Never had game before. I'm 31

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-02-12T23:55:49+00:00

Yes it is possible. Will it take a lot of time, trial, error and the more patianece than you ever have had to have? Yes. Understand that ocne you start it will be months of trial and error, getting rejected every weekend before you get your first yes, or before you consistently get yeses. You will go through rollercoaster of being proud of yourself for even talking to a girl, to annoyed you can't get a call back or laid even though you did everything right and even made out with the girl. It's not easy. But once you are past that and start getting a good streak you will thank the heavens you decided to go through that.

I started trying around age 26. It took me a good 6 months of consistently going out to bars/clubs, approaching, changing my mindset, etc. To get good at this. Here are tips that helped me:

- First off, you have to increase the opportunities of meeting people (men and women). I would say start changing your routine. Whatever youa re doing now isnt getting you girls so you need to start doing things that make you more insterested. Because you have a routine that has provben that you wont get a GF with. Maye you do but the odds are low. WHen i was younger i was always hanging around family. WHo was i going to meet with family? nobody. Maybe try a networking event, download the meetup app (it's an app meant for people to meet), hell go to dating events (jigsaw, bumble irl, etc) . And in those events walk up and talk to people. The idea is to get comfortable with meeting strangers because for any GF you get, she will be a stranger at one point. The idea is to have a converation with someone and expect nothing in return. To get comfortable with the idea of meeting someone new. Becuase once you expect something or hope for a number and make that the goal of a conversation you come off as desperate. Make your goal to meet new poeple, again guy or girl. If you enjoy a conversation, get their number. Then on the weekend try to organize a get together adn text everybody. Even if only men show up that's a new connection that could lead you to another connection with a girl.

- Know that social skills is the #1 way to get a girl. For me i used to walk up to a girl and be nervous and try to be really nice to them to get them to like me. That doesnt work becuase it is not genuine. I was acting like i wanted to be their friend when in reality i didnt. So what i started to do was treating them mor elike bros. Like id make jokes like i was shooting the shit with my friends. If she made a snarky remark, i responded with a snarky remark but i made it playful. I also hyped them up. If i saw a girl wearing a hat, id hype it up and tell her how good it looks and even ask where she got it from. Because that's probably an outfit choice that she wasnt sure would do well or not so im giving her that validation.

- How you look does help too. The better you look the less personality ou need but dont think that getting a 6 pack will get girls to kiss your feet. You still have to have personality. It's not about wearing clothes that fit, it's about waring clothes that make you look good. If you have any females ask them what you look good in. For me a lot of women said i looked good in black, wearing hats and growing my beard. So i did all 3. You dont ahve to break the bank, go to old navy and amazon. I bought a really good bomber jacket from amazon that i love from an off brand compoany. Everybody says i look good in it. Wear cologne more often. Smell goes a long way for women. You want to be the guy that women say "he always smells good". If you dont, get a good haricut (most likely a skin fade). Grow a beard if you can.

- Go where the single girls are at. Maybe you dont like this but you gotta go to bars/clubs and take risks. I hated these places because i fell for the whole "you can't find a wife" in these places. But actually you can, good girls like tpo party too. I didnt like to drink either but i decided to try it out and i enjoy it now. I dont love it but i enjoy it. Invite friends to do it.

- DOnt lean on friend for conversation. When you get to a party or get togheter. Dont immediately just stay near your friends all night. Branch out, meet new poeple that's what these parties are for. Girls like a guy who can be a social butterfly and seem like he doesnt need other people for his own enjoyment.

ac2334 · 2026-02-12T23:01:32+00:00

like anything else, you’ll get better through practice

burncushlikewood · 2026-02-13T02:30:21+00:00

Generalized question, maybe try and break down your strengths and weaknesses, what you need to work on, and look intrinsically. I suggest you get a booklet of paper and write stuff down, I wish I had done that earlier. How many women have you approached? Do you prefer night game or day game? How are your communication skills? Are you charismatic and funny, do you struggle with kino and escalation, are you better at the middle beginning or end. If you make a goal to do 100 approaches in a month, write down your whole situation after each interaction.

Matter_Still · 2026-02-13T15:22:16+00:00

What is it you expect from it?

EddyStarkFit · 2026-02-13T20:23:07+00:00

Yes it is. I got to the game quite later and can affirm maturity comes with it's perks. Aim for naturality, open as much as possible and expect normal human interactions, outcome dependency is poison. This will get you the best result IMO.

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ResentCourtship2099 · 2026-02-14T10:57:04+00:00

Yep men are the only gender that have to know all the skills

ThrowRA_fajsdklfas · 2026-02-14T19:24:11+00:00

37, whole new person recently.

My best recommendation is get out and do as many social events as possible. Meet guys, learn to talk to them and joke around with them. Hangout, get their numbers to hangout and grab a drink or shoot the shit.

Networking/mixers are hard at first, but being able to go up to other guys and introduce yourself is not much different than doing it to women. Starting with talking to guys will generally be easier as you’re not physically interested in them if you’re a hetereo male.

I’ve read plenty of the books…to be honest most of them are common sense. You’re not going to learn to socialize from a book, you just need to get out there.

ImpossibleWaiting · 2026-02-13T14:09:38+00:00

Yes, takes about 1 year to understand the basics, 2 to get confident, 3 to get really good. That's if you're constantly trying to improve

Title	Never had game before. I'm 31
Author	anubhav23
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Date	February 12, 2026 10:47 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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