Hi guys I'm new here and today I want to share with you the most important behaviors of an attractive male.

Over the years a lot of my buddies and I have been very successful with women. I was always very interested in understanding the dynamics that went into play. So outside of just having fun and fucking around, like the boys did, I also observed a lot. I have a very intuitive way of thinking and analyzing, so after a couple of years, I started seeing all kinds of patterns... This is how I came about these 7 behaviors.

 

1. Attractive men take care of themselves.

This one should be a no-brainer. Is it possible to feel bad, look like shit and still seduce a girl? Yeah of course. But if you’re going for a gorgeous woman with a lot of options, you should look like you take care of yourself. She isn’t interested in raising a guy or teaching you how to shave or dress yourself. Man up. Sleep enough, eat healthy, stay in shape and always dress well enough to be proud of yourself. A recipe for swag, hehe. PS: Ask attractive women for advice on your hairstyle, perfume and on how to dress. They will probably do a better job picking the right thing than us.

 

2. Attractive men are present and have fun.

Everybody loves to be around people who are having fun, so go for it. Always focus on doing things you enjoy. You’ll be more present, and you’ll have more fun. Don’t focus on getting girls, or kissing them… “a mind that wants to achieve an outcome, is not the same mind that achieves that outcome” - Jon Kabat-Zinn You can be doing something as simple as having an interesting conversation. (The key to interesting conversations is to be interested!) You can even take someone for a walk or play a game of darts. Oh yeah, and when you’re talking with someone, LISTEN. There’s nothing worse than explaining something and then realize nobody's listening. Nowadays people are so focused on themselves lately, that just listening to someone will already make you stick out.

 

3. Attractive men don’t let others affect their mood, they’re empathic but assertive.

Your mood and feelings should not be influenced by external things, in general. For example, don’t freak out when somebody cuts you off in traffic. It doesn’t matter, have some perspective. But the same goes for when other people act annoyed, sad or weird. It never helps to feed into it and let them ruin your mood, so don’t. Of course use common sense, if a buddy needs some emotional support you should give it. But when people complain and bitch without good reasons. Fuck that. Flip the conversation or talk to somebody else.

 

4. Attractive men make others feel good about themselves.

There are a lot of ways to do this. A good way to start is having fun and giving some genuine compliments. Be curious and ask questions. When you hear something you like, just say it. Making others feel good in an authentic way, makes you pretty happy too.

 

5. Attractive men are direct in their communication and say what needs to be said.

Don’t beat around the bush and point out the pink elephant in the room. Not saying what you think usually doesn’t serve anybody, it only creates tension or unsolved issues. People can’t read your mind. Of course, you can be mindful on how you put things, but make your intentions clear and be honest.

 

6. Attractive men are authentic. They don’t change themselves so that others will like them.

Be yourself and take off your filters. You don’t hold back when you’re with your good old buddies, so don’t do it when you meet new people. When you meet new people and act as if you knew them already, it can help create more trust in a faster way. If you think of a joke that you believe is funny, tell it. If you feel like asking a weird question, do it. You can always be mindful about it and give them a heads up about what you’re going to say, but don’t hold back. (Eg. This joke might be a bit weird, but…) You want people to like you for who you are, not for who you pretend to be. And pretending to be someone else isn’t even a guarantee people will like you. So just be real.

 

7. Attractive men don’t hesitate too much and take action.

If you ever find yourself stuck, not knowing what to do, action’s usually the answer. Just do something and see where it goes. No, don’t plan how to do something. DO something. Mark Manson has a great article on this, he calls it the “Do Something Principle”. Say hi to that cute girl next to you in the bus. Just go to the gym if you’re not sure if you have the energy for it. Nobody likes indecisive pieces of shit, so don’t be one please.

 

So here’s a summary...

  • Attractive men take care of themselves
  • Attractive men are present and have fun
  • Attractive men don’t let others affect their mood, they’re empathic but assertive.
  • Attractive men make others feel good about themselves.
  • Attractive men are direct in their communication and say what needs to be said.
  • Attractive men are authentic. They don’t change themselves so that others will like them.
  • Attractive men don’t hesitate too much and take action.

 

If you have any questions, do reply!

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