I thought it would be fun to post a rejection note I received today.

Begotten912 · 2014-02-18T19:27:39+00:00

never heard of people so involved after 2 dates.

and thoughts? she thinks you're nutless

stoveup · 2014-02-18T18:38:40+00:00

FRIIIIIIIIEEEEEEEEEEEENNNNNNND ZOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOONNNNNEEEEDD.

STylerMLmusic · 2014-02-18T20:42:05+00:00

You: I'm in the mood to see you this week, how does Tuesday sound?

Her: I need a bit of space to think about things

You: Take your time to figure out what you need to, i didn't realize you were unavailable, i never would have asked you out.

Her: I like you James I really do. You treat me right and respect me. Your like the perfect guy and ticked of all my expectations I have for guys. But its when I kiss you I feel asif I'm kissing my best friend or a close family member. I don't feel asif there's that chemistry there, I don't know whether you feel the same. I feel asif I love you but I'm not in love with you. This is completely not your fault whatsoever and I don't like saying these things but it's what I feel, I hope you can understand ......

You: I feel differently about our experience together, and i'm sorry to hear you feel the way you do. I'm happy to remain in contact as acquantances, but i'm definitely not interested in being friend zoned in the serious way you just did to me. I feel as if you just took the two-dated commitment that i had of you, and turned it into a family bond, and i'm definitely not interested in that at the moment, and certainly not so soon after getting to know you this way.

EDIT: For clarity, i use this as a baseline for what i would have said to receive better- if not temporary- results. i feel like 90% of what went wrong was on her.

HappyJerk · 2014-02-18T19:13:28+00:00

What are ur thoughts if I wanted to see u in the middle of the week?

Don't ask like this!! You need to be more confident. You need to ask as if you know she will say yes. You need to say shit like "hey want to meet me at X at y time"

Her:I need a bit of space to think about things

You: Ok, enjoy thinking

But its when I kiss you I feel asif I'm kissing my best friend or a close family member.

You: Yay!!! You can be the sister I never wanted.

And then cut contact.

The rest of that crap you typed out was needy and pathetic.

readonlyuser · 2014-02-19T01:31:21+00:00

Here's my thoughts:

Your attraction needs work
Don't be needy
You're being needy
Move on

ItsNotAScam · 2014-02-18T19:40:07+00:00

Wow- you were clearly way too much of a gentlemen if you're receiving texts like these. You need to push the escalation and kino harder- WAY harder.

2014-02-19T04:35:18+00:00

she loves you after 2 dates. lol. is she 14?

cookem8 · 2014-02-18T19:52:50+00:00

you're too nice. you got friend zoned, move on. it's possible this happened because you didnt escalate to sex on the second date.

Gentlelamb · 2014-02-18T19:57:12+00:00

This is completely not your fault whatsoever

The harsh fact here is that it is in fact your fault. I'm not saying this to bash or stomp on you but quite simply you did not build enough attraction (chemistry). Scan through seddit and the sidebar, it should give you some advice on how to be more successful next time.

dreamking88 · 2014-02-18T20:09:28+00:00

http://www.metacafe.com/watch/an-oQSs4n4Ymh7un/back_to_the_future_1985_georges_moment_part_3/

rikjames90 · 2014-02-19T05:31:38+00:00

"SO IS YOU TRYING TO FUCK OR NAW!? NO? FUCK YOU THEN?"

Trinnity · 2014-02-19T06:44:40+00:00

I got put in the same boat as you just recently, although I admit I made it a priority to not speak like you did (no offence to you, I used to do it all the time). At this point you've put the relationship in her hands "Just let me know if you want to talk about it". It's basically saying I'm fine with you fucking me around if you want to come back I'm here.

Basically the girl I'm with responded to me when I asked her to come round on Friday with a very shitty toned "Maybe.." which eventually turned into one of those "I'm confused about my feelings" (Pretty much same example as you). In my case and I'm not saying I did everything right I just said something along the lines of "You're hot and cold all the time and it's putting me in the middle of things. You know I'm into but I'm not going to settle for just being in the middle. Sus whatevers going through you're head and hit me up". You feel better because you gave you're honest and (non-nice guy) opinion. When you said "Fair enough I guess.." You're just making excuses to not mention what your true intentions are.

Tell her your intentions and brush it off, go out and socialize. It's what I'm doing now and hey, if the girl comes back saying she wants you that's your decision. The rules of attraction are at you're opposites when you're 'always there'. Even if you have nothing else lined up, give off the impression that you're fine with leaving and moving on (in context to the tone of the text as said above).

You're better than that. Don't let some young girl friendzone you and be ok with it.

Mouthpiece · 2014-02-19T13:52:20+00:00

You treat me right and respect me. Your like the perfect guy and ticked of all my expectations I have for guys. But its when I kiss you I feel asif I'm kissing my best friend or a close family member.

You didn't turn her on. She's not looking for a nice guy but a bad boy. What you described as "all over" each other, she thought was like kissing her brother. There's an obvious disconnect in your perceptions vs. hers.

academyawardwinner · 2014-02-19T15:49:58+00:00

Be honest, are you Marty Mcfly?

2014-02-18T23:41:18+00:00

Nice Guy syndrome, friend zoned, beta come to mind.

/r/theredpill

Unfriendly_Giraffe · 2014-02-19T18:41:19+00:00

as_if.

Title	I thought it would be fun to post a rejection note I received today.
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Upvotes	24
Comments	57
Date	February 18, 2014 6:22 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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