I've got some insecurity issues

GameAndGains · 2018-01-27T23:42:51+00:00

Get a rotation of different women.

Problem solved. You won't worry about one cheating because who fucking cares, you have back ups for your back ups.

Its called "abundance"

IlikeJG · 2018-01-28T09:05:32+00:00

Counseling. Counseling. Counseling. Just get it. Please. It can help so much for issues like this.

WhiteSnake_for_you · 2018-01-28T09:28:49+00:00

The advice you're getting in this thread is pretty terrible, though I understand where its coming from.

I think a better strategy would be to not focus so much on romantic relationships and instead focus on yourself, your interests, and your friendships. Events from your past are marring your perception of the present, and that will influence your future.

Let those emotions from the past fade, integrate those experiences, and if possible, learn from them. Maybe your ex exhibited character traits that you would like to avoid in the future? Maybe those character traits are a warning sign of infidelity? If you haven't considered what you've learned from the past, especially if thats not possible due to your emotional reaction to those memories, its a sign that you haven't fully moved on.

In addition, having a "rotation of women" might not be something that works for you. It might only exasperate your problem and add stress to your life. You should try to honestly and realistically consider what you want from life, right now and in the future. Once you've decided, then begin taking steps to make it happen.

MrDiece · 2018-01-28T09:37:19+00:00

You're putting too much value on girls you haven't even fucked.

If you haven't fucked a girl, you should not have feelings for her to the point of being upset when she's with other guys.

If you have fucked, you still shouldn't let her fucking other guys effect you. Sure, it may downgrade her in your book but you're not losing sleep over it.

HighwindMark2 · 2018-01-28T16:54:54+00:00

Leading boys on is a sport. Everybody gets led on. You just got to accept that's just something that ~~some~~ most girls do, and if possible forgive them, and yourself. Be grateful that you discovered the behaviour when you did, now you won't have to waste any more time.

LingeringGnome · 2018-01-28T21:47:04+00:00

I want you to read what I'm about to say very carefully. Because it's going to cure this for you:

Women are not princesses.

Most women love to catch a buzz, feel positive emotions, and then to have crazy, filthy, dirty sex. They love to have their fantasies opened up. They love to be talked dirty to during sex. They LOVE sex, maybe more than men.

Women are animals, like you and I. They are equals, not flowers or goddesses.

Do you want to date an attractive woman with a history of sex, who craves sexual things (IE, attraction to other guys?), or do you want purity, in the form of an obese nun?

Take your pick, because you can't have both. Women on the 8/9/10 scale have sex. They like it. they fuck their girlfriends when they get drunk. They fantasize about all kinds of dirty shit, and some act on it.

My gf of two years went out to the bars two weeks ago and brought home a 24 year old model. I gave her a green light for a girl hookup. This girl (let's call her "C") said hi to me for the first time ever, then went upstairs with my gf to our room. I waited downstairs. The girls come back down in lingerie, and ask me to film them. I do...and the girl right away tells me this has been her fantasy for a long time. We all have ridiculously filthy sex. Then I find out the girl lives with a guy.

Now, read that for a second.

What did "C" want? I later found out her bf was not rough enough, or dirty enough in bed. So she sought it elsewhere.

Women are not princesses.

What you should do my friend, is sexualize your insecurities. Flip them into something positive.

don't look at the heartbreak you received by being cheated on as hurtful. Look at it as a sexually curious woman seeking to have pleasure. Look at the context. We are all on a floating ball of rock, surrounded by a void of nothing. We are all going to die. Do you want to be the one who embraces fucking in the limited time we have, or do you want to mope and wither away?

Do you want to learn to control your insecurity? I talk A LOT on here about being emotionally-centered, and mastering your emotions. this is the key to keeping women in your life.

Go to a club with your girl. Let her pick out a guy to dance with. Tell her to dirty dance with him if she's feeling it.

Watch them.

You will feel the jealousy, the insecurity rising up in you. This is where you learn to channel negative emotions into positive. Sexualize it. Note how hot your girl looks doing her own thing, how good of a dancer she is, and how she likes it.

And be good with it.

Because why?

Because people fuck. Because we are here for such a short time. Because freedom is hot. And because, motherfucker, your a god damn secure man! If she leaves you, ten more women are lined up. Know why?

Because you're emotionally-centered.

Because you understand that sex, is just sex.

There are levels to this, my friend. You can be the jedi or the bull elk, or the guy who mopes. Your choice.

captainVSI · 2018-01-28T05:05:01+00:00

As it’s been said: abundance is the cure.

“Cheating” as it were, isn’t cheating until both parties are in an agreed upon committed relationship. Not an “assumed” commitment but a verbally agreed upon one. If you’re dating or hanging out or whatever non-committal term is used these days, then everyone is up for grabs.

Title	I've got some insecurity issues
Author	justcallmedudedude
Upvotes	57
Comments	20
Date	January 27, 2018 11:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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