My experience with EDM shows

itisthumper · 2014-09-11T17:39:59+00:00

"You're very attractive and you should dance with me,"

That made me lol

Haber_Dasher · 2014-09-11T19:28:17+00:00

You failed because of a fundamentally different mindset at EDM clubs vs. regular night clubs. At a dance club no one is there to pick up or get picked up, they are there to hear their favorite style of music in a setting where they can let loose and rock out. In fact, part of that letting loose is specifically from knowing they can do so comfortably without worrying that anyone will be hitting on them and without concern for how they look.

That's why those girls were happy to dance with you but then left - as far as they were concerned you are like them, there to listen to your favorite music. They were happy to share that with you for a few minutes but they didn't go out that night with the possibility of getting picked up in mind. That's also why you had better success the second time - when you let go and just rocked out for yourself (and not for anyone watching you), you fit right in and girls were comfortable sharing that with you for longer.

I don't recommend using EDM shows/clubs for pick up. If people notice you're running game there they will not be happy about it, in fact at the right club you could probably get yourself kicked out for it. Do what you're going to do, but know that the majority of the time these clubs are considered by their patrons as sort of 'safe zones' - places they can go just for the music to specifically avoid being at a bar/club surrounded by people running pickup game and trying to get laid.

Source: being a part of that dance scene for years. As an anecdote, just last week at a local House club I heard a girl telling her friend (who was there for the first time) "just relax and don't worry so much! If you go up and dance with that guy (pointed at my friend) he won't even try to grind with you, he'll probably just smile and keep dancing!" And that's exactly what happened because that's how it's supposed to work. :-)

callumrulz09 · 2014-09-11T19:27:16+00:00

When ever I go to a concert, especially an EDM concert, I only go to enjoy the artist/artists that I've paid to see. Unless I have gone with a girl, I couldn't give a crap who I'm dancing with. For me at least it's all about enjoying the moment, the atmosphere & the music. If a girl starts grinding on me or giving signals obviously I'm not going to say no..

CompleteN00B · 2014-09-11T18:10:21+00:00

This is a post about dancing with girls. At an EDM show. Where everyone is dancing, and probably high asf. :/

slappywhyte · 2014-09-11T16:27:34+00:00

Music & Dancing is basically a universal aphrodisiac, particularly to women

Muscularpants · 2014-09-11T18:10:19+00:00

A failure isn't a failure from now, it's a failure from an hour ago.

+1

alucard4571 · 2014-09-11T19:49:26+00:00

On a side note, if you actually like music, scene, etc. you should take up gloving.

A) It's loads of fun and a great way to participate in the scene and

2) Gloving at an EDM show with a halfway decent sense of game is like easy mode

Mindsink · 2014-09-11T15:55:02+00:00

Makes sense. Good points.

DivineIntervention · 2014-09-12T02:00:40+00:00

Did we really need a video of a guy taking advantage of girls on ecstasy to learn pickup? This is stupid:

This isn't what the EDM scene is about. It never was.
Getting girls to dance with you, even make out with you at a rave is so easy that if you can't do it you need to just stop everything you're living for right now and start over from square 1: the womb.
He's an asshole for bashing people who use drugs, especially at a music festival. People go to those events to safely enjoy a culture of music, drug use and love without fear of judgment. That's scumbag behavior to act holier than thou.

Ever consider that if the music is too loud for you to have a meaningful conversation with them that you should either take it to a chillout room or just stop trying to pick up women in a place where they go to not be picked up? I have very little against the pick up community as a whole, always been supportive of the core message of making better men for the women of the world, but this is just fucking bullshit.

Radicalmattitude1 · 2014-09-11T20:30:44+00:00

Very well put!

Iv been doing this for a while now without realizing it, but Tyler hits it home.

A very important idea he mentions is how so many guys show up at the club with an agenda and come off as creepy. It's a deadly cycle:

-You show up at the club , you jump in and talk to some girls, it doesn't go well cause you just showed up and your not having fun. Then you get butt hurt cause you got rejected and are having less fun. You try again and it goes even worse. Now you're having even less fun. You try to drink more to "loosen up" and you get drunk and pissed off...

Who the fuck wants to be around that guy?

Don't be a value leech!

Hot girls are a commodity at loud clubs, guys want them and ugly girls want to be them.

So your mission is to be MORE fun and bring MORE value to the table.

If you have a favourite club or you're going to a specific party, show up at a different venue first to pump your state. Talk to people, get blown out, dance and be silly, get the shakes out, get yourself all loosie Goosie

Then you walk in ad bring the REAL party with you

glitch0 · 2014-09-12T02:34:38+00:00

Molly and sex don't mix, it lowers your libido and makes you want to connect with people, not fuck them.

jumpingjupiters · 2014-09-11T14:17:37+00:00

I have to watch this.....one day when I won't be working for a corporation, I will be able to watch youtube videos. I hardly have the time to do this anymore...when I get home after 8 hours of work...wait, I don't even go home anymore, it's either sarging the streets with my gang or going at my girlfriend's place to fuck her...hell, I don't even have time to watch my favorite 30 minute show....after I sarge with my gang, I'm usually too filled with energy to be able to last more than let's say 10 minutes of a youtube video because I just black out in God Mode. Not to mention, the street workout that happens every now and then, heck I can even hear my laptop screaming to me to come back to her and stop being such a GOOOOOOOOOD!!

Title	My experience with EDM shows
Author	Muscularpants
Upvotes	66
Comments	28
Date	September 11, 2014 2:06 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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