MILF guide?

poopyfarts · 2013-11-03T20:59:33+00:00

Currently dating a 34 year old (I'm 25) I'll say older women are much less drama, as long as they don't have family/kids around. I can't speak for women in their 40s and up, but I notice women in their 30s know what they want and really aren't that different from 20-somethings.

They don't care about the games, you just need to be sweet, confident, and charming. Don't try to pretend you're older than you are, because then she might aswell date an older man. Being with older women I find I can more be myself and they tend to be attracted to positive, unique, and uplifting personalities. Everyone is really, but age and maturity starts to make the bullshit fade away.

Less insecurity, they don't need men to make them feel good about themselves, they aren't trying to take advantage of you or social situations as much through their looks. Honestly so far, I like dating 30-somethings more than girls in their younger 20s. Way less drama.

As for approaches, I find they work out so much better. Really just be yourself, be straightforward, and don't be a dick. I don't escalate things any quicker than they are naturally. Be confident, strong body language, smile, ask questions, show interest in her life, make her laugh and feel good about herself, find common interests, simple shit.

You're young, ambitious, and full of energy...pitch it. Now you're making me want to go find me another cougar.

subscribeaccount · 2013-11-03T19:03:21+00:00

oh boy, when i was in my mid-twenties i was almost obsessed with mature women. from my expierience they know what they want and are not down to play any mind games or shit tests, which is great! but you have to be more clear and direct with your intentions. dont fear rejections, more mature women are down to fuck younger guys than you think. its a win-win situation for everyone! thank you, you brought back memories and now im horny!

nobody2000 · 2013-11-03T22:12:58+00:00

Not a guide, but a retroactive [FR]. I was 20 and I (inadvertently) gamed a professor of mine. I tried to break it up into how I did it, as I'm 27 now, and have only been looking into seduction for the last year or so.

http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/1n765b/have_any_of_you_successfully_gamed_older_women/ccfzyej

hypermx · 2013-11-03T20:21:42+00:00

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DirtyProjector · 2013-11-04T05:02:29+00:00

I slept with 3 women in their 40's+ in my 20's. It's great because they are more forward, and you don't have to play games, but it's still difficult to know who to approach. I find as I get older, older women are becoming less interested (even though I am much more attractive now than I was in my 20's). That being said, they are horny, and they are giving. One woman used to buy me things and cook me food every time we hooked up. I miss it...

letsgocrazy · 2013-11-03T20:47:04+00:00

I think when a older woman wants a younger man she wants a younger man, so if you act and dress and behave like someone her own age, then where's the fun in that?

You need to be young and vibrant, and also clever with a decent sense of humour.

Be able to be young and frivolous, but also be able to be clever and interesting to talk to.

BigSwedenMan · 2013-11-03T22:41:41+00:00

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jungle-boy · 2013-11-04T04:12:20+00:00

Ok, where's a great place to find them/approach?

jimmyjoejimbob · 2013-11-03T20:45:51+00:00

I saw what happened when a guy blew it with one on Friday night, she was good to go and sending out the signals. Long story short, he behaved like an entitled douche and she ended up back at the place of the ones my friend I were with and was cool enough to not block her friends in the process.

Basically, treat them with respect and don't be a dick. They will tell you to take a long walk off a short plank or take a running jump at the nearest power pole. If you treat them well then they will invite you back for more on their terms.

This was the second time I hooked up with this one and she had only fessed up to her friends that we were intimate on her couch an hour before I turned up at the bar. She saw me and ditched the much taller than I AFC who had been putting in the groundwork and the drinks all night and then paraded me around to her friends. The benefits of working hard at the gym means that if you have a hard body, they will appreciate it and it makes your game easier.

HuskyPandaBear · 2013-11-03T17:36:55+00:00

Dude I'm so with you on this one!

pound_bloody_pussy · 2013-11-03T19:00:53+00:00

Go more direct and you can tone the game down a bit with them. You don't have to be OMG SO FUCKING ALPHA like the overzealous PUAs suggest in my experience with them. But that said they don't like a pussy just like any other chick doesn't.

Radioactive24 · 2013-11-04T01:20:30+00:00

I'll tell you what; it's actually exactly the same. Confidence, kino, being sexual. All of it. You literally apply it in the same fashion as you would any other woman.

It's pretty much how I ended up sleeping with my friend's mom. Looking back (this was before I was on reddit), I can see I did all the things that seddit tells you to do; self-confidence, kino, being overtly sexual when appropriate, etc. It kinda fell into my lap too, but keep the basic techniques and you can do it pretty much the same. The real difference is her mentally. It's a different level to work with as, well, they obviously have lived more life than some 18-21 year old girl at a college party.

thepornacct · 2013-11-04T12:35:10+00:00

Cougars just want to feel young again, and they don't get too many chances to go out so they are just as desperate to F close as you. Treat them like a lady your age, and you'll do fine.

Oh and when she invariably asks you how old you think she is, say "Old enough to party ;-)" That will avoid you having to guess a higher/lower age.

Mouthpiece · 2013-11-04T14:45:12+00:00

Generally, you can be more direct with your intentions, although older women tend to be sophisticated enough to read signals louder, so you don't need to be explicit.

I favor the opinion approach: "I'm looking for a female opinion on this. What do you think of women who date slightly younger men?" Say it with confidence a big grin. She'll know what you're asking. She's either DTF or she's not, and she'll definitely let you know.

joshsway · 2013-11-04T16:19:05+00:00

More or less, I game as I normally would. This class of women are usually the easiest because you are already disqualified as much more than a "play thing" right off the bat. If I had to pick a style, id say direct game works best in my experience, but really, I don't find it's a hugely different type of game vs what you would normally do.

Mertwented · 2013-11-04T17:08:00+00:00

I've always debated in my head whether going after much older women would be worth it, I guess it would be kind of hot as long as she was still in good shape because they would be more experienced, will put you through less shit and are probably very horny.

However I then think of the reality, I would be a 20 year old virgin fucking a 30-40 year old who has a child, who is a full blown adult with plenty of life experience compared to me who is basically still a child, it just seems to make me feel uneasy about the whole thing added to the social stigma of it from peers if anyone found out. Another thing i'm asking myself is if I'm lusting after older women from time time to time because I don't want to face up to my lack of success with girls my own age, although that could just be a theory.

After all that even if I wanted to go through with it 100% there's the logistics, the way I see it good looking cougars/MILF's are much easier as long as they find you physically attractive, they don't want to be gamed by some average looking guy no matter how good your game is, they want to cherrypick a hot young guy to fuck and they have plenty to choose from.

johnnynoname12 · 2013-11-05T12:29:38+00:00

milf and cougars ARE NOT mutually exclusive so get your terms right

ex- a sexy 21 year old with a kid is a milf ex 2- a sexy 45 year old woman may not have had kids

anyway- when dealing with older broads I'll tell you that it is like shooting fish in a barrel for me....not bragging but just telling the truth

how do I do it? Well- I'm kinda like one of those "jersey d-bag" types the physique, the tan, the hair- the whole 9 where girls my age abhor me I LITERALLY have had to push women in there 40's away from me

shit- this weekend I got sexually harassed several times by older broads at my restaurant job

again- not bragging just telling the truth

tl:dr- be in good shape and tan and you'll be swatting sexy older broads off like crazy tl;dr part 2- Cougars are by far the EASIEST women to "pull"......even the most inexperienced guy can get a hot cougar i expect alot of downvotes but I can tell a lie, guys

sedditdee · 2013-11-03T20:57:01+00:00

Santabot wrote: Anybody have a guide or helpful procedure for picking up MILF / cougar / experienced women?

Depends on the actual age, marital status and logistics (divorced? separated? childless? living with children? sharing custody of kids with the Omnipresent Other Guy, a.k.a. the father of the kids?) of the woman you're talking about. The terms you used can apply to any woman over 25, depending on who you ask.

Title	MILF guide?
Author	Santabot
Upvotes	142
Comments	30
Date	November 3, 2013 5:32 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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