...

quickjump · 2019-08-28T05:09:51+00:00

I say this to everyone who needs help in more than one area and that is to read "How to be a 3 % man" by Corey Wayne. You can also get the audio book from audible. It's not a book teaching exactly you how to flirt, it teaches you how to act and carry yourself. It also goes through his steps to inviting a girl out and a lot of general information. I'm sure if you have any questions after reading that book, it will be a more specific question. That book helped me take a birds eye view of successful man-to-woman interactions in the most consistent way.

One thing he stresses is that texting/messaging is only a vehicle for setting up a date, that's it. It's okay for a few messages to pass back and forth but no more than roughly 5 or 6 before locking down a date. It helped me organize myself and interact with women without struggling to figure out how/what to say or do. I wish I read it at an earlier age but at the same token, I'm glad I know it now.

GL

knightgod1177 · 2019-08-28T07:42:46+00:00

Yeah man, I get how you’re feeling. I’ll try and give you the most straightforward and honest advice I can.

First off, it’s good you’re in college, there’s no better time to learn and grow, even at 25.

Second, I feel like you’re grossly overthinking what to do with women. Don’t think about it too much, women generally find it a compliment, so just take it easy. Ask for their number, or go for lunch together if the timings right. But you gotta show effort, in so far as you want to spend time with her/get to know her. On top of that, it helps if you’re genuinely interested in the girl.

Thirdly, do not do a fancy restaurant date right off the bat. If all you’re about is possibility ending dates, that’s a sure fire one. Too much pressure, totally unnecessary. Simple is better, and much more relatable.

You have to keep the interactions escalating through, for lack of a better term, checkpoints. Small talk, flirt, ask for number, date, kiss or more, date some more, relationship if you want. That’s the order I usually go through, and often things fizzle out before the relationship stage. That’s just how life is, you can’t win them all.

Don’t think too much about when to ask for the number, or when to escalate. It’s one of those things you’ll have to learn to feel out on your own. Maybe it’ll be when you’re at the emotional high point of your small talk/flirting, that’s a good start as any.

Ultimately you’ll have to just try man, there’s no other way. You have no choice but to risk rejection and failure, because that is the only way you will learn and improve.

ProudRamboBSNS · 2019-08-28T19:03:37+00:00

Don't take women to fancy restaurants on any of your first couple of dates. Forget about it.

Unless you're both rich and in your thirties.

Even then, it's not easy to progress with touch, and that's important. You'd need to find a casual place which has seats where you can sit to her side, and even then it's difficult to touch without making it seem forced. It will always feel slightly out of place.

Take girls to activities where you can get physical, like snooker, minigolf, bowling, dancing. I love dancing. If you're dancing with a girl, you start at a higher level of sexual excitement. It's very easy to progress physically from there and that's what you're missing in your interactions: touch.

Fun and touch + flirting and eye contact. That's all you need.

Give her shit for screwing up at whatever sport you're doing. Physically push her, then grab her and pull her back in with a smirk. Hold her tighter and look her in the eyes with a smile, then, when she thinks you might be going in for the kiss, slightly push her away on her upper chest, grab her hand and start walking, with a smiling, but decisive "Let's go for a walk".

You get the vibe that I'm creating?

aP0THE0Sis1 · 2019-10-25T16:29:15+00:00

Society has you thinking it’s not good to go after sex. WRONG. That is the primary goal and girls want it to but are selective who they want it with. Girls like you so you probably are good looking but that only takes you so far. I’ve known plenty of uglier guys getting a ton of chicks and threesomes. Looks only gets you in the door but you have to learn how to close the deal.
And saying your standards are too high is just your excuse for chickening out. Stop being such a pussy man. It’s like the kid who doesn’t get what they want and then they say I didn’t want it anyway. And you are waiting for girls to come to you because you are using your “good looks”. You might get a few girls and pick the low hanging fruit. But to get the fruit at the top of the tree. The ripest juiciest sweetest, you have to climb up and get it. It’s not going to fall on your head like Newton’s Apple. Someone else uglier than you will go and snatch it up and eat the shit out of that peach. And spit the seed out and that will land on your head and you’ll fuck it and get poked in the penis hole by the rough seed

ntipz011 · 2019-08-28T09:05:09+00:00

Tldr?

Also, do you even try to fk them bruh? You have to make moves and go for what you want.

Title	I just dont know how...
Author	DarkFite
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Date	August 28, 2019 2:35 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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